June 26, 2025

Stop Arguing with Reality & Start Living: Episode 172

21 minutes

✨ What You'll Discover This Week

Ready to stop exhausting yourself by arguing with reality? Amanda, Laura, and Kendra are back with episode 172, diving deep into Byron Katie's powerful concept of "Noticing When Your Thoughts Argue with Reality."

Spoiler alert: You can't teach a cat to bark! 🐱

🔥 Key Takeaways That Will Change Your Day

The Cat That Won't Bark

"You can spend the rest of your life trying to teach a cat to bark. Yet if you pay attention, you'll notice that you believe thoughts like this, dozens of times a day."

Sound familiar? We're constantly thinking:

People should be kinder

Traffic should move faster

My colleague should call me back

That code should have gone better

Plot twist: All that "shoulding" is just making you miserable!

The Wind in Barstow Wisdom 🌪️

Byron Katie became known as "the woman who made friends with the wind" because she stopped fighting what she couldn't control. Her game-changing realization?

"When I argue with reality, I lose—but only 100% of the time!"

The Power Question That Changes Everything

Instead of asking "Why did this happen?" try asking: "What intelligent solutions can I find right now?"

This simple shift moves you from victim to victor, from stuck to unstuck!

💪 Your Sphere of Influence vs. Sphere of Control

What you CONTROL: Your choices, your responses, your boundaries What you INFLUENCE: Others (but you have to let go of the outcome!) What you CAN'T control: Pretty much everything else!

The hosts share real talk about setting boundaries with toxic supervisors and difficult colleagues—because accepting reality doesn't mean accepting poor treatment!

🌟 The Hope Factor

When you stop arguing with what happened, something magical occurs:

Action becomes simple and fluid

You find your power again

Solutions appear where you saw only problems

You can actually help others (and yourself!)

As one host beautifully puts it: "When you get stuck arguing with reality, you lose your vision of hope."

🎯 This Week's Challenge

Notice when you catch yourself "shoulding" all over reality. Then ask:

Is this something I can actually change right now?

What's one small action I can take instead of arguing?

How can I make friends with this particular "wind"?

📱 Connect & Share

Got your own "making friends with the wind" story? The hosts would love to hear it!

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💝 Your Daily Reminder

"You are whole. You are a gift to medicine. The work you do matters."

Now stop arguing with the wind and go make something beautiful happen! 🌟

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