In this episode of the podcast Gavin is joined by Sharon Valenti, the founder of Sharon’s Dot Club, who takes Gavin through her processes to give you a live demonstration of her work before embarking on a more regular podcast conversation.
The signature course on Sharon.club is called Blueprint For Stress Release and this is part of lesson 1. Gavin has written a letter to a person who hurt him a lot in his life and has identified some of the underlying, limiting beliefs and they’re going to take one of those beliefs and one situation around mistrust and Sharon’s going to invite him to close his eyes and respond to her questions.
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KEY TAKEAWAYS
- We hear “be in the present moment” all the time, and that’s kind of like being told to mind your own business. There are three kinds of business: Yours, mine and the divine’s. The only time we’re ever in trouble, even if it’s just in our minds, is when we’re in someone else’s business. We get busy thinking we know better than them, but how can we possibly know better than them what’s best for them?
- The only place our life is taking place is in our mind with the stories that we’ve got going all day that we’re oblivious that we’re actually doing. Then, when somebody doesn’t live up to our expectations, we want to crucify them! It’s impossible for them to live up to our expectations. We’re setting ourselves up for disappointment time and time again.
- Like so many people I have very violent, alcoholic parents, sexual abuse, a child that died. As I got older and I decided my life had to radically change, as I read and went through training I heard different things that clicked with me and it created an immediate shift in me. Growing up with alcoholic parents I had to learn how to be a people pleaser and keep my mother calm because she was quite violent, that’s a form of manipulation. As an adult looking back on them in my mind’s eye, I was able to see the pain and suffering in my mother’s eye in those drunken moments and, instead of hatred, I felt such compassion and I understood that she and my father were doing the best they could in that moment. We don’t have to like it or condone it, but accepting takes the stress and resistance out.
- My goal is to help people at whatever stage they are in their life so that they enjoy a peaceful life and whatever that means to them. What they really want are peaceful thoughts. When you have peaceful thinking you’re not worried about whether you have enough money for this or that, all those fears are gone. We’ve always had enough, we just always want more, we’re addicted to more.
BEST MOMENTS
‘If something’s bothering you about another person, you have choices: You can either ask them to change it, be OK with it, or move on. But don’t try to make them feel miserable just because you’re feeling miserable about it.’
‘The only thing we can change is ourselves.’
"We allow fear to paralyse us – when we’re in fear we’re already living the worst thing that could happen in our mind, we haven’t been through it but we’ve lived it in our mind.’
‘As you get more familiar with the process, you get to a point over time where it’s always working for you. As you let go of those old beliefs you’ll also notice some old friends fade away, in a nice way, and are replaced with more like-minded people.’
ABOUT THE GUEST
Sharon Valenti: Helping people find the right course to living their best version of life is what I am committed to doing. I'm here to help you find your way out of feeling like you’re floundering, losing hope, down-in-the-dumps and any other unwanted feeling you’ve got going on.
CONTACT METHODS
Website: https://www.sharons.club/
Instagram: @isittrue
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonvalenti/
ABOUT THE HOST
Gavin Scott is a born entrepreneur with a passion for start up and scale up. He has over 20 years real estate experience in investment and development.
Gavin says: Over the years I have discovered that mindset is everything. Now, that might sound obvious, but it is! You see the number of awoken minds are very few in reality. Whilst acknowledging mindset is key it is absolutely different from utilising, influencing, impacting and effecting great change, for yourself, your loved ones, friends, colleagues and the wider public.
Why?
Like most of us I have had many ups and downs. I want to share the lessons learnt and promote a better environment for all, internally and externally!
How?
Through sharing my own experiences and hosting some fabulous individuals including some big household names to discuss key topics around mindset and the success formulas I hope the listener will become inspired to create space for change for betterment in their lives. I aim to inspire change by encouragement, not by force. I intend to inspire by education, not by regulation.
CONTACT METHODS
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