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Up to 60% of women have fantasized about being dominated — and almost none of them have said it out loud.

This one's for the men who want to deliver what she's been replaying in her head and never asked for. Five spanking fantasies, the psychology behind each, and exactly how to make them land sexy instead of awkward — including how to talk about it first, how to keep it safe, and the aftercare most men skip.

What you'll learn: 

✔ How to bring it up so she actually says yes — and why consent makes her let go 
✔ Where it's safe, where it's never safe, and how to build intensity the right way 
✔ The over-the-knee punishment-and-praise loop she craves most 
✔ The anticipation move nobody talks about — and why aftercare is non-negotiable

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He's googling it at 2 AM and erasing his search history. Because he still thinks wanting to be pegged means something about who he is. It doesn't. And tonight we're blowing that myth wide open.

Interest in pegging among straight men is up 200% according to Feeld's 2025 annual report. Not in some dark corner of the internet — on mainstream dating apps. Men are putting it on their sexual bucket lists, bringing it up on second dates, and still going silent when it matters most. Today I sat down with Luna Matatas — sex and pleasure educator with over two decades of experience and the creator of Peg the Patriarchy — to talk about what pegging actually is, what men are really asking for when they ask for it, and what women get out of strapping it on.

In this episode:

• What pegging is — and what it isn't
• Why wanting to be pegged says nothing about his sexuality
• The prostate: what it is, where it is, and why men are missing out
• What women actually get out of giving it — physically, emotionally, erotically
• How to have the conversation with your partner without killing the mood
• A step-by-step guide to the first time — positions, lube, pace, and what not to do
• Why men who've been pegged say it makes them better lovers

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82% of women don't reliably come from penetration alone. Here's what's actually missing — and the five moves that fix it.

If she's never finished while you're inside her, it's not her body and it's not yours. It's anatomy. And once you understand it, everything changes.

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 ✔ How to change your angle so her clitoris gets contact on every stroke
 ✔ Why you keep losing her right when she's about to get there — and how to stop
 ✔ The one thing that's been missing from penetration her entire life

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She's not hiding her book because she's embarrassed. She's hiding it because what she's reading is giving her something her sex life isn't — and nobody's asking what that means for your relationship.

Romance is the fastest-growing category in print. 51 million units sold in the last year. One in four NYT hardcover fiction bestsellers was romantasy. Women aren't casually reading this stuff. They're consuming it. Today I sat down with Carolyn Hood — certified sex therapist, licensed clinical social worker, and author of Sex Begets Sex: Reclaiming Desire as an Act of Female Empowerment — to decode exactly what's going on.

In this episode:

• What dark romance, romantasy, and smut are actually giving her that real life isn't
• Who's reading it — and why the numbers point straight to moms and long-term partners
• The porn parallel nobody wants to say out loud (but we say it)
• How to use her book to open a conversation you've both been avoiding
• Why innuendo and anticipation are the low-effort moves with the highest return
• 3 things you can do tonight to bring the heat from the pages into your bedroom

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A listener wrote in: "I'm 47 years old and going through perimenopause. Previously I would orgasm with my husband 90-95% of the time. Now I only orgasm 5-10% of the time."

She's not alone. Roughly half of all women experience orgasm changes during perimenopause — and almost none are told why or what to do about it. This episode covers the physiology behind the shift, the medical options most women don't know exist (including why the FDA just reversed 20 years of warnings about hormone therapy), and the five moves that bring pleasure back.

What you'll learn:
 ✔ The three physical changes during perimenopause that directly affect orgasm
 ✔ Why the FDA removed the black box warning from HRT — and what that means for her
 ✔ How to find hormone therapy providers online, including estrogen and testosterone
 ✔ Why her foreplay timeline has shifted and how to adjust
 ✔ How to relearn her body together after decades of knowing what worked
 ✔ Why taking the orgasm off the table is paradoxically what brings it back

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97% of adults have sexual fantasies. Less than a third ever act on them. The fear is almost never accurate — and in this episode, we're closing the gap between what you want and what you actually do.

I'll be honest: role play has always given me the ick. So I brought in Emma Velicski — romance author and founder of Saturday Box, the company turning kink and role play into a game you can actually play with your partner — to figure out why so many of us freeze, and how to finally get started.

We get into:

• What role play actually is (it's broader than you think)
• The real reason couples who want to try it never do
• Why it feels like a performance — and how to turn it back into play
• The "cheap knockoff" fear nobody names out loud
• Exactly how to start tonight, no costume required

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Most men have tried to make this happen. Most have done it wrong. And almost none of them understand what's actually going on in her body when it does.

This episode covers the real anatomy behind this response, why the technique most men learned from the internet actually works against them, the one thing she's going to say in the moment that most men completely misread, and why relaxation — not force — is what makes this possible.

What you'll learn: 

✔ The anatomy behind this response that most men have never been taught ✔ Why the most common technique is the reason it's not working 
✔ The conversation you need to have before you try anything 
✔ The one sentence she'll say that changes everything — and what to do when you hear it 
✔ Why what you do after matters just as much as the technique itself

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You never signed a purity pledge. Maybe you never set foot in a church. But the rules got in anyway — through locker rooms, movies, the way women around you were talked about, the bodies that got shamed. And now they're in your bedroom, quietly wrecking everything.

Today I'm talking with Erika Smith — award-winning sexuality educator, 25 years in the field, and creator of the Purity Culture Dropout program — about the specific ways purity culture shows up in men who consider themselves good allies. Men who want their partners to have orgasms. Men who are still, without knowing it, making it impossible for her to ask for what she wants.

We get into:

• Why she can't tell you to stop — even when she wants to
• The "good girl/bad girl" split that's killing your sex life right now
• How penis-centered sex became the default (and what it's costing both of you)
• The porn conversation that's destroying otherwise healthy relationships
• Where to start if you want to actually change what's happening in your bedroom

This one's for the men who are trying. And the women who love them.

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You can take her to a regular orgasm. Or you can take her to one she'll be thinking about for weeks. Edging is the difference.

In this episode, I'm breaking down 5 moves for how to edge her with your hands until she begs you to let her finish. The four signs that tell you she's at the edge. How to pull her back without losing her. Why each climb gets faster. How many edges actually work. And how to let her finish in a way that triggers a rolling orgasm she's never had with anyone.

This episode also addresses something most edging content ignores: what to do with a partner who struggles to orgasm at all. I'm one of those women, and I'm walking through how to build toward edging when she can't easily get to the edge in the first place.

We're covering: 
→ The 4 science-backed signs she's about to come 
→ The pull back — and why stopping completely ruins everything → How to bring her back up faster each time 
→ The 3-edge rule and when to break it 
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Most men learned foreplay from porn. And porn doesn't do foreplay — it does a sped-up, skip-to-the-good-part performance that taught an entire generation that touching a woman is just a formality. She's lying there wondering why she isn't feeling it. It's not her. It's the script.

Today's guest has spent 17 years collecting real-world data on exactly what porn got wrong — and what women actually need. Cindy Gallop is the founder and CEO of MakeLoveNotPorn, the world's first real-world sex platform, former Advertising Woman of the Year, and one of the most talked-about TED speakers in history.

In this episode:

• Why porn turned foreplay into a formality — and what she actually needs instead
• The 3-word cheat sheet every woman wishes her partner had
• Why lube and toys aren't optional — they're the whole game
• How to talk about sex in bed without killing the mood
• What real-world sex actually looks like versus the porn performance
• Why good foreplay starts way before anyone gets naked

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