Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50

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In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I break down the four techniques I teach men who want to turn their partner on with confidence. I explain why old moves fail with a new partner. I show you why bragging about your skills shuts a woman down. I walk you through the steps most women respond to. You learn why slow kissing matters, why touch needs intention, how oral sex shifts with hormones, and why toys increase pleasure for women at every age. This episode gives you a simple plan to become a more attentive and more satisfying lover.

Timestamps:

00:00 When old moves stop working

00:32 Why bragging about your skills backfires

01:06 Why slower sex increases arousal

01:50 The four techniques women respond to

02:10 Deep, slow kissing

03:00 Touch that builds tension

04:03 Oral sex based on her cues

05:12 Why toys boost pleasure

06:30 Why penetration rarely leads to orgasm

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Masturbation is not a throwaway habit. It is training and you are probably doing it wrong. In this episode, I sit with sexologist and Love Lab host Kevin Anthony to show men how mindful self-pleasure upgrades stamina, sensitivity, and confidence in and out of the bedroom.

We cover the biggest mistakes men make, including rushing to the finish and outsourcing arousal to porn. Kevin walks through the arousal scale, edging, and how to separate orgasm from ejaculation. We dig into delayed ejaculation, the “death grip,” desensitization, and how to resensitize your body. We also break down strokers, pumps, condoms, and when meds help or hinder. You get a practical framework to slow down, feel more, and choose when to ejaculate.

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

02:05 Why a masturbation practice matters for men

05:12 How habits train performance in bed

06:48 The speed problem and the orgasm gap

08:58 Porn use. Hyper-stimulation and desensitization

12:52 Delayed ejaculation and loss of sensation

15:16 The “death grip.” Injury and numbness risks

17:48 Edging, tantra, and Taoist ejaculation frequency

21:22 Orgasm vs ejaculation. Physiology and separation

24:58 Mindful masturbation. Arousal scale and pacing

28:12 Step-by-step: build, back off, repeat, choose the finish

29:56 Tools and strokers. When they help. When they hurt

32:04 Pumps vs meds. Health-first strategy and retention rings

34:56 Mindset shift. Slow down, train, feel more

36:22 Lightning round: definition of sex, best multi-orgasmic run, beach fantasy

38:10 Wrap-up.

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Kevin Anthony is a Certified Sexologist by the American Board of Sexology, a Certified Tantra Counselor, Certified Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner, and a Sex, Love & Relationship coach. For over 10 years I have worked with men, women, and couples to help them have stronger, happier, more loving relationships, and the best sex of their lives!

He is also the host of “The Love Lab Podcast”, co-founder of the popular YouTube channel “Kevin Anthony & Céline Remy“, and the co-creator of the online course series “Power and Mastery”; which is a complete Men’s S//xual Mastery Training to develop a man’s stamina, boost confidence, and enhance his s//xual abilities.

Connect with Kevin Anthony:

Website: https://www.kevinanthonycoaching.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kevinanthonycoaching

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

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Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Most people are texting wrong. In this episode I break down why the “Hi. How are you?” cycle kills attraction and how to turn texting into a tool for real connection. Learn how to craft messages that show curiosity, spark chemistry, and move things off the screen and into real life. If your conversations keep dying in the chat, this episode will change the way you text forever.

Timestamps:

00:00 – You’re Texting Wrong: Why Conversations Die Fast

00:45 – The “Hi. How Are You?” Trap

01:32 – Lazy Texting and the Emoji Problem

02:40 – Crafting Better Questions that Build Connection

03:28 – The Secret to Flirty, Fun Banter

04:20 – How to Use Curiosity to Spark Chemistry

05:00 – Move From Text to Real Connection

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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Men perform. Women please. Connection suffers. In this episode, I sit down with midlife sex expert Susan Bratton to decode desire, libido mismatch, and orgasmic skills for long-term couples. You get a clear map: responsive vs spontaneous desire, why “grab a boob and stick it in” fails, how to warm up arousal, and practical fixes for delayed ejaculation and low drive. Susan lays out small offers, nurturing touch, arousal timelines, orgasmic intercourse techniques, and regenerative sexual health tools. The goal is simple. Create consistent, mutually satisfying intimacy where both partners pursue pleasure without shame.

Timestamps:

00:00 Why performance culture kills connection

02:05 Responsive vs spontaneous desire in plain terms

04:36 Libido mismatch is often bad information and bad sex

07:10 Small offers that rebuild safety and interest

10:02 Nurturing touch vs sensual vs sexual touch

12:45 Female arousal timeline and the 20–30 minute lift

15:18 Orgasmic intercourse techniques the vagina likes

18:04 Yoni massage, oral basics, and expanded orgasm

21:12 Toys that enhance sensation and shared control

23:55 Shame, appetite, and creating permission for desire

26:08 Scheduling intimacy without killing the vibe

28:30 Delayed ejaculation Drivers and a practical stack

31:05 Blood flow support Nitric oxide, vacuum training

33:10 Acoustic wave therapy overview and outcomes

35:05 Rapid-fire Q&A Definition of sex, best orgasms, fantasy

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Susan is a champion and advocate for all those who desire ageless intimacy. 

She is a best-selling author and publisher of 44 books and programs including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him and many more. She’s the official company spokesperson for GAINSWave® and The Dr. Joel Kaplan Company. 

She serves as Chief Advocacy Officer of ProDxHealth.org STI testing.

Susan has been a featured guest on over 1,000 podcasts and TV shows, including Diary of a CEO, You Are Not Broken, Sex with Emily, The Human Upgrade with Dave Asprey, Good Moms Bad Choices, Heal Thyself, IDIOT with Laura Clery, The Infamous “Clit Camp” Music Video, LuvBites with Dr. Tara, and The Chalene Show. 

Her books and interviews have helped millions take control of their sexual joy.

Her message resonates across gender and age because it’s rooted in agency, body literacy, and connection.

Connect with Susan Bratton:

Website: https://susanbratton.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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Good sex doesn’t happen by accident—it takes curiosity, communication, and intention. In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I’m breaking down five simple but powerful ways to go from “meh” to mind-blowing in the bedroom. From making foreplay last all day to using your words with confidence, these are the practical, pleasure-focused habits that transform intimacy at any age.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Introduction: What Great Sex Really Takes

00:25 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth with Karen Bigman

01:00 – Why “Good Sex” Isn’t Enough

01:35 – Tip #1: Get Curious

02:10 – Tip #2: Slow It Down

02:45 – Tip #3: Talk Dirty (or Honestly)

03:20 – Tip #4: Play With Power

03:55 – Tip #5: Prioritize Pleasure, Not Performance

04:40 – Final Thoughts: Take the Pressure Off and Enjoy

05:00 – Outro: Redefining Life and Sex After 50

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O

https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook

🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout!

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure!

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Men, sex, and aging without the macho script. I sit down with Dr. Chris Donaghue—clinical sexologist, therapist, and host of Loveline—to unpack masculinity, libido, and connection in midlife. We dig into why “being a man” often blocks intimacy, how to get out of performance mode, and what it takes to be a better partner after 50.

We talk practical dating resets, equity vs. equality on first dates, why vibrators shouldn’t threaten anyone, and how to build a personal “relational mission statement.” If you’re newly single or just ready to evolve, this episode gives you a clear path back into your body, your values, and real intimacy.

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro: Men, sex, and aging without the script

01:12 Meet Dr. Chris Donaghue & why masculinity needs a reset

03:08 “Disidentifying” from gender roles to become a better partner

05:02 Getting back into your body vs. performing intimacy

06:45 Values, ethics, and your relational mission statement

08:36 America’s performance culture and its impact on love

10:10 Dating mindset: “The person you date is in your care”

12:04 Childhood socialization: boys vs. girls and empathy gaps

14:06 Rewriting the “strong man” expectation with softness

15:32 Who pays? Equality vs. equity on first dates

17:34 The confusion men feel: strong vs. vulnerable on demand

19:02 Emotional literacy: what men are “allowed” to feel

20:05 Sex talk: scripts, vibrators, and de-centering orgasm

22:11 How to date Karen: knowledge gaps, boundaries, and media

23:40 Public work ≠ no boundaries: consent and respect

25:02 “What are you working on?”—owning your growth

26:36 Therapy vs. “I coached myself”: why guidance matters

28:05 Practical first steps for newly single men

29:40 Libido as life energy: bringing passion back

31:02 Best sex isn’t performance—it’s connection

31:55 Wrap up + where to find Dr. Donaghue

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Dr. Chris Donaghue is a psychotherapist specializing in couples and sex therapy, with a private practice in addition to his work as a lecturer and educator. He serves as the Director of Clinical Education for The Sexual Health Alliance and is the Dean of Education and lead faculty for The Institute at The Sexual Health Alliance’s doctoral program. He also chairs the organization’s Annual Sexological Conference. 

Dr. Donaghue is the author of Rebel Love and Sex Outside the Lines: Authentic Sexuality in a Sexually Dysfunctional Culture, and has contributed chapters to several books, including The Sex Issue by the editors of Goop.

Connect with Dr. Chris Donaghue:

Website: https://www.drchrisdonaghue.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdonaghue

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

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Ever wondered why someone pays to be dominated? In this electrifying episode, I sit down with Miss May, a professional dominatrix, dungeon owner, and kink educator based in London and Berlin. We unpack what it really means to be a dominatrix — from understanding BDSM and power exchange to why humiliation and taboo fantasies can actually be healing. Ms. May shares what her clients request most, how kink can create emotional release, and what it’s like to separate her professional “Mistress” persona from her personal life.

This is not your typical sex conversation — it’s raw, fascinating, and deeply human.

👉 Watch Part 2 on Substack for the full unfiltered visual version (YouTube gets a little sensitive).

Head to Substack here: https://karenbigman.substack.com/p/why-people-pay-to-be-dominated-and

Timestamps:

00:00 – Show intro: mission + midlife sexuality

00:35 – Why people pay to be dominated

01:05 – Guest intro: Ms. May, dominatrix & dungeon owner

01:45 – Path to pro: from private submissive to domme

03:00 – Learning the dungeon “pro” side

03:40 – Berlin studio years (Fetish Institute)

04:20 – BDSM 101: terms, roles, “vanilla” clarified

05:30 – Who hires a domme: client diversity

06:10 – Common requests: latex, bondage sacks, hoods, sensory play

07:05 – Subspace and meditative states explained

07:45 – Taboo play and humiliation: why it appeals

08:40 – Power release for high-status clients

09:15 – Can kink heal? Shame, consent, reclamation

10:05 – Re-writing past scripts and saying “no”

10:45 – Is kink always sexual? What “sex” means here

11:35 – Outcomes: orgasm vs experience, cages, spanking, observation

12:25 – Boundaries and emotional detachment as a pro

13:05 – Dating while a sex worker: stigma and challenges

13:55 – Visual segment setup: toy wall preview

14:15 – Collars, leashes, gags, cuffs: use cases

15:05 – Latex bondage jacket: full restraint demo

15:55 – Session length: 2–6 hours or longer with breaks

16:25 – Safety checks: breath, numbness, positioning

16:55 – Pre-scene negotiation: activities, health, tools, marks

17:45 – Consent frameworks: traffic-light safe words

18:25 – Mid-scene check-ins and non-verbal protocols

18:55 – Aftercare: down-ramp, tea, biscuits, grounding

19:30 – How to hire a pro: research, screening, deposits

20:20 – Red flags and scams: who contacts whom

20:55 – Pricing in London: typical hourly range

21:20 – Legal landscape: UK partial legality

21:55 – Germany model: registration and limits

22:30 – Why decriminalization is preferred

23:00 – UK vs Germany studio culture and isolation

23:35 – Personal switch: being submissive privately

24:00 – Lightning round: definition of sex

24:25 – Lightning round: best orgasm

24:45 – Lightning round: untried fantasy

25:05 – Key takeaways

25:35 – Substack CTA: full video and sensitive visuals

26:10 – Like, follow, review, share

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Miss May is a professional Dominatrix and dungeon owner. In the last years she has been working internationally being based in London and Berlin. In 2023 she opened her own dungeon called E1DARKROOM in London where she hosts professional sessions as well as events. Apart from spending time in the dungeon, Miss May hosts workshops, creates femdom content and does performances at different events all around the UK and Europe. 

Connect with Miss May:

Instagram: @mismayberlin

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O

https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook

🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout!

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure!

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Is it real love or manipulation in disguise? In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I unpack the difference between genuine affection and love bombing, how to spot the red flags early, what behaviors cross the line from caring to controlling, and why those of us with anxious attachment styles can be especially vulnerable. Learn how to trust your instincts, slow down the pace, and protect yourself from emotional manipulation disguised as romance.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro: When Love Feels Too Intense

00:45 – What Love Bombing Really Is

01:45 – Signs You’re Being Love Bombed

02:50 – The Psychology Behind the Behavior

03:40 – Overly Affectionate vs. Manipulative

04:30 – How to Protect Yourself: Boundaries & Red Flags

05:30 – Final Thoughts: Trusting Your Instincts

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this follow-up to Part 1, I continue my candid conversation with licensed professional counselor and AASECT-certified sex therapist Kelvin Pace, diving even deeper into what consensual non-monogamy really looks like in practice. From swinging to polyamory to kink, we unpack the myths, labels, and lived realities behind open relationships. Kelvin explains why communication and consent—not structure—define success, and why non-monogamous relationships can often be just as loving and committed as traditional ones. We also explore the overlap between kink and CNM, how the military became part of swinging lore, and the importance of sex-positive therapy that challenges bias instead of pathologizing pleasure.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Welcome back & why you should listen to Part 1 first

00:58 – Do open marriages usually end?

02:03 – Swinging vs. polyamory: orientation or play?

04:25 – The many forms of consensual non-monogamy

06:10 – How kink overlaps (and doesn’t) with CNM

08:02 – The biggest myths about non-monogamy

10:10 – Therapy, bias, and the importance of consent

12:05 – Parenting and openness about sexuality

14:00 – Did swinging really start in the military?

15:22 – Kelvin’s quick-fire questions: definition, orgasm, fantasy

17:00 – Where to find Kelvin

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Kelvin Pace graduated with a master’s in clinical psychology from the University of Alaska Anchorage in 2009. He is a licensed professional counselor and supervisor and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor.

He is the owner of KpaceCounseling, LLC in Anchorage, Alaska. Kelvin works with couples and individuals dealing with sexual or relationship issues that include low desire, anxiety surrounding sex, and infidelity. His current focus is on mindfulness-based interventions to manage sexual concerns, working with individuals and couples either in or looking to explore non-traditional relationship orientations such as consensual/ethical non-monogamy.

Connect with Kelvin Pace:

Website: kpacecounseling.net

Instagram: @kpace37

Facebook: @kpacecounselingLLC

Phone: 907-519-2989

Email: [email protected]

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

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Open relationships sound exciting to some — and absolutely terrifying to others. But what really happens when you open up your marriage? Can it save your relationship… or destroy it?

In this episode, I sit down with Kelvin Pace, a licensed professional counselor, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, and former Army medic turned intimacy expert. Kelvin brings courage, compassion, and clinical insight to one of the most misunderstood topics in modern relationships — consensual non-monogamy.

We talk about what it means to open a marriage consciously and ethically, how to navigate jealousy without shame, and why community and communication matter more than ever. Kelvin also shares how mindfulness and sensate focus can help couples reconnect with pleasure — without the pressure of performance.

If you’ve ever wondered whether open relationships can actually work — or what it takes to make them work — this conversation will challenge your assumptions and maybe even your boundaries.

Timestamps:

00:00 – What really happens when you open your marriage?

00:43 – Meet Kelvin Pace

02:06 – Sex surrogates and sensate focus explained

04:11 – How mindfulness changes sex

06:56 – Defining open relationships and polyamory

08:46 – The myth of compersion and toxic non-monogamy

10:31 – Managing jealousy and emotional regulation

12:46 – Stay tuned for part 2!

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Kelvin Pace graduated with a master’s in clinical psychology from the University of Alaska Anchorage in 2009. He is a licensed professional counselor and supervisor and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor.

He is the owner of KpaceCounseling, LLC in Anchorage, Alaska. Kelvin works with couples and individuals dealing with sexual or relationship issues that include low desire, anxiety surrounding sex, and infidelity. His current focus is on mindfulness-based interventions to manage sexual concerns, working with individuals and couples either in or looking to explore non-traditional relationship orientations such as consensual/ethical non-monogamy.

Connect with Kelvin Pace:

Website: kpacecounseling.net

Instagram: @kpace37

Facebook: @kpacecounselingLLC

Phone: 907-519-2989

Email: [email protected]

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.