Nope! We're Not Monogamous

Tantra, Throuples, and the Best Sex of Her Life at 65 with Xanet Pailet


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What happens when you go from 26 years in a sexless marriage… to a full-blown sexual awakening in your 50s? This week, I’m joined by Xanet Pailet — a former healthcare lawyer turned tantra teacher, somatic sex coach, and the author of Living an Orgasmic Life.

We’re talking about:

  • How she went from disconnected and dissociated… to having the best sex of her life in her 60s
  • Why pleasure is your birthright (and what to do if that feels impossible right now)
  • Why communication matters more than rules — and what healthy sex agreements can actually look like
  • How trauma, disconnection, and shame keep people stuck in unsatisfying sex lives
  • Xanet’s year-long throuple experience (including a very helpful metamour 👀)
  • How to figure out what you want in non-monogamy, even if it’s not what your partner wants
  • What to do when pleasure feels really far away

If you’ve ever felt broken, stuck, or too late for good sex and real intimacy — this one is gonna hit. There’s so much wisdom here for midlife lovers, non-monogamous folks, and anyone healing their relationship to pleasure.

🔗 Links + Resources:
Get Xanet’s free gift: 10 Ways to Reignite Your Relationship
Book a private retreat with Xanet: passionateintimacyretreats.com
Follow us on Patreon for bonus content like “Just the Tip”: patreon.com/notmonogamous

🎧 Listen now and let yourself feel what’s possible.

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