As this part of the year our courses are in the direction of purpose I feel nothing as opposite from that. Feels like I'm functionally stoned. And there is absence of any pull or push feeling towards something.

Have you ever had any experience like this?

hi lovely i just wondered if you could talk about how, you can stay true to your own self in the mist of everyone's else's truth like today I lost someone that I love very much and it was her funeral today and of course i went but i couldn't stay at the wake for very long i felt very sick i aways do even at my own dads i left i slip out i duck out the back i just go and be on my own just to be by myself. but after i do this behaviour my family don't talk to me they ostracise me; they won't talk to me for weeks i have to go around trying to make up with them sometimes in these situations i feel like a lion, without its pride, or just alone i love my family so much i don't feel separate from them just that i behave a bit different and in this i feel alone and then i become a bit desperate to get them back

I wonder also, if you'd be able to go through an experience from start to finish from an unquestioned mind perspective and then the same experience, step by step, from a wholly sane  perspective.  In slow motion?  

Is separation upheld in numbing? Listener question 

I'm watching the rest of the conversations from the THEM course that I hadn't finished yet.

In  one you say, "The gift is (insert whatever it is that we want that isn't happening or is happening and we don't want - in her case it's his not saying hello), so that the past response can be unlearned, can be healed. Because otherwise it doesn't get healed." 

Can you say more about how the parent, or the wholeness/truth that we are, has the potential to heal the panic, frightened response that was learned in a child state and that this can't happen when we somehow avoid the situation that brings up a projection from the past?

Many thanks for your podcast response to validation question today. Very apt for me that you refer to existential safety, as the first module I picked for my membership was Safe. For me, the formal validation was that I actually existed, as I was repeatedly told by my mother that in being born, I ruined her life etc. It is the suffering of separation on some level that makes one seek what is the Real of our existence. For those who have lived on the whole,full and happy lives without having felt the necessity to question or seek the truth of what they are, presumably they would already be the presence of their essential nature that is love or absence of separation, and I see that I have to unblock or unveil my true nature by letting go of my insecurities. And as I’m communicating this, I am now experiencing why my artistic expression and concepts have always centred on a search for lost love and yet the act of doing this is already love itself…

I know not everyone needs to do this, but do you think some must do some healing around their trauma in order to have the capacity to feel all of the emotions from a more regulated system.  Perhaps this is also necessary to shift and see things from more than an intellectual level.

Can you do a podcast expanding on this quote "The agenda to never feel jealous, or angry, or insecure is the opposite of peace."

Thank you,