This week Carla Wilmaris is back with recurring guest, Paola and a special guest, Mac “The Therapist”. We get deep this week, so grab some wine, a notebook, some tissues, whatever you need because we are going right into it. We are talking about Narcissism. We started the conversation with statistics and how 1 in every 16 Americans has been affected by someone with NPD, then broke down the differences between traits and the disorder. We went down the rabbit hole, and all I can say is buckle up, this is part one to a very necessary conversation we needed to have.

What You’ll Hear:

• What is Narcissism? Or Narcissistic Personality disorder (NPD).
• How the rise of social media is feeding into the pandemic of narcissism
• A narcissistic individual is the opposite of authenticity, they are not able to see what they do to other people
• 80% of males show narcissistic traits
• Is it genetic or caused by upbringing?
• Nature vs. nurture
• Empathy is the ability to feel for others, narcissist can rationalize empathy- from the mouth out
• We now found a language for the term; people have been abused for years and now we have the words for it all
• The social media boom is breeding narcissistic tendencies
• The difference between traits and the disorder
• Plus, much more…

Quote/ Bible verse for this week:

• Isaiah 61:1- “The Spirit of the Lord is upon me because God has anointed me to bring good news to the poor… to bind up the brokenhearted.

Connect with Our Guest

Link to website: https://www.therapyisforeveryone.org/

Link to Relationship Card Deck: https://www.therapyisforeveryone.org/love-unlocked

Therapy is For Everyone,

Mac Stanley Cazeau, LMHC

Website: www.Therapyisforeveryone.org

Email: [email protected]

IG: @Talk2Mac_Therapist

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We’re back! We started this episode with reading some questions that were submitted by our amazing listeners. The questions were amazing and set the tone for this episode to start talking about how life is scary, but its ok to lean into asking for help. We touched on how men are now somewhat intimidated of women, they are dominating in a lot of different areas of the money-making industry. I also spoke on how God has been orchestrating the last 3 month of my life and letting him take control because he knows what is best for me. Finally, we delve into the topic for this week, practicing self-care and love.

What You'll Hear:

• Hold on to your expectations, and do not lower them for no one.
• You cannot force anyone to do anything, even if its to make them better
• Therapy is meant to help you not hurt you
• God-sent friends
• Practicing self-care and love, we touch on the amazing spa days
• Journaling 
• Wanting peace, and unlearning how you thrive in chaos 
• Men saying a soft man (Russell Wilson) is square and unpopular
• Grieving the loss of the idea I thought I had in a relationship
• Feeling like having more purpose as a woman
• What commitment looked like 50 years ago, old fashion and traditional
• I am a partner not a maid

Quote/ Bible verse for this week:

• Psalm 46:5- God is within her she will not fall; God will help her at break of day.

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Today we have KBJ Energy!

Congratulations to Ketanji Brown Jackson on being appointed to the Supreme court. 

This week’s episode we start off with my reservations of turning 35 this year. I realize that I am grieving the thought of where I thought I was going to be, and what didn’t happen or will happen based on changes that have happened in the past almost 2 months. Then dive into this week’s episode, elevating past people’s trauma.  I am now all about BOUNDARIES, at 34 almost 35 I need PEACE.

• What you will hear this week:
• Turning 35 this year
• Grieving loss of what was and where I am now
• The different people around us that are dealing with trauma
• Setting boundaries for yourself, and taking care of yourself first
• Friendships that respect boundaries 
• People who thrive in chaos and negativity
• Loving people from afar
• Therapy helped me understand I wasn’t the problem
• The changing relationship with my mother now with limitations
• You need to work on your emotional intelligence

 

Bible verse for this week:

1 Peter 5:6-7 Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

Send your questions/advice letters to [email protected]

Listen to EP 59 An Open Letter to My Mother 

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I’m back like I never left! And I have my amazing friend, Paola back for another episode.

This week I want to talk about my journey. You have all been with me from corporate, to leaving and starting Shit I’m 30! to saying I didn’t want anymore kids, to getting into a new relationship and being in love, to not now a newly single mom and entrepreneur.

 

As women we are very judgmental of ourselves and I’m starting to paint a new canvas, reinventing myself as a woman, a mom, and entrepreneur. I’m learning it’s time to put myself first, the future holds happiness for me.

 

The saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy. -Robin Williams

 

What You’ll Hear:

• Painting a new canvas
• Why are women so judgmental and hard on themselves
• Therapy is a non-negotiable for me right now
• The different points of view of how we express love
• I learned about my feelings, and now I’m an empath and I feel everything
• Learning to admit when you need help
• Being a parent in 2022, and doing what’s best for you and your child
• Communication and interpretation are two completely different things, and compromise is huge
• Feeling empty, sad, and depressed
• You cannot love someone to change, love is not enough
• Heartbreak after giving it everything

Quotes of the week:

The text disappears under interpretation- If someone says something to you and you interpret it a different way, what I was trying to tell you doesn’t matter anymore.

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I'M BACK! With a new purpose, a new sound, a new pivot. I am finding my purpose as a single mother of 2 and I know I have been gone for a while, but I’m back with a new voice, Paola who you will get to know in this new season of pivot. She is sitting here with me, and I know I met her at just the right time. Recently some things have been circulating on the internet, I asked for privacy but if we are going to talk about it, let say the TRUTH.   What You'll Hear: 

• What is tradition/ traditional marriage or relationship. • The healing I have been doing, sitting with my emotions, and discussing the different emotions we forget to name and feel when they are happening. • Things I did or do to make myself feel good vs. dealing with the emotions themselves. • Feeling emotions and observing them whether they are good, bad, or ugly. • Not everything deserves a reaction, I have gained control of my emotions/ reactions. • Learning to focus on the big picture. • Our therapy journey, and how religion fits into that. • How has my personal relationship with God has been my strength throughout this journey.

Three things that I learned from an article:

1. Sit with your emotions by noting what you are experiencing without judging. 2. Validate your emotions, accept them. 3. Focus on the present instead of wallowing in the experience or situation that triggered your feelings.

 

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My life revolves around my kids and my family and now it feels like the woman that I am is in prison.

My spirit got me out of bed and told me to vocalize what I am feeling today and in the coming weeks. 

Who is Carla today? Is she just a mom? Will she ever be a woman again?

Tune in and go on this journey again with me. It is not pretty but it is raw.

She's back! Pivot with Purpose is back and it ain't perfect. If she waited for perfection this episode would have never been released so LET'S TALK ABOUT IT!

How do we pivot when life has thrown all these curve balls and we thought we had it all figured out but we dont!

This week we will go over new segments of the show like Unconventional Side Hustles & start the documented journey of Carla's business and how she is expanding and learning from all of her mistakes.

Come on and join the ride.

Let's Pivot unapologetically and intentionally find our Purpose!

Connect with me

@carlawilmaris

www.carlawilmaris.com

 

 

It is time to Pivot. My vision has become so clear in the last 2.5 years and now I want to serve you in the new space that I'm in.

Today I will share the new vision and direction that Sh*T I'm 30 is going in and trust me it is NOT for the weak!!!