Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

'What is the identified mind?' Listener question

Just giving voice to the things I spoke of on today's call multiplied the weight of them.  It really is all a matter of where the attention is directed.  I don't want to give more weight/authority to the story.  I don't really want to pay much attention to the story at all.  Would much rather just be in life and enjoy every minute of it.  So how can one NOT end up in a form of bypass in order to stay in flow?  

Follow up to self blame is an ego trip (10 Dec 2021) 

Thank you for doing this so thoughtfully 💚.

I listened to the podcast umpteen times, and yes I get it.

the ego ran the show for so long it’s still protesting against life. 

When I see my behaviour and witness it more and more I feel the impact it has and it’s terrible, there is no forgiveness in that.

It’s like watching a car crash over and over again. 

So are you saying I have to watch the car crash without doing anything about it??

 I always hoped that when I’m aware enough I can prevent this shameful behaviour.

I’m desperate for change.

I have a question about subliminals. Is there a right or wrong time for this? I started listening to your work half a year ago and it was so scary and over my head that I stopped. Then I came back later and now there seems to be less inner resistance or protection.

Can it be too soon? I am endlessly curious but how do I know that I am ready for it?  Also, if I spend this money on subliminals (I am a social worker and a single mother, so it’s quite an amount for me) am I really sure that I want nothing in return? Don’t I instantly want a change while knowing this attitude send me to hell and prison the last months? 

The subliminals would be some kind of blind trust which really feels right. Can you help me find out if it’s right for me?

What worries me the most that there is no relief or release. 

I stay in the stress, tension. 

Even with good, pleasant things, situations, or situations that go well. 

I go back to stress, hate etc. 

It's like I can't allow good things or happiness anymore. 

hi Clare I am divorced from my wife and we don’t have children. She has remarried. My mum is in her 90s and i said I will go to see her for Christmas Day but the whole thing is just making me feel so lonely. I have people I speak to in work but we don’t have the sort of relationship to meet up afterwards. I did have old friends from college but they are all quite far away and busy with their own things.  I would like to have a partner and I’ve tried to meet someone but nothing seems to work. Each year I just feel more and more alone. I know someone might say loneliness is just my thinking but it doesn’t feel like it. 

I listened to your podcast and read your book and of course you scare the hell out of me. Thank you for that.

I will try to put my question into words, English is not my first language and I am also not familiar with the words you use. However I try to ask a question about how we create our world.

I used to date a lot. After being in a very long relationship I threw myself out there. It was awesome, exciting and devastating. For one and a half years I experienced a range of emotions in a seemingly meaningful, certainly hurtful way. I was like on autopilot, repetitive behavior, the same story over and over again. My mind created heartbreak and drama for 18 Months. The protagonists changed continuously, so it wasn’t about any of them. Then it stopped.

Now I see what it was there for. How it helped me to understand what my mind is capable of. All the drama that makes me feel so free and alive is quite the opposite. But kind of amazing to. 

When I was fully in it, the (Tinder-)Algorithm presented guys on a regular basis. Handsome, smart, funny. To that time I felt like all those amazing men came into my life. Now it feels like I fabricated the entire thing. It appears to have come directly from my imagination. Like I was thinking of a lack of tenderness and there comes heartbroken a guy, talking about how sensitive and tender he is. I felt like I needed security, the came along a crav maga instructor. I sensed a feeling of lack or need and it was fulfilled for a second until it wasn’t. Like my sense of what I need was precisely attacked.

The cycle was like this: Sense of lack- search - match - wonderful feelings – disappointment - Sense of lack- search - match - wonderful feelings – disappointment 

Like gradual deconstruction. That was the word what came to mind over and over again, deconstruction. And the more I see that, the less I can reconstruct the old building. As if I not able to produce that. I cant make it up. Its empty

I recently realized how I have this kind of magical thinking a lot... It is clear what kind of dream theater happened there. In this case, the appearance or absence of men is probably just a psychological process

But then my mind turns it around  like: So when I get the “right” attitude then I can change the outside world. There is this one side which is so clearly made up. And then there is the other where it is so clear that whatever I think or say will not change what is about to happen. Can you see what is confusing me? How can there be such a clear manifestation of the felt sense of lack AND at the same time it feels so cocky to think I can control the outside world by doing/feeling/seeing something the “right” way.

It isn’t easy to put this into words. I hope this makes any sense to you at all. I guess, I am looking for magic.

My husband's job is to teach people to live in the now. He has helped hundreds of ordinary people that have been referred by mental health charities and the NHS etc. Some of these people get better after a lifetime of anxiety. He takes them straight to the experience of their true nature and they get it! He lives in the now too and doesn't worry about anything. Ever. You could say he is free. 

We often have discussions on the topic of the self. His 'argument 'is that if the self is illusory and has no free will /personal agency then who is it that is helping these people get better and how come these separate selves are improving?  

He feels that this is not random ie. it's just what's happening - and finds the approach that some non-duality teachers ( Jim et al) take would not help these people out of their suffering in the same way that Mike's approach seems to.

These teachers sometimes say "there is nothing you can do '' to help anyone. It's just what it is and yet 5 people have been guided to their true nature and awareness in the last week! 

Mike knows that he is following his internal guidance system at an individuated level of the all that is, but this doesn't seem random to him. 

This question is a bit unwieldy. Do you see where he is coming from?

I noticed when i hear something in the media about  a certain movement i want to speak up to my family.

A couples years ago i left a community  i was in since birth. I couldnt handle the rules all based (to my opinion) on fear, guild, and sin.

From that moment on my family socialy declared me death. My siblings no longer talked to me according to the rules of the community.

Sometimes i really want to speak up to them and let them know how it hurts they never contacted me again. I had some hope they come around. Becauce i never changed on a deep level. I "only" have different thoughts about life works.

But i know it will make no difference. In there eyes iam the lost one. The lost sheep.

I am sometimes stuggeling with it. I think it is acknowledgement i want from them. Being heard. Loved instead of feared. But they believe  they will be punised by God if they are socially interacting with me.

Maybe it's a mirror? Can i acknowledge it hurts me (or this mind body system) from time to time. Can i allow i choose a different pad in life and don't need permission from them to feel okay, whole.

It must be a mirror! But its SEEMS they are the problem. Out there!  This community! But i also see the flux in it becauce there are periods i don't even think about them or any of it.  

'What is the ego and what am I if not that?'