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Judgment can be both useful and harmful. When it works well it's a safety mechanism for keeping kids from being harmed. When it works badly it can create feelings of shame and fear which stop parents reaching out for help, cause us to doubt our instincts and miss the vital importance of connection with our children. 

Sometimes, our fear of judgment can even paralyse us parents and stop us making the decision we know would be better for our family.

We can't control what others think about us but we can control how we think about ourselves and how we respond to judgment.

That's why I've set up this podcast to give you a chance to hear other parents talk about what experts say, and realise that there is absolutely no perfect parent or perfect way to do things. 

Personally, I've found parenting more of a haggle than an art. People who think they have the right answer rarely understand the complexities of our own haggle.

TOP TIPS SHARED IN THE EPISODE:

1. Lead with Empathy, Not Authority

Start by acknowledging how hard parenting can be."I know how tough it is—I've been there too." This creates a shared experience, not a hierarchy.

2. Ask, Don’t Assume

Instead of diving in with advice, invite the conversation:

"Would it help if I shared something that worked for me?"
"Are you looking for suggestions or just someone to listen?"
This gives them control, which preserves their dignity.

3. Share, Don’t Instruct

Frame advice as personal experience or something you've come across—not a prescription:

"What really helped us was..."
"I read something interesting the other day about how teens..."

Avoid “should,” “always,” or “never” statements.

4. Validate Before You Advise

Before offering tips, show you understand their situatio

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