Struggle Care

By KC DavisEducation Self-Improvement

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June 17, 202496: In Defense of Video Games (for partners of gamers) with Derrick Hoard, LMFT
Welcome to Struggle Care, where we talk about all things individual and systemic that affect your life, wellness, and mental health. Joining me is Derrick Hoard, a licensed marriage and family therapist, TikTokker, and video game aficionado. I’ve followed him since 2020, and I love his thoughts and perspectives. Today’s topic, video games and relationships, stirs up some strong reactions and opinions, but you will walk away from this episode with a fresh and thoughtful view of the hobbies we all enjoy in our lives. Let’s get into it!

Show Highlights:
Video games are misunderstood and not recognized for what they are—the most beautiful, immersive forms of storytelling that exist.
Men can get in touch with emotions through playing video games.
Video games get unjustly blamed for communication problems in relationships.
Video games comprise a safe space of non-judgment where one can feel confident and competent.
Thoughts about men in therapy, gender dynamics, and emotional labor
Consideration and honesty in relationships about our hobbies
Society’s expectation of productivity leads us to feel shame and guilt about our hobbies. This is so wrong!
Understanding how to have honest and authenticity in our relationships—from the start
Red flags to look for when video games (or other obsessive hobbies) become our ONLY coping skills in life3

Resources and Links:
Connect with Derrick Hoard: Website, TikTok, and the Mindful Gaming Podcast
Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning
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41 min
June 10, 202495: How to Bring Sexy Back with Lindley Gentile, LMFT
Do you want to bring sexy back into your life? This concept encompasses much more than actual sex, but it reaches to the inner depths of a woman’s core identity, vitality, and attitudes about life. This episode was prompted by the response to a recent TikTok in which I commented about how I’ve rediscovered things about myself here in my late 30s as my kids are a bit older and I have more time to myself. The response was big, with many questions about what I’ve done. I hate to say that there really is no big secret, but this topic is well worth exploring, so I’m bringing in my good friend, Lindley Gentile, a licensed marriage and family therapist. She is an expert who works specifically with women around rediscovering their sexiness, or perhaps, learning to discover it for the first time.

Show Highlights:
Contributing factors to why women lose their individuality and sexiness
The roles women fall into throughout life’s phases—without any renegotiation with their partner
Sexiness in identity is about MUCH more than having sex.
Being “turned on” is about aliveness, vitality, positivity, and a vibration of your soul.
Care tasks create a barrier to pleasure.
Sex is like a playground for fun and pleasure, and the aging woman can have more fun at the playground.
Aging women, what they wear, and feeling sexy
Sexiness is about energy and how you feel.
False messages from society around fatphobia, suppression, and ideology
Fantasy is a gift and a power that can overcome our tendency to overthink.
Lindley’s starting point with women who want to rediscover their sexiness
Lindley’s recommended reading for every woman: Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

Resources and Links:
Connect with Lindley Gentile: Website, TikTok, and Austin Couples Concierge Counseling
Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning
We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes.

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41 min
June 03, 202494: Making the Outdoors Inclusive with Parker Bushman
As usual, we are talking about all things mental health, wellness, and topics that matter to us both individually and systemically. I’m excited to be joined by Parker Bushman, the founder and CEO of Ecoinclusive Strategies and the Inclusive Journeys Guide. Ecoinclusive Strategies is a consulting firm that works with conservation-based organizations, environmental organizations, and nonprofits around diversity, equality, and inclusion. Join us!
Show Highlights:
Nature should be free and accessible to ALL!
The existing disparities in neighborhoods, tree cover, park access, and open spaces
Racist roots of the conservation movement
Messages of elitism among “outdoorsy” people
Things that have been baked into our ideas about who gets to be outside and enjoy it–We need to break down the barriers!
Thoughts about able-ism and outdoor spaces
Parker’s consulting work with organizations doing wildland restoration, community engagement, and DEI work
Building community through engagement, information, collaboration, and empowerment
Systemic issues that prevent outdoor access
Parker’s advice to everyone about finding outdoor activities that you enjoy

Resources and Links:
Connect with Parker Bushman and Ecoinclusive Strategies: Website, Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok
Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning
We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes.

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47 min
May 28, 202493: Trad Wives and the Leisure Class with Professor Neil Shyminsky
We are continuing with the topic of trad wives, but we are taking a different angle in this conversation. I’m joined by Professor Neil Shyminsky, who is an English professor at Cambrian College in Sudbury, Ontario. He doesn’t teach a lot about literature but likes to focus on media studies, gender/sexuality studies, and socio-political thought. We begin with a clip of Professor Neil explaining the concept of the “leisure class” as it relates to trad wife content. Join us!

Show Highlights:
The “other” side of trad wife content: an idealized performance of domesticity and romanticization of a woman’s role
Professor Neil defines “the leisure class.”
Don’t always believe the story the camera shows! (It’s all carefully curated content!)
Social signals in how we “perform” our gender
Trad wives as the moral purity status symbol of their husband’s godliness and enjoyers of God’s richest blessings from living a life of submission
Thinking critically is key to understanding the truth about the values they promote.
The difference between liking traditionally feminine things and being a content creator who makes active choices about how they present their enjoyment of traditionally feminine things
The comparison between trad wife content and MLMs
Professor Neil’s advice: “Be thoughtful and self-reflective in what you consume.”

Resources and Links:
Connect with Professor Neil Shyminsky: TikTok, Instagram, X, and LinkedIn
Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning
We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes.

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51 min
May 20, 202492: Trad Wives: The Psychology of Anti-Feminism with Dr. Lesley Cook
Buckle up for this one! We are discussing the interesting topic of trad wives, the psychology of anti-feminism, and the pushback/feedback we are seeing on TikTok. If you aren’t sure what any of that means, stay with us, and we will explain. I’m joined by my good friend and frequent guest on the show, clinical psychologist, Dr. Lesley Cook.

Show Highlights:
A montage of trad wife audio content
The overriding philosophy of trad wife content: the good way vs. the bad way (with no in-between)
KC’s definition of a trad wife: “a woman who chooses to stay home, submit to her husband, and embrace traditional gender roles because they believe God says they will be happier” (usually with undertones of homeschooling, homesteading, and political/religious agendas)
The correlation between mainstream marketing, multi-level marketing, and trad wife philosophy: they all create the myth around what they are trying to sell
The psychology of instability, isolation, loneliness, vulnerability, and a lack of belonging common in the trad wife movement
Too much feminism OR not enough feminism??
Our responsibility as a global community of women to the problems of patriarchy
Patriarchy, the myth, and the marketing campaign
Scenarios in which a trad wife is trapped, isolated, overtaxed, and overwhelmed—but still believes the myth
Traps that pop up in many areas with exploitive systems that can all be tied to money
How we are consuming trad wife content with a romanticized view of the false narrative

Resources and Links:
Connect with Dr. Lesley Cook: TikTok
Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning
We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes.

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49 min
May 13, 202491: When Kinky Sex is the Healthier Option with Sunny Megatron
Please be advised that today’s episode is adult content; it’s not safe for work or little ears. We are talking all things kink with Sunny Megatron, a clinical sexologist, kink educator, and consultant. Join us for an interesting and informative conversation!

Show Highlights:
Understanding what kink really is—and how it measures up to the assumptions we have
The difference between kink and a fetish
Sunny explains “kink done well” and “kink done wrong”
The concept of “aftercare” in kink
Societal messages around sex that lead to shame, embarrassment, and an overall lack of open communication
We don’t understand our sexual motivations.
Stigma busting around sexual assault, trauma, and fantasy
Red flags to look for in sexual power dynamics
The slippery slope of fear (of what kink may lead to)
Problems in kink relationships are the SAME problems in “vanilla sex” relationships!

Resources and Links:
Connect with Sunny Megatron: Website, TikTok, and Instagram
Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning
We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes.

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1 hr 3 min
May 06, 2024 90: How to Feed Yourself When the World is Burning Down Around You with Amy G.S.A. Brooks
If you have felt the pressure to put meals on the table that adhere to the expectations of others, even when you could barely function in life, this episode is for you. I’m joined by Amy G.S.A. Brooks of Wandering Ames. She’s one of my favorite content creators who posts about the OK Kitchen. There is more to life than succumbing to societal pressure to prepare perfect, five-star meals. Join us!

Show Highlights:
●      The beginnings of the OK Kitchen and the forming of a new community
●      Food insecurity and diet culture during the pandemic
●      Messages surround us everywhere about how we feed ourselves and fuel our bodies.
●      Thinking about preparing food for three meals every day seems like never-ending labor!
●      Meal plans can be a helpful tool–but should be set aside when needed.
●      Wasteful in food or wasteful in being unkind to ourselves? Which is worse?
●      Be willing to break the rules: dinner doesn’t have to be a big meal or a fancy production, and food plans should be simple and flexible.
●      The point of meals is to get what our bodies need.

Resources and Links:
Connect with Amy G.S.A. Brooks: TikTok
Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning
We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes.

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29 min
April 25, 2024 89: Why Women MUST Do Habits Differently with Monica Packer
I’m joined today by Monica Packer, host of the About Progress podcast, as we talk about habits. Specifically, our discussion focuses on why the habit-forming advice out there written by men does not work for women. Join us!

Show Highlights:
●      Monica’s background as a blogger and podcaster who had to “learn how to fail”
●      Understanding that perfectionism is a spectrum that affects our ability to form “good habits”
●      Monica’s lightbulb moment: “Maybe our methods are broken.”
●      The biggest difference between men’s and women’s habits: invisible labor
●      How invisible labor is defined–and what the statistics show
●      Examples of the mental load that women carry
●      Popular culture advice (about forming habits) that DOES NOT work
●      Monica’s tips for forming habits: redefine consistency, shift your view of habits, and start with the smallest and simplest form of the ideal
●      Bedtime Revenge Procrastination is real for many women!
●      The goal of habits is to support you—so do it YOUR way!
●      Understanding trade-offs and how they work for most women

Resources and Links:
Connect with Monica Packer: Website, About Progress Podcast, Instagram, and The Sticky Habit Intensive Course
Books mentioned by Monica: Fair Play by Eve Rodsky and Invisible Women by Caroline Criado Perez
Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning
We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes.

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38 min
April 22, 2024 88: Therapists on TikTok (will sometimes be mean to you) with DeeDee Wednesday, LPC-S
Today’s episode is all about mental health, therapy, and being online as a therapist. We are diving in with my guest, DeeDee Wednesday, who has created a space for intentional healing and empowerment through therapy and leadership coaching. Join us to learn more!

Show Highlights:

●      An overview of DeeDee’s work as a therapist in Louisiana
●      Traditional therapy is NOT today’s therapy.
●      An open mind, a balancing act, and showing up as an authentic therapist
●      Navigating the tricky world of TikTok (or any social media platform) as a therapist
●      DeeDee’s work to show up as a therapist when entitlement, racism, and white supremacy are at play
●      Understanding how moral perfectionism causes some people to act
●      Having a line that you won’t cross to “do no harm”
●      What it means to be self-aware
●      Dealing with difficult people
●      “Power is really the ability to choose.”

Resources and Links:
Connect with DeeDee Wednesday: Website, TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, and Pinterest

Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning
We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes.

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50 min
April 15, 2024 87: Releasing the Mother Load with Erica Djossa
Every mother needs to hear this conversation. It just doesn’t make sense that we put so much undue pressure on ourselves and are quick to criticize and judge other moms for their parenting styles. I’m joined today by Erica Djossa, the author of Releasing the Mother Load: How to Carry Less and Enjoy Motherhood More. We are talking about all things motherhood and expectations, why I’ve been blasted over a couple of recent TikToks, and Erica’s parenting wisdom from her book. Join us to learn more!

Show Highlights:
●      One of KC’s videos about how she “doesn’t play” with her kids—and the flurry of negative responses over parenting choices
●      The intensive mothering ideation: motherhood equals martyrdom, mothers must put everyone else’s needs about their own, shelve all their interests, and be self-sacrificial in every way
●      The second of KC’s videos about sending her dog away from home for training—and the flurry of anger and shame over her inadequacies as a dog owner
●      Mainstay pillars of the intensive mothering ideology and the BS that is promoted as healthy attachment and “good mothering”
●      Giving less can sometimes mean giving more.
●      The truth that shows up in the bedtime routine (“Are you holding space for yourself, mom?”)
●      The scope, dynamic, and importance of “independent play,” creativity, and solving problems
●      Healthy attachment: safety, security, reliability, and dependability
●      The space for moms to have unique and different personalities and mothering styles, like bedroom parents vs. living room parents
●      Projecting our mother wounds on other moms (Why do we do it?)
●      Understanding why not all NOs are equal
●      The disparity in expectations and judgment for moms and dads
●      Motherhood expectations, boundaries, and the stories we tell ourselves

Resources and Links:
Connect with Erica Djossa: Website, Instagram, Momwell Podcast, and Releasing the Mother Load book
                       Mentioned by Erica: Needy by Mara Glatzel

Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook
Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning
We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes.

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56 min

About Struggle Care

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A podcast about self-care by a host that hates the term self-care. Therapist KC Davis, author of the book How to Keep House While Drowning talks about mental health, care tasks, and more.