Welcome to Swinger 101 — the episode we wish every curious couple listened to before jumping into the lifestyle.

In this Wednesday Quickie, Adam & Pris break down the real basics of swinging in a way only Beyond Monogamy can: honest, funny, raw, and actually helpful. If you're brand new, lifestyle-curious, or still Googling questions at 2am, this episode is for you.

We cover what swinging really is (and what it absolutely is not), how it differs from open relationships and polyamory, and why swinging is primarily a sexually-focused branch of ethical non-monogamy.

From there, we get into the stuff newbies are usually too scared to ask out loud:

• Do you have to be married to swing?
• Do swingers date or is it more casual?
• How do you even bring this up to your partner?
• What if one person wants it more than the other?
• What boundaries should you talk about first?
• Rules vs boundaries — what's the difference?
• How do you deal with jealousy when it shows up?
• Can you say no… even mid-experience?

We also walk through what actually happens at swinger clubs (spoiler: it's not an Eyes Wide Shut orgy), how privacy is protected, what first nights usually look like, and why watching is always okay.

Adam opens up about anxiety, nerves, and learning how to finally find his "no," while Pris talks honestly about jealousy, communication, and why being upfront saves everyone time and emotional energy.

We also cover:

• Soft swap vs full swap
• Approaching other couples without being awkward
• Apps, websites, and finding community safely
• Verification, fake profiles, and red flags
• STI conversations, testing, and condom expectations
• Discretion, careers, family, and real-world consequences

This episode is about doing the lifestyle intentionally, ethically, and without wrecking your relationship.

If you're new — welcome. If you're seasoned — you might still learn something. And if you've been thinking about swinging but don't know where to start… this is it.

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