Why do boundaries always seem to come after the meltdown?
In this episode, we’re diving into what it really means to set boundaries before you're running on empty. We’ll explore the difference between reactive and proactive boundary-setting, how to recognize the early signs that you’re stretched too thin, and how to speak up without over-explaining or shutting people out. If you've ever felt like you're either saying yes to keep the peace or saying no in a panic, this episode is going to change the way you think about boundaries for good.

You might want to listen if:

• You say yes when you really mean no
• You shut down or lash out when you’re overwhelmed
• You feel like boundaries always create conflict
• You’re exhausted from managing everyone else’s emotions
• You want to speak your needs without guilt or fear

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Ever feel like no matter how calm you stay, certain people still push every button you have?
In this episode, I’m joined by the brilliant co-authors of Beyond Difficult, Dr. Jessie Stern and Rachel Samson. Together, we unpack why some people feel so hard to deal with and what’s actually going on under the surface of their behavior. From the science of attachment and temperament to the misunderstood truth about highly sensitive people, we explore practical ways to stay regulated, set boundaries, and communicate without losing your mind (or your compassion). Whether it’s your partner, a parent, or that one coworker... this episode will help you navigate difficult dynamics without making yourself the villain or the victim.

You might want to listen if:

• You feel overwhelmed or overstimulated in relationships
• You’ve been told you’re “too sensitive” (or wondered if it’s true)
• You struggle to stay calm around certain people, no matter how hard you try
• You want to stop personalizing difficult behavior but still hold boundaries
• You’re craving research-backed tools for managing conflict with more compassion

About Our Guests:

Dr. Jessie Stern

• Website: drjessiestern.com
• Instagram: @drjessiestern
• X (Twitter): @jessAstern

Rachel Samson

• Website: www.rachelsamson.co 
• Instagram: @australianpsychologist

Buy The Book BEYOND DIFFICULT 

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Ever opened up to someone… and then immediately regretted it?
You’re lying in bed, replaying everything you said, wondering if you were too much, said too much, or scared them off. That shame spiral? It’s not just in your head. In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly why we feel so gross after being vulnerable—and how to stop letting that shame run the show. We’ll talk nervous system reactions, trauma responses, and what it really means when you overshare. Plus, I’ll give you some practical tools to regulate in the moment and find safer containers to be seen (without spiraling the next day).

You might want to listen if:

• You constantly second-guess yourself after deep conversations
• You’ve felt a “vulnerability hangover” and didn’t know how to come down from it
• You grew up being told you were too much, too sensitive, or too emotional
• You overshare to feel close but end up feeling exposed instead
• You want to feel safe being seen, without the shame spiral after

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• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
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• Download your free Workbook: Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
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Can you really be a great mom without losing yourself in the process?
In this heart-opening episode, I sit down with parenting expert and somatic coach Vivian Meraki to talk about what it really means to parent through divorce. We unpack the pressure to be the “perfect mom,” the guilt that often follows us after a breakup, and how somatic awareness can help us show up for our kids and ourselves. Whether you’re navigating co-parenting, starting over, or just trying to hold it together, you are not alone. Vivian brings so much wisdom, warmth, and practical support to help you redefine motherhood on your own terms.

You might want to listen if:

• You feel like you’re constantly self-sacrificing and losing parts of yourself as a mom
• You’re trying to break generational parenting patterns but don’t know how
• You’re struggling with guilt or shame after a divorce
• You want to model confidence, resilience, and self-trust for your kids
• You’re curious about how somatic practices can support emotional healing

About Our Guest:

Vivian Meraki is an award-winning speaker, bestselling author, and trauma-informed parenting expert who helps parent leaders break generational cycles and deeply connect with the people and things that matter to them. A former corporate leader across startups, agencies, and consultancies—including the United Nations and several healthtech companies—Vivian left burnout behind in 2020 to say yes to a different kind of success: one rooted in self-trust, emotional safety, and connection that lasts.

Links:

• https://www.vivianmeraki.com/ 
• Follow Vivian on Instagram
• Grab Parenting Through Divorce on Amazon 

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Is it love... or are you just afraid to start over?
In this episode of Speak Honest, I'm answering the big, messy questions so many women ask themselves late at night. Am I settling? Is he really the one? What does secure love even feel like? I’m breaking it all down in a way that’s honest, compassionate, and actually helpful. Whether you're dating someone new or deep into a long-term relationship, this episode will help you sort through the confusion and get clear on what real, grounded love looks like.

You might want to listen if:

• You keep asking yourself, “Is this really it?”
• You feel stuck between staying or walking away
• You’re afraid to be alone or start over
• You’ve never seen a secure relationship modeled and don’t know what to look for
• You’re trying to feel content as a single woman but keep feeling like something’s missing

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Ever feel like you're finally healing... and then suddenly, you shut down or pull away from someone who’s actually good for you?
 In this vulnerable and eye-opening coaching call, I sit down with my client Sheryl to unpack what happens when avoidant attachment patterns sneak back in — especially in relationships that feel secure, healthy, or maybe even soulmate-level. We explore the push-pull of disorganized attachment, the spiral of rumination after conflict, and the tough question: do you fight for the connection or walk away? If you’ve ever felt yourself sabotage intimacy even when you don’t want to, this episode will hit home in the best way.

You might want to listen if:

• You keep attracting emotionally unavailable people and wonder why
• You’re trying to “be secure” but your avoidant side keeps hijacking the moment
• You’ve had a relationship end and can’t stop replaying what you should have done
• You’re not sure if you should give someone space or fight for the connection
• You want to open up but always end up feeling misunderstood or ashamed

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• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
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Ever feel like your attraction to someone might be more pain than passion?
In this Q&A episode, I’m answering listener-submitted questions that get to the heart of what so many of us struggle with in relationships. We’re diving into the difference between anxious attachment and intuition (spoiler alert: your intuition doesn’t panic-text six times in a row), unpacking what activating and deactivating strategies really look like, and taking a hard look at trauma bonds. I also talk about what to do when you're still emotionally or physically attracted to someone you know is bad for you and why that doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you.

You might want to listen if:

• You’re constantly questioning if it’s your intuition or your anxiety talking
• You keep texting even when you promised yourself you’d stop
• You feel stuck in a relationship that feels both intense and unsafe
• You rationalize someone’s hurtful behavior and blame yourself
• You don’t understand why you still want someone who treats you poorly

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• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
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Ever felt like you should be over your ex by now, but you can’t stop thinking about them? Wondered why you keep checking their stories, or worse, found yourself spiraling into a breakup rabbit hole of “what ifs” and “maybes”? In this honest and raw conversation, I sit down with breakup recovery coach Lucy Price to pull back the curtain on what really happens when we’re stuck in the heartbreak loop. We talk about the sneaky ways grief shows up after a breakup, why trying to win your ex back might be the wrong goal, and how to shift from obsessing over them to reclaiming you. This is a must-listen if you’re ready to get real about healing and stop wasting energy on someone who’s no longer in your life.

You might want to listen if:

• You can’t stop checking your ex’s social media and wondering what it means
• You’ve spent hours Googling “how to get my ex back” and feel stuck in the cycle
• You’re feeling more lost after a breakup you chose to end
• You’ve been told to “just cut him off” but it doesn’t feel that simple
• You’re ready to stop chasing him and start chasing your own healing

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What if exploring your identity wasn’t just allowed, it was celebrated?
In this episode, I’m opening up about my own pride story, not as a coach, but as a mom. I share what it’s been like raising my trans son, from his first coming out moment at nine years old to the joy of watching him grow into who he is today. You’ll hear how learning about pronouns rewired my brain, why phases aren’t something to be feared, and how creating space for identity exploration is one of the greatest gifts we can give our kids, and ourselves.

You might want to listen if:

• You’re raising or supporting a queer or trans child and want to show up with love
• You’re curious about how to navigate pronouns and evolving identities with respect
• You’ve been told something’s “just a phase,” and it stuck with you
• You want to break free from rigid expectations around gender and identity
• You believe in making space for people to grow, change, and be fully themselves

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• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
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Ever felt like you can’t tell if you’re ready to leave or just desperate for something to change?
In this raw and revealing conversation, I sit down with Dr. Becky Whetstone, also known as the “Marriage Crisis Manager,” to talk about what really happens when a relationship hits the point of "I think I want out." Whether you're in the middle of a marriage meltdown or quietly questioning everything, this episode is packed with insight, validation, and surprising hope. We talk about the nervous system’s role in emotional shutdown, why a separation doesn’t have to mean the end, and how responsiveness in a partner can make or break a relationship. Dr. Becky also shares her own story of starting over at 42 and why it’s never too late to grow emotionally and reclaim your sense of self.

You might want to listen if:

• You feel emotionally neglected and aren't sure how much more you can take
• You're thinking about separation but don’t know what that actually means
• You’ve been told you’re too emotional or too much in your marriage
• You’re the only one doing the work and it’s making you question everything
• You’ve wondered if your marriage is worth saving but don’t know where to start

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• Apply for FREE Coaching with Jenn
• Join the DANCE CIRCLE - Get updates on Jenn's debut book "Dance of Attachment"
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• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
• Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
• Download your free Workbook: Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
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DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health ...