Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

About ADHD. Several years back i was told by psychiatrist i could have ADD (the more "dreamy' version) 

Can we see it as (different) neurotype instead of a diagnosis/label/"you are broken" point of view?

The label or problem is made up but i think we can't deny the human body mind had different types of form.

The "i" can easily get lost in the story of i have Add so "i am broken".

So on the other hand we can acknowledge the diversity and get real with it what can leads to freedom.No denial but also not claim it..and get lost in it. 

How you see it fit in this conversation of reality and true Self?

I'm hoping you can help me see something new around worry and preoccupation with my Grandchildren. I can see that the Parents are doing the best they can from what looks true for them, but from my perspective I can see how much of it is based on misunderstanding. And I see my Grandchildren soaking it up (as the learning sponges that they are) and I just want to jump in constantly and say no - don't believe it! For example, my Son and his Wife put my 12 year old Grand Daughter on anti-anxiety medication because they see her emotions as a problem. I feel helpless to stop any of it and I spend way too much time thinking about it. Can you help shed some light on this? 

Can you please do a podcast on What's at stake, I have been using that phrase and it really helps. When the need to ask that comes to mind it is usually at a time when the sensations are so constrictive and felt so deep. It has been helping me to not react at those times. It helps to have that realization that the only thing at stake is the thought of the identity. Why is it that the sensations are so dramatic at that time?

I wanted to ask you or maybe just see your thoughts around something that happened for me yesterday. 

They were a job rejection and a strong angry reaction to a FB post that was about repeating days over and over not being a life.​  I see that reaction speaks directly to my own shame and embarrassment that my life seems to be just that - repeated, wasted days. 

Later that night I woke with thoughts of shame and disappointment of how my life seems to have turned out, that I am wasting my life and embarrassed of the perceived barriers that lay heavy on any creativity or potential.  I compare myself to the collective "them" who are so much more worthy, useful and successful and the old me who could do the things I can't.   So separate and lacking. 

I felt anger rise up and in my mind I am smashing against the walls that surround me and screaming as loud as I can.  This was in my mind as my husband would have a start, but I silently screamed. I was reminded of something you had said about hitting at walls made of nothing but thin air.     

​​​​​​​Today I don't feel different about my situation. I think I know what has to happen, VOICE was so brilliant and started me down that path.  I just don't know who I am, I feel a bit lost. 

'You mention Ho'oponopono how does it fit in this conversation?' Listener question 

What is this heavy sense of guilt and wrongness that comes up from the depth of unconsciousness again and again? It comes up especially in dreams at night and in relation to people. 

I am caught between wanting to change (lose weight, get fitter, move more) & being stuck not making those changes.  I have plans to exercise & eat well every day, but rarely do. This has been an issue most of my life. Even thinking about it now brings tension & conflict feelings. I feel like I'm fighting myself. 

The one obstacle/habit is the pull to 'not move'. This started as a young teen when I moved away from family & friends & it was safer to keep my head down & not move/be quiet for hours each day (before then I was active & outside most of the time). I ended up sitting & thinking  thinking, thinking, which eventually led to eating. Over the years I have found myself sitting & mindlessly thinking, eating for hours (& sometimes rocking back & forth) wasting days. 

My husband would work on a Saturday & I would mean to do so much with my day, but I would end up sitting, thinking & eating & then rushing to tidy up/ shower before he got home. I would then lie about my day's activities. The inevitable weight gain killed my marriage & I am now doing the same in my current relationship. 

There is real fear about this relationship ending & being alone, but there is also sadness/anger about not being loved unless I'm this different active slim person.

What is going on with me & how do I break this habit (I am now in my 50s)?

Every Sunday we'll look at a different book. Ideally one that is about the 'real' world and which is relevant or useful for a conversation about spirituality, non-duality or reality. 

Today we are looking at Algorithms to Live By by Brian Christian. 

Why, when someone tells me they love me, I often can't feel that come into my being?  Is it because I don't know myself as love in that moment, or is thought telling me I'm unlovable or is it that it doesn't sound sincere (which is also a thought in that moment), or just what's up with that? Maybe it's all of these things.

Can spirituality have practical implications? Listener question