Brandon recovers from Pride hangover. Plus: a TV recap, why you shouldn't sleep on J. Lo movies, and some good ol' messy mess with Taylor Tomlinson. 📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com, and join us on YouTube and Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.comWatch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6WgSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happy Pride, Messy Mob!! Writer, comedian Taylor Tomlinson came to play! Brandon and "Tay Tay" imagine a hypothetical "queer-platonic" marriage, debate location sharing etiquette, and Taylor shares one of the most surprising turns a hookup has ever taken in Messy's history. Plus: a listener sends a letter about being rejected by their church community after coming out — and how to grieve a community that won't grieve you back.  📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com, and join us on YouTube and Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.comWatch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6WgSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Summer is here, and Brandon is clearing the calendar for reality TV. Starting with this episode, the messy bonuses are going all-in on the shows running our brains into rot all season — Bravo's Summer House reunion, Love Island USA Season 7 with Ariana Madix hosting, and whatever other reality TV chaos the universe coughs up between now and Labor Day. And to close out, bonus footage from our episode with Sarah Jones (Tony-winning artist, host of America, Who Hurt You?) on receiving compliments without flinching, being a recovering perfectionist, and why "messy" is the most healed version of yourself. 📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com, and join us on YouTube and Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.comWatch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6WgSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sarah Jones came to the couch and left us speechless. The Tony-winning performer gets radically honest about how she's been "cheating" on every partner—not with another person, but with a fantasy version of who they could become. From there, we spiral into the messy truth about workaholism as a post-traumatic inherited response (yes, she connects it all the way back), and why Trisha Hersey's Rest Is Resistance is the book that changed everything. We dig into messy mail from a listener carrying heartbreak they can't shake, and Sarah delivers the kind of advice that will inspire you to write the text you're waiting for him to send, and send it to yourself. Plus: grief doesn't come with a timeline, quitting is a boss move, therapy shouldn't be your whole identity, and a whispered truth like soup for the soul. 📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com, and join us on YouTube and Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.comWatch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6WgSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Brandon has questions, concerns, and possibly a group chat theory. Drake just gave us what feels like a 43-song therapy session, and Brandon would like to know who’s taking notes, who’s holding space, and whether snacks were provided. Also, if you didn’t vote, this may not be your safe space right now. This Memorial Day Weekend Messy Bonus also features a clip from Brandon’s conversation with Dr. Vanessa Marin on cheating with AI Girlfriends, and a longevity study. Then Brandon makes the case again for scheduling sex — because “spontaneous” is cute until everyone is tired, booked, resentful, and lying. Stay for the Waymo conspiracy theory. Don’t ask questions. Just listen. 📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com, and join us on YouTube and Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.comWatch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6WgSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Vanessa Marin gives us the sex ed class boarding school owed us. Brandon and Dr. Marin, creator of the Sex Talks card game, get into scheduling sex, ejaculation myths, open relationships, the surprising problem with fantasies, perimenopause, why “just relax” is terrible advice, and a longevity study involving ejaculations and a sticker chart. Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6WgSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Brandon gets into Pam Grier’s three-day orgasm story and the art of surrendering to pleasure, intimacy, and your own body. Then they turn from sex and pleasure to friendship breakups — when to call it quits with your bestie, what couples therapy can teach us about friendship, and when a therapist starts sounding more like a life coach. Plus, Cheyenne Bryant, emotional red flags, and the messy line between healing, honesty, and knowing when a relationship has run its course.Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6WgSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Brandon welcomes author and Boy Problems podcast host Liz Plank into the messy living room for a raw conversation about feminine energy, why patriarchy keeps men from connecting, pretty privilege, performing masculinity vs. actually embodying it, and why every straight man should understand what it feels like to receive. Watch on YouTube!Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6WgSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Brandon gets into Kevin Hart’s Netflix roast, Jamie Foxx’s appearance, and why people still care so much about interracial couples. Then Curly Velasquez is back with the best outtakes from his episode, including a wild mid-hookup story about a friend, kink talk, Amsterdam confessions, the parakeet claw grip technique, and whispered advice that goes fully off the rails. Watch the full episode with Curly on YouTube! 🔗 somethingmessy.com | Email anonymously: [email protected] Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6WgSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Brandon sits down with Curly Velasquez, co-host of The Super Secret Bestie Club and VP of Development at LatiNation Media, for a funny, spiritual, and deeply messy conversation about grief, sober sex, ancestral rituals, chosen family, and the ways our bodies remember what our mouths are still learning how to say.

The conversation also gets into the idea that messiness is not new — it is inherited. From vulgar grandmas and Bible stories to queer lineage, family lore, and the people who taught us how to survive with humor, desire, and spirit still intact, Curly and Brandon unpack how the mess can be sacred and hilarious.

From altars and grandma stories to intimacy without numbing and the truth that “the only way to get through grief is to grieve,” Curly helps Brandon unpack how messiness can be inheritance, healing, and a practice of staying present.

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