Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective

August 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:

• Coming clean about faking orgasms
• Wanting wife to wear a diaper
• Wet and messy / humiliation fetish
• Is oral sex a measure of love?
• Married and lonely
• Chastity play
• Sex outdoors
• Pre-orgasmic wife

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Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• Coaching
• Married Sex - Gary Thomas and Debra Feileta (book)
• Intimacy Ignited - Dillow, Dillow, Pintus and Pintus (book)
• Becoming more sexually engaged - For Christian wives (course)
• Introduction to talking dirty (ebook)

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Who is more righteous? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

A reader posed the following question:

There are two people. The first person participates in the modern Sexual Marketplace by dating around, having a series of mid-to-long-term relationships that involve sex, and having a few hookups, but ends up in a stable marriage and has children by his mid-to-late twenties. The second person follows Biblical Courtship (or whatever you want to call it), saves sex for marriage, only courts/dates Christians, but never finds a spouse and ends up as a 40-year-old childless virgin.

Who was the more righteous of the two?

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• Anonymous have a question page
• SWM 063 - Sermon - It's all worth it

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May and June 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:

• Crossdressing
• Counseling not fixing her sex drive
• Should I keep fantasies to myself?
• Husband addicted to porn
• Wife has no sex drive
• FaceTime sex
• Spouse's facial and body hair
• Does Viagra work for women?
• How do I stop her from seeing me as submissive?
• No sex due to pregnancy complications
• Wife struggles with overeating
• How do I stop masturbating?
• Anal fisting

Christmas is coming up, and that means people are starting to get excited about our Intimacy Advent Calendar - a great way to add some intimacy to the holidays. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• The Lion Within AMA with Jay Dee - November 22nd, 8pm EST
• Is it wrong for Christians to crossdress?
• Why masturbation is a problem, whether you’re married or single
• What happened to my sex drive? (ebook)
• Can you divorce a spouse because of porn use?
• Is it okay to engage in pegging in a Christian marriage?

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Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review.  They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage.  You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

How do you know if you've had an orgasm? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

If the number of women who reach orgasm from penetrative sex is as low as the surveys that you mention say it is, how would a couple know if the woman is one of those that doesn't orgasm with penetration? For context, I have been married to my wife for 13 years and we have 5 children...I would say our sex life isn't dry but we aren't all that creative. There have been things that I have suggested doing and have tried but she has told me that they make her uncomfortable (things like me using my hands to pleasure her or go down on her). I think there may be something connected to past experiences with masturbation and the guilt that came with that as a teen...but I have taken the position of wanting to serve and honor her so I haven't pushed it. So, for the past 13 years, we have kind of been doing the same thing once every other week or so. A part of me wonders if the lack of desire on her part is because she hasn't ever really had an orgasm...but that raises the other question of how are we to know? Kind of a silly question I guess, but something I have been pondering while listening to your podcast. Thanks.

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• Anonymous have a question page
• Your definition of gross changes when you're aroused/

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April 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:

• Is it okay to masturbate as a widow?
• Explaining romance and foreplay
• Is it unreasonable to expect both spouses to enjoy sex?
• Is my wife really having an orgasm?
• Is it wrong to want to be more adventurous?
• Wife got upset when asked for more frequent sex
• Is mutual masturbation wrong in marriage?
• Nipple orgasms

Last month, our most popular resource was Our Sexploration List - a great way to start a conversation about your sexual preferences with your spouse. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• Is it sinful for widows to masturbate?
• Truth or Dare (free game)
• Sexy Marriage game (printable)
• Christian Fiendly Sex Positions
• Intimacy Ignited (book)
• Is mutual masturbation okay for married Christians?
• Mutual Masturbation Survey Results

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Thank you to all our faithful champions!

If you'd to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/month makes a difference!

Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review.  They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage.  You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

March 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:

• Husband who gets defensive about possible porn use
• Did I change my mind about anal sex?
• How to I tell my wife that more sex helps with temptation?
• Is mutual masturbation okay if you're separated due to work?
• Haven't been able to have sex for 4 years due to vaginismus
• Friend can't have sex with his wife because of prior porn use
• Is a panty fetish a problem?
• Wife hates being pregnant and being a mother

Last month, our most popular resource was Our Sexploration List - a great way to start a conversation about your sexual preferences with your spouse. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• Becoming More Sexually Engaged - for Christian Wives
• Free webinar - August 5th, 2002, 9 pm Eastern
• Is anal sex a sin?
• The dual control model
• Mutual Masturbation
• Mutual Masturbation Survey Results

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If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.

Thank you to all our faithful champions!

If you'd to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/month makes a difference!

Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review.  They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage.  You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

February 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:

• Fix the alcohol abuse before trying to fix your sex life
• Wife who has hourly mood swings and is disrespectful
• Wife who engages in sex, but isn't sexual
• Oxytocin and porn and masturbation
• Wife wants husband to get a vasectomy
• Clone-a-willy question

Last month, our most popular resource was Our Sexploration List - a great way to start a conversation about your sexual preferences with your spouse. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• How does porn use harm a marriage
• The effect of oxytocin on the anthropomorphism of touch
• Question 9 - Wife who is not attacted to her husband
• Question 5 - Clone-a-willy
• Buy your own clone-a-willy

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Thank you to all our faithful champions!

If you'd to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/month makes a difference!

Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review.  They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage.  You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

My Vasectomy Experience. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

Last month someone emailed me telling me just how amazing they were doing after going through our Sexploration List.  I posted some of their testimonial on social media (with permission).  You may have seen it.

During their email, they also asked some questions, which I wanted to pick up here.  Here’s the continuation of that testimonial:

But as we chuckled about 9 consecutive days of sex... we both paused...We are 42 and 43 yrs young...  Having another child is not something we feel God is prompting us to do.  We very clearly felt His timing for all 4 kids.  We do not feel any direction that way right now. And so... the V-word crossed both our lips. At the same time. Vasectomy. And I'm not sure what to do… Natural Family Planning is hard when we are keeping each other aroused daily, lol.

Your post about your surgery is 5+ years old.... any updates, additional thoughts, additional things to research?  Is there a certain "technique" we should look into (stitches vs something else I read about briefly?)  dare I ask, has it affected your faith? We are Southern Baptist raised, and raising our kiddos Baptist/ non-denominational. In other words, denomination is not a factor in this decision. But there are so many opinions out there, I’m at a loss. I know that is what they are, just opinions. At this point, if I spend time in prayer and the Lord brings me peace... I’m going to trust God to give my husband the same peace. If not, we will go another route.

As the wife, even if we are both pro-vasectomy, I just don’t know how our relationship would handle the guilt if something did go wrong…. - Lydia

There’s an old joke that goes "What do you call people who practice Natual Family Planning?" The answer is "Parents" That's how we became a family of 5 kids.

So, today I’m going to share an update about what marriage is like post-vasectomy.

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• What would be on your vasectomy wishlist?
• So Simple Vasectomy - No Scalpel Vasectomy
• Is masturbation for medical reasons okay?
• Is it alirght to ejaculate on my wife?
• "A selfish alteration of someone else's creation" thread

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January 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:

• Low Drive / Low T Husband
• Wife won't talk about sex
• Not attracted to my husband
• Wife against spicing up sex
• Is there a difference between having sex and making love?

Last month, our most popular resource was Our Sexploration List - a great way to start a conversation about your sexual preferences with your spouse. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• Free ebook - Where did my sex drive go?
• Becoming More Sexually Engaged - A Course for Christian Wives
• Book - Intimacy Ignited
• Forum Discussion - What is sex?

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If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.

Thank you to all our faithful champions!

If you'd to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/month makes a difference!

Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review.  They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage.  You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

Sex with a well endowed husband. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

Today we’re going to answer a question about having sex with a well-endowed husband. This question came in a while ago, and since I hadn’t answered it before and I felt there was a lot of information to share, I thought I’d split it off into its own post. So, let’s talk about the struggles of having a larger-than-average-sized penis.

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I’ve been listening to your podcast for about a month and I’ve been so pleasantly surprised. Often I think sex-positive Christians have very poor theology and don’t hold up scripture as an authority and I’m so grateful to have a resource that feels trustworthy. I’ve been married for a few years now, and before I got married I was a virgin as was my wife. Before getting married I thought that my penis size was going to be a huge asset. I’m fairly large in both length and girth. Unfortunately, my size seems to be more of a hindrance than a benefit. Even with lots of foreplay and lube my wife is often sore afterwards, so even if she is in the mood, we have to wait until she’s no longer sore. Some positions have become off-limits for fear of hitting her cervix. She is usually unable to have an orgasm with me inside even if I primarily am just providing manual stimulation. It doesn’t feel good to be told to pull out and only use my hand, but I do want her to feel good so I gladly do it. Oral sex rarely happens because her jaw is often sore later. In general, I’m very satisfied with our sex life, but I often feel bad about my size, that it makes sex worse for her, but it also limits the things we’re able to do together. So I guess my question is, what advice do you have for bigger guys? I feel like I’m doing what I can to help, including just ordering the thrust buffer that you mentioned in another episode. Waiting for that to arrive. Anything to help with penetrative or oral sex? Or do I just accept that sex will always take a bit more work? I know that God made my body good and that I should love it, but sometimes it’s hard to love the penis he gave me when it seems to cause problems.