Softly Unfiltered

Softly Unfiltered

By Ashlyn & BlakeSociety & Culture
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Softly Unfiltered episodes

  • Beauty, Skin & Softness: Our Best Tips for Glowing Up Inside & Out
    In this episode of The Suburban Black Girl Podcast, we’re leaning into softness and self-care because beauty isn’t just about how you look, it’s about how you feel. We’re sharing our favorite skincare, makeup, and beauty tips that help us glow inside and out. This conversation blends the practical with the personal. Because for Black women especially, beauty can be both a form of self-expression and self-preservation.
    52 min
  • You Can Be Grateful and Still Want More: Holding Space for Ambition Without Guilt
    In this episode of The Suburban Black Girl Podcast, we’re unpacking a conversation that so many Black women need to hear: It’s okay to want more even when everyone around you is telling you to “just be grateful.” We’re talking about the subtle guilt that creeps in when your ambition makes others uncomfortable. The way society polices Black women’s desires and dreams. The constant tug-of-war between honoring your gratitude for what you’ve achieved, while refusing to settle for what no longer aligns. Because being thankful for where you are doesn’t mean you have to abandon where you’re going.
    46 min
  • Should Suburban Girls Date Exclusively Within Their Socioeconomic Class?
    In this episode of The Suburban Black Girl Podcast, we’re getting into the real behind romance, money, lifestyle, and love — asking the question: Should suburban-raised Black women date exclusively within their socioeconomic class? We unpack what it means to date across — or within — class lines, especially when you've grown up in middle or upper-middle class environments that come with access, ambition, and unspoken expectations. From being called “bougie” for having standards to feeling like you’re expected to settle for “potential,” we explore the nuances of compatibility vs. chemistry, respect vs. relatability, and love vs. lifestyle alignment. This episode goes beyond income — we’re talking cultural capital, emotional labor, ambition gaps, and how class quietly shapes everything from the way we communicate to what we expect from love, marriage, and partnership. Because when you're building legacy, peace, and wealth — should you build together, or find someone already standing on equal ground?
    51 min
  • Why Am I Always The Only Black Girl Here?
    In this episode of The Suburban Black Girl Podcast, we’re getting honest about the quiet weight of being “the only one” — the only Black girl in the classroom, at work, in the friend group, or at the table. From early moments of invisibility to the complex pressure of being seen as a representative for an entire community, we explore what it feels like to constantly navigate spaces that were never built with us in mind. We unpack the emotional labor of code-switching, shrinking, and performing just to be accepted — and the exhaustion that comes with always having to “keep it cute” in the face of ignorance or microaggressions. We also reflect on the suburban experience and how it shaped our sense of identity, belonging, and Blackness itself. This conversation is a space for softness, clarity, and reclamation — where we affirm that you don’t have to earn your right to exist fully and freely. Because being the only one shouldn’t mean being alone.
    49 min
  • Would You Rather? Black Girl Edition
    On Episode 29 of the Suburban Black Girl Podcast, we’re switching things up with a fun and unfiltered game of “Would You Rather: Black Girl Edition.” From beauty dilemmas and cultural moments to career choices and relationship curveballs, we’re putting ourselves in the hot seat with questions only Black women will truly understand. We’re choosing chaos, laughter, and honesty—one tough decision at a time.
    51 min
  • The Audacity to Be Yourself: The Power of Confidence as a Black Woman
    This week on the Suburban Black Girl Podcast, we're talking about the bold act of being fully yourself as a Black woman in a world that often expects otherwise. From breaking free of cultural expectations to redefining beauty and success on our own terms, we explore what it means to show up confidently—without apology. We also dive into setting boundaries without guilt, owning your voice in the workplace, and dating with self-assurance. If you've ever been made to feel like you're "too much" for simply being you, this episode is your reminder that your audacity is power.
    58 min
  • Friendship Breakups
    On Episode 27 of The Suburban Black Girl Podcast, we’re diving into the often unspoken heartbreak of friendship breakups. This week, we’re unpacking how we define friendship, the different roles our friends play in our lives, and what it really means to grow apart. From silent drifts to hard conversations, we’re getting honest about navigating the evolution—and sometimes the end—of friendships.
    56 min
  • Kam Williams on Reality TV, Motherhood, and Building a Brand Beyond the Screen
    This week on The Suburban Black Girl Podcast, we’re laughing, vibing, and getting real with reality TV star Kam Williams. Kam talks reality TV, finding true love, and motherhood as she shares her journey from growing up as a suburban Black girl to landing on national television and embracing life as a new mom. It’s a conversation full of laughs, insight, and heart — you won’t want to miss it.
    48 min
  • The Black Woman’s Corporate Struggle
    Today on the Suburban Black Girl podcast, we’re diving into the realities of the Black woman’s experience in corporate spaces — from the constant pressure to be twice as good, to the toll of burnout, and the uphill battle against systemic challenges. We’ll also explore how mentorship and community can be powerful tools for lifting each other up along the way.
    46 min
  • The Bad Boy Phase: A Suburban Black Girl Rite of Passage?
    This week on The Suburban Black Girl Podcast, we’re talking about the bad boy phase — that chapter so many suburban Black women go through. What is it about the edge, the chaos, the “fix him” fantasy that feels so familiar? Is it rebellion? Attraction? Or does it trace back to deeper questions around protection, validation, and identity? We’re breaking down the mindset behind the phase, why it hits so hard, and what it really means when you finally grow out of it (or keep going back). Let’s talk about it.
    50 min

About Softly Unfiltered

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Hosted by Ashlyn and Blake, two multifaceted Black women based in Houston, Softly Unfiltered is where soft meets honest. Each week, we get real about personal growth, healing, navigating corporate America, and the messy, funny, and complex realities of modern dating. From breaking generational cycles to finding our voice in spaces that weren't built for us, our conversations blend honesty, humor, and hard truths—all rooted in our lived experiences.

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