In this episode Lala is joined by fat rights activist Danica Marjanovic (@danica_marjanovic) and Life Coach Kayleigh Dixon (@kdlifecoach) to discuss fatness and dating. We discuss questions from followers including:

What is fat? Thickness is a trend but where is the line?

Is the word fat OK or offensive?

Is it wrong to utilise angles and lighting to hide your weight on dating apps?

How do you differentiate between being someone’s type and being fetishized?

The worry that they have underestimated your size in photos and how they will react in person and feeling the need to alert them to the fact that you are fat before meeting?

Is it fatphobic to not find fat people attractive?

How do I get rid of the feeling that I am not thin enough to be attractive to men?

I internalise thoughts like ‘I can start dating again when I’ve lost a bit of weight’

Do I need to decrease my standards after gaining 15kg? Handsome men feel out of my league now. Men are definitely less interested in me now that I am larger.

Lack of confidence during sex due to weight. Especially being on top.