Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

I've struggled with being significantly overweight most of my adult life and I'm finding myself more and more confused about it. This conversation has helped me to see more clearly around other suffering and I feel much more at peace with whatever arises. However, when I'm suffering about my weight (which is often) and I look at what's true, I get confused. It is true that it's healthier not being so overweight, and then there's hunger, I don't know when it's real or habit etc. Also, when you say that genuine change can never come unless identification with self falls away I get scared because I wonder if my motives to lose are to secure the self. I want to lose so I can be healthier, feel better and go up stairs without getting out of breath etc., but I also want to look better in my clothes - so I wonder if I'm trying to lose for the "wrong" reasons. Can you shed any light on this? 

Conditioning, behaviour and choice 

This may have been answered before, but how do you know where to draw the line in relationships? I have been married for over 30 years. My husband regularly -maybe once a month or every couple of months - loses his temper and then will shout and swear at me. I have told him not to do that on many occasions, and how my ‘self esteem ‘ ( I know, intellectually, no such thing, if no self)then sinks even further because I don’t just walk out. But if all is inside out, it is my thoughts about the shouting and swearing, I could instead - in theory- feel compassion for his discomfort and stress. But the pattern is that I tend to freeze or shout back . Sometimes now I can just be present with it for a bit, but can’t maintain it, and it doesn’t seem to help much.  But if we are supposed to be unconditionally loving of our partners, then I feel I should be able to accept this, when otherwise things are ok, and he has to put up with my almost constant anxiety and depression. ( and then the question arises , would I be different without the regular injections of bile) And  I know that other people in my position probably wouldn’t give it a second thought and just brush or laugh it off, it’s probably just my insane overthinking and analysing that keeps me stuck. It feels like all the positive things are just wiped out when he behaves like that, but then that is me expecting inhuman perfection perhaps.

Thanks for your help

I was wondering if you could follow up on your recent Podcast about 'Who are we' to talk about what makes us unique?  

Fundamentally we are all the same awareness, intelligence & energy made into form but what about personalities, preferences and skills?  People in reality can seem very different - some people are more analytical and scientific whereas others are naturally creative or good at practical things.  Where does this conversation sit with nature v's nurture?  I like the idea that we all can do anything if we practise enough and that our abilities aren't fixed but how similar or different are we really?

Resistance and behavioural change

What is going on with confusion? 

I have been reflecting on the use of the terms consciousness/awareness which appear to be interchangeable in the way some teachers use them and life/animating force/intelligence. I have heard our true self as both awareness and life/animating force/intelligence and although I know they are all concepts I wonder if you could help me understand them as relative concepts a bit better or in fact if they are pointing to the same indescribable truth.

Can you speak more to how dissolution of the self concept, or the belief in it, makes us more of what/who we really are? Who are we if we aren't identified with the constriction of fear?

Thank you