I recently came across the content of Dr. Andrew Bauman, a licensed mental health counselor whose mission is to provide high-quality experiential, narrative-based psychotherapy from a Christian worldview. His writings display eye-opening perspectives on religion and relationships that we aren’t used to hearing from a male Christian leader. I’m joined by Dr. Andrew to discuss how the church gaslights women and much more. Join us!

Show Highlights:

●      Dr. Andrew’s path from Southern Baptist Church pastor to therapist as he deconstructed his faith and faced stark realizations

●      The big, red-flag problems in what some churches teach and practice about women, leadership, sexism, and abuse

●      The facts about sexism and abuse experienced by women in the church

●      “How we are in our sexuality is how we are in our spirituality.”

●      Many churches demonstrate benevolent or ambivalent sexism.

●      Thoughts and feelings about I Timothy 2:11-12 being weaponized against women

●      Dr. Andrew’s thoughts on how the church weaponizes forgiveness

●      The correlation between pornography and violence against women

●      The biblical account of Jesus and the woman at the well—and how He broke decades of prejudices and sexism in His own culture

●      Other examples in scripture of how Jesus valued women—and how the church “gets it wrong” so often

●      Understanding sexuality and consent

Resources and Links:

Connect with Dr. Andrew Bauman: Website/Blog/Resources, The Christian Counseling Center for Sexual Health & Trauma

Recommended Reading: books by Natalie Hoffman, Sarah McDugal, and Sheila Gregoire

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Joining me today is Sarah (pronounced SAH-rah) Casper, Consent Educator and the founder of Comprehensive Consent. We connected over a recent TikTok about sexual coercion, sexual assault, and consent, which, as you can imagine, prompted very strong reactions. There is a new social space around the whole idea of consent, even to the point that new terminology is being created, as with the term “enthusiastic consent.” With the overall goal of education and empowerment, Sarah and I tackle this very nuanced topic in today’s show. Join us!

Show Highlights: 

●      Consent is full of black, white, and LOTS of gray areas.

●      The truth: “Consent is not simple, and the same rules don’t apply across all contexts.”

●      Understanding the difference between spontaneous desire and responsive desire and the opt-in model vs. the opt-out model

●      Common questions Sarah is asked about people’s experiences

●      Everyone deserves care, all feelings are valid, and your feelings don’t have to be labeled.

●      Not all assault is sexual coercion, and not all sexual coercion is assault.

●      Sexual ethics is much more than consent.

●      Watch out for red flags in a partner wanting to “check all the boxes” for consent.

Resources and Links:

Connect with Sarah Casper and Comprehensive Consent: Website, Instagram, and TikTok

Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook

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Friendships can be very complicated and fragile while at the same time solid and fulfilling.

Even though our “besties” may come and go across our lifetime, they can each bring something valuable and unique to the friendship table. In this episode, we are taking a closer look at relationships, specifically friendships in all their complex and nuanced forms. My guest is content creator and podcaster, Hello Hayes. She answers questions from her community each week about navigating turbulence in our relationships with each other, work, and ourselves. Our conversation takes a closer look at her intriguing theory of the six different kinds of best friends. Join us!

Show Highlights:

●      Hayes’s background as a writer, an empathetic person, an “old soul,” and a good listener

●      The natural shifts in friendships as life changes and phases unfold

●      Hayes’s six besties theory: (based on the premise that we have different friends in life for different purposes)

○      The Good Time Bestie

○      The Dead Body Bestie

○      The Work Bestie

○      The North Star Bestie

○      The OG Bestie

○      The Seasonal Bestie

●      The mental health piece of friendship

●      Practice your self-awareness muscle: Be confident in trusting your gut!

●      The basis for Hayes’s advice to people about their relationships

●      Knowing when it’s time to face a painful heartbreak and move on

●      Having tough conversations with the right words without being accusatory

Resources and Links:

Connect with Hello Hayes: Hello Hayes podcast, TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, and email (to submit a question) [email protected] 

Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook

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This episode is powerful. I’m honored to have two of the three authors of the book, Beyond Fragility with me today. Dr. Natalie Watson-Singleton and Dr. Yara Mekawi, along with Danielle Dawson, have written truly the best anti-racism resource I’ve ever encountered. As a white person and a clinician, it is powerful to hear this perspective of what we need to do psychologically to get to a place of anti-racism. Drs. Natalie and Yara are researchers, educators, writers, and the co-founders of DEAR, the Dialectical Engagement and Anti-Racism Project. Join us to learn more about this timely and important topic!

Show Highlights:

●      The origins of DEAR and Beyond Fragility as an outgrowth of Yara’s Medium article, How to not be a “Karen”: Managing the tensions of anti-racism allyship

●      The differences between DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) and traditional talk therapy

●      Systemic racism, emotions, and “whiteness”

●      The goal of Beyond Fragility: to teach hard truths and skills that are necessary for a society that isn’t harmful to people of color

●      The DBT skill of effectiveness as a decision-guiding principle

●      A perspective on furthering anti-racism instead of placing blame

●      Barriers to anti-racism work

●      Anti-racism skills covered in the book, like accept, feel, detect, etc.

●      “Fight or flight” responses–and how they show up in anti-racism

●      Anti-racist repair and apologies

●      Skills to use in calling out racist missteps: (CALL) clarify what happened, acknowledge intentions, lay out the reasons, and list possible solutions; (OUT) observing, using humility, and tolerating resistance

●      The DEI calculator–and how to use it to ask for other perspectives

●      An example of anti-racism tools and skills in action with racial marginalization

Resources and Links:

Connect with Dr. Natalie, Dr. Yara, and The DEAR Project: Website, Instagram,

and Facebook, LinkedIn

Beyond Fragility: A Skills-Based Guide to Effective Anti-Racist Allyship by Dr. Natalie Watson-Singleton, Dr. Yara Mekawi, and Danielle Dawson

Also mentioned in this episode: White Fragility by Dr. Robin DiAngelo

Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook

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If you have a child with a disability in the public school system, you are familiar with the language of special education, IEPs, and 504 Plans. If it’s new to you, stick around for today’s conversation because I’m joined by two trusted experts in the thick of the IEP world. We begin with Dr. Lesley Cook, a clinical psychologist and repeat guest on the show, as she explains what parents need to know to be prepared and informed ahead of IEP meetings. My second guest is Kim Kizito, a fierce advocate who meets with families and consults with them as they navigate the public school system to get educational services for their children with various disabilities. Join us to learn more!

Show Highlights:

From Dr. Lesley: 

●      Dr. Lesley’s path to becoming a trusted expert witness in due process cases dealing with neuropsych assessments

●      Understanding IEPs–individual education programs for students who have a diagnosis that interferes with their education

●      The difference between bad goals and good goals in an IEP

●      Dr. Lesley’s advice to watch out for the word “comply” in an IEP goal

●      Turning bad goals into better goals that are affirming and realistic

●      Considerations around behavioral disorders, PTSD, and triggering environments

●      3 kinds of interventions and supports that should be included in IEPs

●      A look at the intense pressure that parents feel in the IEP process–and why the law regards them as equal members in the process

●      Examples of common accommodations that parents can ask for

●      The problem with color charts as a behavior management tool

●      Dr. Lesley’s tips for parents and guardians who want to be more informed and prepared for IEP meetings

From Kim: 

●      Most parents don’t realize what services are available for children ages 0-3 through ECI (Early Childhood Intervention)

●      The importance of a special education advocate in helping families

●      Understanding the difference between a 504 Plan and an IEP

●      The three-pronged process for a child to qualify for an IEP

●      Lightning round questions for Kim about the excuses schools give to parents

●      Kim’s strategy to “get through” to the school to get evaluations and services for a child

●      Top tips for parents in protecting their child’s educational rights

●      A manifestation determination hearing—when it is appropriate and what it means

Resources and Links:

 Connect with Dr. Lesley Cook: TikTok

 Mentioned by Dr. Lesley: www.understood.org

 Connect with Kim Kizito: Website, Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok

 Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook

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Dance is about more than just moving your body. With today’s technology, it’s easy to layer other elements in addition to movement to create a product of expression. Dance is all about expression, it is for everyone, and it shouldn’t be limited to specific people who “fit the mold.” I’m joined today by Heather Stockton, a content creator and dance teacher who I recently discovered on TikTok. We are discussing accessible dance. Join us!

Show Highlights:

●      Heather’s background with dance as the “true love” of her life overriding everything as she grew up

●      How Heather discovered in college that dance can be a means of communication, storytelling, and expressiveness

●      How body issues affected Heather’s first experience of dance not being accessible

●      Why Heather’s mission in life is to make dance accessible and inclusive for ALL bodies and break down the stigma that connects it to just one body type

●      Heather’s job today as a dance educator in an elementary school and a dance program developer whose work is based on accessibility and inclusion

●      How Heather teaches through multiple modalities that apply to every gen ed and special ed student in her classes

●      How dance provides multiple benefits for both physical and mental health

●      How dance for adults can heal their inner child, provide community, and allow them to be curious, playful, and expressive

●      Heather leads us through a BrainDance exercise (developed by Anne Green Gilbert) that can be done by people of any age, from very young children to elderly adults

Resources and Links:

Connect with Heather Stockton: Website, TikTok, and Instagram

Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook

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There is no bigger struggle than surviving a post-disaster scenario or perhaps the anxiety we feel about an impending disaster. Joining me today is Zoe Higgins, The Leftist Prepper, from TikTok. You’ll learn what it means to be a prepper, how and why Zoe became a prepper, why the “disaster myth” of movies is not reality, and how to keep your family safe in a disastrous event. 

Show Highlights:

●      What it means to be a prepper—and how it started for Zoe in 2017

●      The difference between doomsday preppers and realistic preppers

●      What leftist prepping is all about

●      Zoe’s Hurricane Ida experience in 2021, and how communities came together

●      What the “disaster myth” is—and why it isn’t true

●      How fundamental Christian narratives play into alt-right prepper views

●      How doomsday preppers incorporate racism, ableism, and fat shaming into their rhetoric

●      Where to start in becoming a prepper

●      What to know about prepping with canned food, freeze-dried food, and stored water

●      Why a hand-crank emergency radio is a necessity

●      How to prep for extreme temperatures in a disaster scenario

●      What to think about in your 72-hour kit beyond food and water: niche gadgets, first aid/medical supplies, maps, chargers, batteries, and printed information

●      What to consider for a go-bag, bug-out bag, etc.

●      Safety issues to think about in a disaster scenario

●      Zoe’s takeaway thoughts about anxiety and prepping

Resources and Links:

 Connect with Zoe: TikTok and How People Behave After Disasters information sheet

Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook

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We are discussing an intriguing topic today: accessible yoga. I want to know more about it, so I’ve invited Emily Anderson to join me. She’s been a yoga teacher since 2018 and is focusing her work this year on yoga therapy, the application of yogic modalities and philosophies in caring for people based on their unique medical and emotional needs and in collaboration with a person’s medical team. Emily does yoga therapy through her virtual studio, All Bodies Welcome Yoga. She firmly believes that anyone can come through her virtual doors and feel comfortable and welcome, which is not always the case in mainstream, fitness-based yoga studios in the US. Join us to learn more!

Show Highlights:

●      Why it is important to Emily to have equity and inclusion in the yoga classroom

●      Why common conceptions about yoga are a “tricky blur” between self-help, mind/body connection, and spirituality

●      How different yoga positions are beneficial to the body and emotions

●      How people feel health shame and sometimes associate movement with pain, punishment, or discipline

●      How yoga helps reconnect us to the ways our bodies enjoy movement and give us feedback about sensations

●      How Emily works with clients around pushing themselves when things are challenging and empowering themselves with options and autonomy

●      Why much teaching around exercise and movement are fear-based

●      How Emily conducts virtual yoga classes

●      How to look for accessible yoga classes in your community

Connect with Emily Anderson and All Bodies Welcome Yoga: Website, YouTube, TikTok, Instagram, and The Softness Meditation Podcast

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Looking at the diverse aspects of mental health from different angles is part of what this show is about. Today’s episode features Soo Jin Lee and Linda Yoon, who are clinicians, therapists, Asian Americans, and the co-authors of Where I Belong: Healing Trauma and Embracing Asian American Identity. Join us to learn more about mental health and the Asian American community!

Show Highlights: 

●      How Soo Jin Lee and Linda Yoon met while working in a community health setting mainly with Asian immigrants and refugees in the US

●      Why Asian clients generally experience big stigma and shame around mental health care

●      Why there are common barriers to treatment for Asian Americans, including intergenerational trauma, racial trauma, migration trauma, and invisibility

●      Why therapists have to approach identity issues and family dynamics differently with children of immigrants

●      Soo Jin’s story of the extreme effects of growing up as an undocumented immigrant

●      How Soo Jin’s mother experienced “functional PTSD”---which led to intergenerational trauma in the family

●      How Linda experienced different kinds of intergenerational trauma, mainly due to domestic violence and abuse in her family

●      What is involved in breaking intergenerational family trauma

●      How their book addresses a community perspective on emotions and mental health

●      How practices like yoga and Tai Chi help create a somatic connection between trauma therapy and movement

●      Why everyone, including non-Asians, can benefit from reading their book

Resources and Links:

 Connect with Soo Jin Lee and Linda Yoon: Yellow Chair Collective Website, Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook

 **Get the book, Where I Belong

 Mentioned in this episode: Teaching the Invisible Race by Tony DelaRosa

Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook

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My guest today is content creator, Frances, from TikTok. She most often covers topics related to Black maternal health and mental health, but today we venture into her personal experience in being a neurodivergent Black woman. Join us!

Show Highlights: 

●      How Frances is affected by neurodivergent issues like dyslexia, sensory processing disorder, and stimming (There is much more to neurodivergence beyond ADHD and autism!)

●      How a knowledgeable teacher caught Frances’ problems early in elementary school

●      How differences in cultures play out in the ways neurodivergence might be manifested

●      Why there are many shortfalls in identifying learning disabilities because too many teachers assume the problems are behavioral

●      Why it is difficult as the parent of a neurodivergent child to find balance in privacy, protection, and sharing information with others

●      Frances’ opinions on her childhood accommodations that were most impactful and least impactful for her

●      How Frances functions with accommodations in the workplace as an adult

 Resources and Links:

Connect with Frances: TikTok

 Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook

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