In this illuminating episode of Gateways to Awakening, I speak with Dr. Mitch Abrams, a clinical psychologist, anger management expert, and author of Anger Management in Sport: Understanding and Controlling Violence in Athletes AND his latest book, "I'm Not F*cking Angry! Adjust the Flame to Get What You Want and Need".

Together, we explore the deeper layers of anger — what it really is, how it operates beneath the surface, and how we can transform it from a destructive force into a source of strength, clarity, and emotional intelligence.

 “If I can provoke you, I can control you.” - Mitch Abrams 

Dr. Abrams shares practical tools to help us recognize anger before it turns toxic — from breathwork and visualization to cognitive awareness and strategic pause. He discusses how anger often hides loneliness, misunderstanding, or self-judgment, and why learning to “adjust the flame” can restore our sense of control and power.

We also dive into:

• How to identify your emotional triggers before they take over

• The subtle differences in how anger shows up in men and wome

• How relationships mirror our insecurities and reveal our work

• The psychology behind reactivity — and how to choose calm over chaos

• Why true confidence requires humility, and how self-efficacy builds resilience
  

This episode is an invitation to become less reactive and more rooted — to reclaim your energy, practice emotional mastery, and reconnect with your higher intelligence, even in moments of fire.

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