Struggle Care

By KC DavisEducation Self-Improvement

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October 21, 2024116: Follow Up: California Passes New Family Vlogging Law
Today’s episode is a follow-up to Episode 65, The Dark Underside of Family Vlogging, Part 1, which aired almost a year ago. My guest from that episode, Cam, returns to discuss her reaction to a recent big development in the world of family vlogging. Cam grew up as the child of one of the first well-known “Mommy bloggers,” and is an international advocate for the children of influencers and family vloggers. She shares her perspective on the new California law. Join us!
Show Highlights:
Understanding the basics of the Child Content Creator Act in California to protect kids’ rights (similar laws are being passed in Illinois and Minnesota)
Legal ramifications for parents who don’t follow “the 30% rule”
Children on reality TV shows do NOT fall under the new law.
Understanding the Coogan Law
Cam’s perspective on the protections of the law for children—and what she wishes the law included
“The right to forget”: what it means and why it’s not included in the law
Cam’s thoughts about a recent scary cancer diagnosis in light of her past history with vulnerability at the hands of her mom’s vlog
Growing up with NO boundaries or privacy
Laws in CA, IL, and MN to protect kids from being exploited

Resources and Links:
Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning
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21 min
October 14, 2024 115: The Difference Between Bullying and Ordinary Meanness (and why it matters) with Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore
Today’s episode covers the topics of bullying, meanness, and conflict. My guest is uniquely qualified to share her wisdom and expertise, which she did in a TEDx talk. Bullying or meanness: what’s the difference, and how do we recognize the two? Join us to learn more!
Show Highlights:
● Dr. Eileen’s background as a clinical psychologist and author
● The specific criteria in the definition of bullying
● Empowering our kids to withstand meanness without taking a victim stance: “Conflict is inevitable.”
● Bullying has become “a thought-stopping cliche.”
● Meanness and bullying in the online world
● Vulnerability in being a content creator and dealing with feedback
● A better approach with kids: “Whose opinion matters to you?”
● The truth about self-esteem and a “quiet ego”
● Connecting with something greater than ourselves
● Helping kids learn self-compassion rather than self-esteem (Dr. Eileen teaches a “reflect, but downshift” technique in her book, Kid Confidence.)
● Dr. Eileen’s formula for teaching reflection to kids
● “Whose feelings are most important?”
● Validating and normalizing kids’ feelings (by following their lead) by offering empathy and confidence
● Being your kids “biased biographer”
● Learning to “stay in the water” instead of standing on the edge of the pool ● “Testing the water” to pull back on accommodations
Resources and Links:
Connect with Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore: Website (Find books for parents and kids!) and Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic podcast,
Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning
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53 min
October 07, 2024114: Why Budgeting Doesn’t Work (and what to do instead) with Jill Sirianni
I have an honest confession to make. I am a terrible budgeter, but I’m a world-class financial goldfish. In this episode, I’ll explain my “financial goldfish” status and budgeting for our neurodiverse brains. I’m joined by Jill Sirianni, host of the Frugal Friends Podcast. If you’re like me, and budgeting just doesn’t work for you, you’ll learn a lot from our conversation. Join us!
Show Highlights:
Characteristics of a financial goldfish
Budgets–the diet of the financial landscape (and they don’t work any more than diets do for most people)
Top reasons we fall victim to impulse buying
The myth of “Wants vs. Needs”
The downfalls of typical antiquated budgeting
Creativity in meeting needs without spending
Jill’s 90-day transaction inventory
Helpful online tools
A moral problem vs. a systemic problem
KC’s helpful hack to be more thoughtful before spending impulsively (like late-night DoorDash)
Jill’s tips for creating a pause before spending: keep a list and buy second-hand
Understanding the marketing behind sales
Making choices about your behavior today that may not align with spending habits held up as the “standard”
Understanding values-based spending
In finances, one size does NOT fit all.
Resources and Links:
Connect with Jill Sirianni and Frugal Friends: Frugal Friends Podcast and Buy What You Love Without Going Broke book by Jen Smith and Jill Sirianni (pre-order now!)
Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning
We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes.

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52 min
September 30, 2024113: Balancing Self-Care and Community Care with Nat Vikitsreth
This episode is about liberation, revolution, and social justice. We are tackling these topics from a practical perspective with my guest, Nat. Join us!
Nat Vikitsreth is a licensed clinical social worker who works with families who want to practice social justice in their daily lives but are torn between acting in their communities and at home. She helps them bridge the gap despite being tired, overwhelmed, and stretched too thin. Holding space for their beautiful intentions and walking with them on this journey are Nat’s passions.

Show Highlights:
Nat’s background as a transgender woman from Thailand who has become a clinician and a social justice organizer
Trying to honor our values about liberation at home and in the community
Being your own ally first with agility and awareness of your available bandwidth
Learning to hold space for accountability
The root causes of our suffering: white supremacy, colonialism, capitalism, and patriarchy
Leading with compassion in action instead of punishment
What it means to be truly humble
Nat’s advice for parents
Finding the sweet spot between discomfort and boundaries
Being realistic in your family about what causes you can support and take action on with your limited capacity
Nat’s words of advice about actions beyond the “sexy actions” to take

Resources and Links:
Connect with Nat Vikitsreth: Website and Come Back to Care Podcast
Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning
We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes.

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52 min
September 23, 2024112: When a Loved One Won’t Seek Mental Health Treatment with Dr. Alec Pollard
What do you do when a loved one won’t seek the mental health treatment that they obviously need? We are looking at the very important topic of mental health from the perspective of your concern for a loved one who might be resistant to asking for help, and what you can do about it. I’m joined by Dr. Alec Pollard, a co-author of When A Loved One Won't Seek Mental Health Treatment: How to Promote Recovery and Reclaim Your Family’s Well-Being. With a long career as a clinical psychologist, he is the founding director of the St. Louis Behavioral Medicine Institute. Join us to learn more!
Show Highlights:
Dr. Pollard’s background and four decades of experience as a psychologist
Turning his focus to help those who are concerned about their loved one’s mental health
Dr. Pollard explains The Family Well-Being Approach/Consultation
Two types of accommodations that loved ones make: commission and omission
Differentiation between appropriate and inappropriate accommodations for a loved one
Recovery avoidance: a pattern of behavior that is inconsistent with the process of recovery
Creating opportunities for a loved one to get better through support, incentives, and positive rewards
Dr. Pollard’s book and its approach of finding a balance between long-term planning and crisis management
Dr. Pollard’s takeaway about his book as his proudest achievement in his career
Resources and Links:
Connect with Dr. Alec Pollard: St. Louis Behavioral Medicine Institute and When A Loved One Won't Seek Mental Health Treatment
Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning
We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes.

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35 min
September 16, 2024111: How to be a Content Creator without Wrecking Your Mental Health with Franchesca Ramsey
If you joined us for last week’s episode, you know that we promised Part 2 of my conversation with Franchesca Ramsey. She brings an expert perspective on the various aspects of content creation, like authenticity, compassion, handling negative comments, the value of listening, and more. Franchesca Ramsey is an actor, writer, public speaker, and longtime content creator. She wrote and performed in the web series MTV Decoded, where she tackled race, pop culture, and other uncomfortable topics. Other notable accomplishments include writing for The Nightly Show with Larry Wilmore and a nomination for an NAACP award for one of the best books of 2018: Well, That Escalated Quickly: Memoirs and Mistakes of an Accidental Activist. Franchesca shares her expertise and insights about guarding your mental health as a content creator. Join us to learn more!

Show Highlights:
The skills we lack in being human, trusting each other, and genuinely calling someone IN
The public vs. private sphere of an online presence
Listening, forgiving, and doing the right thing
Hard-earned perspectives on hot takes and being silent
What’s your WHY for content creation?
Handling critical and negative comments on social media
Being authentic in content creation means sometimes logging off.
KC’s thoughts on her WHY as a content creator

Resources and Links:
Connect with Franchesca Ramsey: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and book
Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning
We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes.

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45 min
September 09, 2024110: How to be a Content Creator without Wrecking Your Mental Health with Franchesca Ramsey
Today’s episode is a conversation I’ve been wanting to have for awhile, and I’ve found the perfect person for this topic. Franchesca Ramsey is an actor, writer, public speaker, and longtime content creator. She wrote and performed in the web series MTV Decoded, where she tackled race, pop culture, and other uncomfortable topics. Other notable accomplishments include writing for The Nightly Show with Larry Wilmore and a nomination for an NAACP award for one of the best books of 2018: Well, That Escalated Quickly: Memoirs and Mistakes of an Accidental Activist. Franchesca shares her expertise and insights on longevity and mental health as a content creator. Join us to learn more!

Show Highlights:
Burnout is real in the content creation world.
Lessons learned about life and authenticity as a content creator, influencer, and vlogger
Are you putting your time and energy in the wrong place?
You have to censor yourself EVERY day!
Impulsive reactions on social media can have severe consequences. Give yourself space to step back.
Prioritizing joy in your content and not reacting with anger
The nature of social media
Strengthening internal boundaries by getting comfortable with being misunderstood
Thoughts on cancel culture and negative backlash
Our conversation is so good that we don’t want it to end. We will continue with Part 2 with Franchesca in next week’s episode!

Resources and Links:
Connect with Franchesca Ramsey: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and book
Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning
We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes.

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38 min
September 02, 2024109: Should We Bully Immoral People? with Ellie Rushton
Join us for today’s interesting conversation about ethics, boundaries, suffering, bullying, and being online/offline. There are many facets to these topics as they intertwine with morality, and we are diving into a discussion with Ellie Rushton,
Show Highlights:
Ellie’s background, work, and TikTok content about “cultivating bold spaces”
Ellie’s definition of bullying: “doing something harmful several times on purpose for the sake of someone’s suffering”
Thoughts on bullying and why people do it
Holding someone accountable vs. bullying—what’s the difference?
Ellie’s perspective on online comments to others’ content
Thoughts on the roots of inequality, oppression, and suffering—and the problem with categorizing “good” and “bad” people
People are afraid of embodying compassion.
What is effective in online spaces
Thoughts about boundaries, revenge, and retribution
Standing up for what you believe while holding yourself accountable

Resources and Links:
Connect with Ellie: TikTok
Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning
We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes.

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49 min
August 26, 2024108: BEST OF: The Sex Ed You Should Have Gotten with Rachel Coler Mulholland
🌟 Taking a Break! 🌟
Hey everyone! I am taking a short break for August to recharge and prepare exciting new content for you. I’ll be back in September with fresh episodes and engaging conversations. Thanks for your support and patience. Stay tuned for what’s coming next!
Today, we are covering an important topic today, but maybe not in the way you expect. I’m joined by Rachel Mulholland (aka Shug CM), a therapist whom I met on TikTok because of her incredible content around sex education for children. Today’s focus is on how our lives as adults are impacted if we don’t get comprehensive sex education as children. Join us for the conversation!
Show Highlights:
How KC’s story from her teenage years illustrates the gaps that most people have in their education about sex and the fact that sex ed is NOT a one-time conversation
How “purity culture” is impacting teenagers in certain places in the US in damaging ways
How even most comprehensive sex ed doesn’t address the pleasurable side of sex–and (for females) that the pleasure doesn’t have to come from another person
How sexual predators take advantage of the lack of information in sex ed from SAFE places
Why parents have real fear about talking to their kids about sex ed
The effects of NOT educating kids that sex and pleasure don’t always go together
Rachel’s Four Pillars of Safe Sex: confirmation, communication, lubrication, and enthusiastic participation
Why parents should be aware when their kids are ready to hear and learn–and begin at the most basic level appropriate for their age
How to answer those first little-kid questions around, “Where do babies come from?”
Why curiosity is a foundational part of body talk for kids–not just around sexuality
How parents can work through their own feelings around sex ed with their children
Why Rachel’s next project is a book about body talk

Resources:
Connect with Rachel: TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Website (coming soon!)
Recommended by Rachel: How Do You Make A Baby by Anna Fiske
Connect with KC: TikTok, Instagram, and Website
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning

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41 min
August 19, 2024107: BEST OF: The Color of Care Tasks with Danita Platt
🌟 Taking a Break! 🌟
Hey everyone! I am taking a short break for August to recharge and prepare exciting new content for you. I’ll be back in September with fresh episodes and engaging conversations. Thanks for your support and patience. Stay tuned for what’s coming next!
I’m excited to have Danita Platt on the show today. I didn’t know anyone of color in the field of care tasks until I met her. Her content resonates with me and my views around care tasks, so I hope you’ll enjoy hearing more from Danita!
Show Highlights:
Who Danita is and how she became an expert on gentle care tasks
How our society over the last two generations has moralized care tasks and tied them to the worth of a woman
Why we need to rethink our views about care tasks and “being a good woman” that go back to the founding of the US, historically speaking
How the concept of “invisible labor” has carried over from colonial days even to today
How many white people were able to live the lives they did because of the cheap, exploitable labor of Black women
How the Great Migration happened to move many Black families to northern cities from the South
How the shift happened to push Black (and white) women to work industrial jobs while men were away during the war
How the push is recurring for 1950s homemaking to be viewed as the superior role for women
What we DON’T talk about in the fulfilling life of a homemaker
How Danita chooses to honor the Black women who had to wash clothes, clean house, and cook meals under duress–with no freedom or choice of their own
What Danita would say to women who want to live more joyfully in their homes and experience more freedom and quality of life

Resources:
Connect with Danita: TikTok and Instagram
Mentioned in this episode: Sisters in Hate: American Women on the Front Lines of White Nationalism
Connect with KC: TikTok, Instagram, and Website
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning

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43 min

About Struggle Care

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A podcast about self-care by a host that hates the term self-care. Therapist KC Davis, author of the book How to Keep House While Drowning talks about mental health, care tasks, and more.