Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

Listener question: Since the courses I was in before a lot of awareness has taken place, sometimes I have something constantly lit up; an example would be:  wanting recognition, needing to be noticed.

I have been listening to some podcasts that Tim Downs posted about clean questioning plus the additional one about impeccable words.

My question is how will the healing unfold? 

I can clearly see how the 'recognigion' programing can be totally in awareness and therefore the rug is initially pulled, as it were. It's lit up there is nowhere to hide.  But if we have the same old habit repeating, albeit with a lot less charge.. Why years later are we still experiencing the same?

[Follow up to 15 October podcast) 

Thank you so much for your podcast on my question.

I‘m trying to write to you and describe what happened but I don‘t really know how. After listening to your podcast I cried for a while.. a space opened up. And things felt very different than usually before concerts.. almost to the point that I got suspicious if I should become more nervous again.. Afterwards I had a beautiful concert experience. 

I almost feel a bit ungrateful to ask this follow up question but it seems somehow important right now.. 

If a concert is a moment where I get challenged to let go of my selfidentity.. What happens afterwards?

I noticed that after the concert I stayed in this amazing „open space“ for another two days. But slowly some habbits started coming back. I endet up occupying my mind with either TV or listening to podcasts, sort of trying to distract myself from something, but this time I didn‘t even know what I‘m trying to distract myself from..

I have two more concerts to play but I don’t have this clear vision anymore what needs to get done until then. Also I got a cold which is a thing that seems to happen quite often to me before important events..

I suspect that I‘m making up some stories there but can’t really see it.

It still feels like somethings are fundamentally different. I don‘t feel so tight and scared anymore.. it almost feels to me that I‘m scared of this new freedom. Is that possible?

Sorry for this long E-Mail..

My daughter, at University is having problems and it is consuming my thoughts at times. I see that I am in separation, there is a definite daughter and an actual problem to be solved,it also feels like I should be able, or its up to me, to solve it.  

Last night I found myself wracking my brains to see where this conversation can help me.  "It's just thoughts" kept coming to mind, which I argued with myself that I am actually a thought too and I have jumped on a hamster wheel of trying to fix things, be in control.  Then the fork in the road picture came to mind, well I'm on the left fork, the right fork it where I need to be, so how do I get there?  Thinking so hard to figure it out.   As you can see the ways I have felt in the past in this conversation have deserted me in favour of the separate world.

In quieter moments I can see that I am identifying with her problems and

1. thinking my anxieties have given her these thoughts, so she is taking after me, or

2. I am using my experience and assuming her experience is exactly the same.  I can see that I have knowledge that could help but am forcing it a bit too much. I find myself giving her suggestions I have not followed myself. 

I really valued your two Podcasts last month on clean questions and have listened to them several times. 

I see a link between don Miguel Ruiz’s most important First Agreement; Be Impeccable With Your Word and Clean Language/Clean Coaching. 

Please can you expand further on what you mean by clean questions and where it originated? 

I am just about to order Radical Candor and I wondered how that ties in with clean questions too. 

Please can you share a further Podcast on this? 

Learned 'helpFULness' 

Listener question: Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the topic of selfidentity.. I am a musician and will soon have some concerts that seem very important for my future. I don‘t feel prepared enough, I have this feeling that I really don‘t know what is going to happen and if I will be able to play the pieces or if I will be too nervous. At the same time, I know that I would have the same feeling even if I had more time to prepare.

I started wondering if playing in front of an audience kind of forces me to let go of the idea of who my self is. In the phases when I‘m freaking out about the concert the words „I‘m going to die“ crossed my mind a couple of times. I started wondering if thats actually what is happening: my self identity is questioned whether it‘s real or not, so there actually is a part of me that is under the threat of metaphorically dying..

Also it feels so weird that the thing that is most important in my life is the one that now scares me to death.

I‘m actually not really sure what my question is.. It just feels like such a massive risk to play. And I was wondering if you could share with me some thoughts on this.

Podcast to accompany today's blog post on the outside-in life 

https://claredimond.com/outside-in-life/

Listener question: Can you speak to the mind's tendency to hear/label statements like "there is no other" or "there is no self" or "any thought isn't true, all thoughts are untrue" or "this world is an illusion" as denial or bypassing illness, injury, racism, and other harms in this physical world? Is this a slippery way for the mind to reinforce itself and be "right" with its insistence that there IS a world, people, etc.? 

Or is the mind reinforcing itself when it avoids illness, injury, racism, etc. through using these statements? Both/And? No way to know?

I’m revisiting the material in the YOU course and during one of the lessons you spoke about the:

“Localisation of being in this apparent form”

I’m not sure that I quite understand what you mean!  I get the second part, the apparent form, but can’t grasp what you mean by localisation of being! Would you be able to talk more about this on a Podcast sometime please?

Listener question: Where do I draw the line (part 2).