Is there a time and a place when we don't need to go into the feeling. Is there a danger of becoming too hypervigilant around feelings

Can you say more about what you mean by 'pinning the mind down'? 

There's an experience of 'head-funk' right now (an indication of separation/mind entanglement) so I'd appreciate some feedback..

Responsibility. It comes up A LOT here and in coaching conversations. In the sense of a heaviness of personal responsibility for children/team at work (as a team leader) and others in general. It's a pervasive story about their wellbeing resting on me. That obviously can't be true but looks SO true. Especially with the blurred lines with children in the context of guiding/caring for and looking after their needs.

In no-separation (dropping out of that self-story), it feels like it's about source accountability - ie. showing up moment-by-moment and responding in alignment with what makes sense (feeling the integrity of that intersection between 'all-that-we-are' and the gritty, humanness of life).

So in sanity, it drops out of the loop of going via the 'story self/identity' and there's simply intimacy with the moment. That already feels lighter and clearer.

I'd welcome your perspectives x

Dear Clare,

For some time I wanted to ask you how you see quriosity in this process of inquiry of who we truly are?

Looks like its energy brings openness and lightness. It carries little self identification and is true balsam in life in comparison with heaviness and devastation that shame brings.

Thank you a lot :)

All the best

Urska

Thank you, Clare. I’m so grateful for your teachings 💛

Dear Clare,

Thank you again for the powerful conversation we had yesterday. 

I felt safe with you and wasn't so scary to dig deep into one of my core wounds.

Just wanted to share that yesterday awareness went a bit further and I noticed later on 

accompanied feeling of guilt with feeling of not being OK/ not being worth the way I am. 

Welcoming this feeling of guilt firstly revealed the feeling of guilty that I need so much love & approval. And staying present a bit longer I saw this feeling is actually shame in disguise. Feeling responsible with strong believing in a doer/chooser/decider that is behind this strong craving for attention and love and that he/she shouldn't be like that.

Thank you again and lotz of love :)

Urska

Firstly thank you, I feel so lucky to have found you & your teaching.

I feel my grounding is accelerating & I am living in the home space so much more.

Can we talk about hormones? 

This month I have been feeling a low grade depression, I feel it is hormone related as it happens after ovulation.  This has been my pattern all my adult life but once I saw through it with the principles I saw that it was not two weeks low mood & I had good days and bad days in the 2nd half of my cycle. But this month I am not lifting & I am totally resisting this. Then I go to, I must be perimenopausaul , how can I fix this? or what do I need to feel & trying to manage my experience.  Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

hi Clare I loved your book it’s not me and it’s not you. Would you say that When we heal do we get what we want to have in our life?' 

This course is blowing me away - quite literally 🤣 and I’m loving the journey. It is so powerful to confront the ego and feel into that contraction and inquire into the story from the position of neutral, curious awareness.

I am wanting to get more experientially connected with the portal of powerful healing. Your book recommendation for this portal is Dr Nicole LePara How to Do the Work. So before buying, I listened to a podcast with Dr Nicole speaking about the book and what she teaches in it. She talked repeatedly about her ethos being about moving beyond the traditional teachings of psychology to embracing the holistic inter-connected whole mind-body system and its inter-connectedness to all life as a whole..  

Then she emphasised about us being the chooser of our actions and I wondered if this was contradictory to the non-dual teaching of no chooser and doer. The latter is starting to really land for me - particularly the way that new choices/decisions occur sub-consciously through changes in what is understood by the mind-body system-  and I don’t want to resurrect old beliefs by reading this book if one of its keystone premises is that there is a little me who has the power to makes choices. Please can you advise me on any caveat as to how I engage with the messages in the book in order to gain from it the things you had in mind when you recommended it.

I am on the Be the Change course and I love what you are saying. Is there a risk though that it might open the doors to victim blaming? How do we make sure that doesn’t happen.

What was your most intense spiritual experience this year?.