Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma

What does it actually take to stop surviving and start truly living?

In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble sits down with award-winning social worker, educator, author, and founder of Eisenberg Leadership Solutions, Hal Eisenberg, for one of the most raw, real, and genuinely moving conversations the show has ever had. Hal shares the story behind his bestselling book Whispers in the Rain, his seven-year cancer journey that included a four-month prognosis, a spontaneous flight to Mexico, and yes, snake venom treatments, and how all of it led him to create the Whispers in the Rain Impact Tour, a four-day live experience built around storytelling, human connection, and community. Jenn and Hal also explore why face-to-face connection is becoming something we have to be intentional about, why there is always a story behind the story, and what it really means to build a tribe that lifts you higher.

You might want to listen if:

• You have been going through something hard and are looking for a reminder that the universe might actually have your back
• You are craving real, in-person community but are not sure where to find your people
• You believe storytelling is one of the most powerful ways humans connect and heal
• You are curious about the Impact Tour coming to Toronto and New York City this June
• You want permission to trust your gut even when it makes absolutely no logical sense

STAY CONNECTED

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• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

What do you do when a friend says "we need to talk" and every part of you wants to run?

In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble is back with Courtney for Part 2 of their live coaching series, and this one gets real. Courtney has a friendship confrontation on the horizon with someone who has historically made her feel like everything is her fault, and she is terrified. Jenn walks her through what is actually happening in her body before a hard conversation, why the fear is not the enemy, and how perfectionism and people pleasing are quietly running the show. They work through Jenn's three part framework from her bestselling book Dance of Attachment, regulate, validate, collaborate, and Courtney walks away with real tools she can use the moment things get heated. This is what live coaching actually looks like, messy, real, and incredibly powerful.

You might want to listen if:

• You feel anxious before difficult conversations with friends
• You tend to shut down or people please when you feel blamed
• You struggle with perfectionism in your relationships
• You want tools for emotional regulation in conflict
• You are working through anxious attachment patterns and friendship dynamics

STAY CONNECTED

• Join our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Is there a magic word that makes all your hidden parts just... show up?

In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble takes listeners inside a live, unscripted coaching session with Courtney, a woman who came in asking exactly that question. Together, they move through the real, non-linear process of parts work and Internal Family Systems (IFS), exploring what it looks like to find the parts of yourself you've locked away, meet the protector parts still working overtime to keep you safe, and begin to understand the gap between knowing you're worthy and actually feeling it in your body. From somatic affirmations and the window of tolerance to the sensation of healing that can only be described as moving through molasses, this conversation is raw, honest, and full of moments that will make you whisper "wait… that's me."

You might want to listen if:

• You understand your patterns but still can't stop repeating them
• You've tried affirmations and they feel hollow or disconnected
• You struggle with worthiness or feeling deserving of love
• You've been told to "let go" and have no idea how to actually do that
• Your emotions feel physical: heavy, frozen, or hard to breathe through

STAY CONNECTED

• Join our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Are you tired of trying to decode his behavior when the real answers might actually be about you?

In this episode of Speak Honest, Jenn Noble answers the attachment questions women ask her most inside the Speak Honest Community. These are the real ones. The ones rooted in overthinking at 2am, emotional shutdown after a beautiful weekend, and that desperate need to just be understood by someone you love. Jenn answers four listener questions with her signature warmth, zero fluff, and the kind of honesty that actually moves the needle on your healing.

You might want to listen if:

• You have been watching your ex check your stories and wondering what it actually means
• You had an amazing weekend with someone and then heard nothing for three days and completely spiraled
• You identify as disorganized attachment and cannot figure out why being misunderstood feels so unbearable
• You want to express your feelings without making your partner defensive or responsible
• You keep asking why HE does what he does instead of asking what YOU actually want

STAY CONNECTED

• Join our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

What if you could see your pattern coming from a mile away... and still couldn't stop it?

In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble wraps up the sixth and final recorded session with Cordelia, and it is one of the most powerful conversations in the series. Cordelia shows up on a hard week, feeling frustrated and heavy, and instead of skipping past it, Jenn takes her straight into the body. What unfolds is a deep somatic check-in where Cordelia's familiar "rock" in her chest does something it has never done before... it moves. From there, Jenn walks Cordelia through the science of neuroplasticity, somatic affirmations, and what it actually looks like to start rewiring the beliefs that have been running the show for decades. This episode is raw, real, and full of the kind of honest coaching that reminds you that healing is not about having a breakthrough every single week. Sometimes it is about showing up on a blah Tuesday and doing the work anyway.

You might want to listen if:

• You know exactly what triggers you in relationships but freeze or react anyway and cannot figure out why
• You have tried therapy, journaling, and self help books and still feel stuck in the same emotional patterns
• You feel emotions physically, like tightness in your chest, nausea, or a knot in your stomach, and do not know what to do with them
• You want to understand how somatic work and nervous system regulation can create real change in your relationships
• You are ready to stop managing your triggers and actually start rewiring them at the root

STAY CONNECTED

• Join our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

What if feeling secure in love doesn't mean you stop feeling anxious... it just means you stop letting anxiety make your decisions? 

In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble wraps up the Somatic Attachment Series by taking you inside what a secure nervous system actually feels like in real life. Not the Pinterest version where everything is calm and easy, but the real, honest, in your body experience of feeling something hard and staying with yourself anyway. Jenn walks you through her three part framework, identify, intervene, and integrate, and shares a powerful client story that shows exactly what it looks like when you stop abandoning what your body is telling you and start bringing that truth into your relationship instead.

You might want to listen if:

• You have read all the books and understand your attachment style but still cannot stop reacting the way you do.
• You feel like you are always either panicking when someone gets too close or spiraling when they pull away.
• You keep finding yourself saying things you do not mean or shutting down when you most want to connect.
• You have been told to "just communicate better" but nobody has ever shown you what to do in the moment your body takes over.
• You are tired of feeling like you are abandoning yourself in your relationships and you are ready to actually feel safe in love.

STAY CONNECTED

• Join our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Have you ever felt completely pulled toward someone, only to find yourself wanting to escape the moment they get close? 

In this episode of Speak Honest, Jenn Noble is diving into Part 3 of the Somatic Attachment Series and getting into the part that nobody talks about enough... disorganized attachment. Jenn walks you through what is actually happening in your body during that push and pull, why it feels so chaotic and confusing, and how understanding your nervous system can help you stay with yourself instead of reacting from that place of overwhelm. Using real client stories and somatic tools you can actually use, this episode will help you start to see the cycle clearly so you can begin to move through it differently.

You might want to listen if:

• You find yourself missing someone deeply and then wanting out the moment they get emotionally close
• You often pick fights or question your relationship and then wonder why you did it once you calm down
• You feel like you are two different people in relationships and you cannot figure out which one is the real you
• You have heard the term disorganized attachment but still cannot quite make sense of what it actually feels like from the inside
• You are ready to stop reacting from your nervous system and start understanding what it is actually trying to tell you

STAY CONNECTED

• Join our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Have you ever met someone great, felt genuinely interested, and then suddenly... something just felt off? In this episode of Speak Honest, Jenn Noble takes you inside the somatic experience of avoidant attachment and what is actually happening in your body when you start to pull away. This is Part 2 of the Somatic Attachment Series, and Jenn slows everything down so you can finally understand why that "something's missing" feeling might not be clarity at all. It might just be your nervous system trying to keep you safe.

You might want to listen if:

• You keep losing interest in people who are actually good for you and you can't figure out why
• You find yourself pulling back the moment someone starts getting closer and it always feels completely justified
• You've convinced yourself you just haven't met the right person yet but something keeps not clicking
• You feel numbness or a kind of internal quiet when connection starts to deepen and you don't know what to do with it
• You are tired of mistaking your body's protective response for the truth about your relationships

STAY CONNECTED

• Join our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Have you ever sent a text, felt good about it… and then spiraled after  they didn’t respond? 

In this episode, I break down what’s actually happening in those moments and why it has nothing to do with you being “too much” or overthinking. We’re going deeper than your thoughts and into your nervous system, where anxious attachment really begins. I walk you through how to recognize what anxious attachment feels like in your body, how to stay with those sensations instead of reacting, and how to start showing up differently in your relationships without shutting yourself down or needing constant reassurance. This is where we stop trying to think our way out of anxiety and start learning how to move through it.

You might want to listen if:

• You feel a wave of anxiety the moment someone doesn’t text you back
• You find yourself over-analyzing messages and questioning what you said
• You feel an urgent need to fix things or reach out when something feels off
• You know you’re overthinking, but can’t seem to stop in the moment
• You want to feel more calm, grounded, and secure in your relationships

STAY CONNECTED

• Join our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information. 

Why do you keep doing the exact things you told yourself you wouldn’t… even when you know better?

In this episode, we’re breaking down the truth about self-sabotage and why it’s not actually about discipline, willpower, or “being better.” I’m walking you through what’s really happening in those everyday moments… like when you say you’re going to go to the gym, start your routine, or get off your phone… and then don’t. Because what if self-sabotage isn’t you messing up… but you choosing between two very real needs?

You might want to listen if:

• You keep saying you’ll start something… and then don’t follow through
• You feel frustrated because you know what to do, but still don’t do it
• You find yourself choosing the “wrong” thing and then judging yourself after
• You struggle with consistency in your habits, routines, or even your relationships
• You’re ready to stop the shame spiral and start understanding what’s actually going on underneath it

STAY CONNECTED

• Join our FREE Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Enjoying the show? Please leave a Review! 

WORK WITH JENN

• 🎯 Schedule your FREE 30-min Attachment Assessment with Jenn
• Ready Now? Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Ask Jenn a question

LEARN MORE

• Grab your copy of the #1 best-selling book, Dance of Attachment
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Watch Jenn's 🔴 TEDx Talk

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.