Ever feel like you're coaching on repeat? 

You've handed a client every tool they need, yet they keep circling back with the same issue. 

Or maybe you're working with an athlete who hears everything you say, but nothing seems to land. It’s as if they’re outsourcing ownership of the entire process.

It can start to feel like a rehearsed dance. You say your part, they nod along, and both of you move forward on autopilot. But this doesn’t have to be just frustrating—it can be an inflection point for us. 

In today’s episode, Brett breaks down how to navigate this all-too-common dynamic and use it as a way to better understand what we bring to the table. Because when we hone in on and embrace our unique intangibles—those strong qualities that might even turn some people off—we create opportunities to lead more effectively, grow our business, and stand out in a noisy, boring world where everyone just wants to fit in.

In this episode, we cover:

If you're tired of struggling through hard conversations or avoiding them altogether, this is your chance to train for them. We’ll put you in realistic role-play scenarios and teach you the frameworks that help you navigate conflict, power dynamics, and tough personalities.

No fluff. No gurus. Just pressure-tested strategies you can actually use—because the best coaching skills don’t perish. Everyone has a coach in their life, and the ability to communicate clearly under pressure pays off in every area—not just work.

📍Phoenix, AZ – June 7-8

Retreat. Reset. Recalibrate. RELOAD!

This September, we’re hosting a retreat in Phoenix, AZ—built for those who carry it all. Ten years in the making, this event is designed to give you tools to slow down, recalibrate, and breathe again.

We're teaming up with professionals like Taylor Somerville and Lauren Vestal to introduce breathwork, recovery strategies, and techniques to help you downregulate and bring some peace back into your day-to-day life. You’ll also get space to move, connect, and troubleshoot how to have the tough conversations you've been avoiding—so you can show up for yourself as much as you do for everyone else.

Stay tuned at artofcoaching.com/events and email us at [email protected] for more details.

Executive Mentoring That Fits Your Life

Struggling with anxiety before a big presentation? Leading difficult meetings? Trying to figure out how to handle a staff issue, or even a challenge at home? One of our 15 coaches has been there and dealt with that.

This is real-world guidance, tailored to your needs, on your schedule. Nothing cookie-cutter about it.

Every leader needs a coach. The best ones know when to ask for help.

Learn more at artofcoaching.com/mentoring. We’d love to help!

Referenced Resources:

FREE Download: How To Build Trust With Anyone

Article: What Shamu Taught Me About A Happy Marriage

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Coaching youth sports can be one of the most rewarding things you can do, whether you're a parent, a former athlete, or someone who just wants to make a difference. It’s an incredible opportunity to connect with people in a way that can genuinely shape who they become.

Youth sports span the full range—from high-priced, high-stakes travel leagues to your local rec department. From paid coaches with professional experience, to the dad who just answered the 7,000th email asking for help. You won’t find a show that cares more about coaches than this one, so this isn’t one of those episodes that’s here to bash the people who’ve stepped up when no one else would.

What this episode will be is a look from multiple angles, through the lens of someone who’s coached at a high level and is now a parent on the sidelines. 

What does real coaching actually look like? What should a good practice feel like? And how do we make sure we’re giving kids our best—not just for them, but for the people who care the most and invest the most in their development: their parents.

In this episode, we dig into those questions and more, including:

🎯 Want to create a coaching environment that truly resonates with every athlete? Check out our free video presentation, Creating the Optimal Coaching Environment, for actionable strategies to enhance your coaching impact.  Visit artofcoaching.com/optimal/ to see Brett’s presentation from the iconic Mamba Academy.

If you're tired of struggling through hard conversations or avoiding them altogether, this is your chance to train for them. We’ll put you in realistic role-play scenarios and teach you the frameworks that help you navigate conflict, power dynamics, and tough personalities.

No fluff. No gurus. Just pressure-tested strategies you can actually use—because the best coaching skills don’t perish. Everyone has a coach in their life, and the ability to communicate clearly under pressure pays off in every area—not just work.

📍Phoenix, AZ – June 7-8

Retreat. Reset. Recalibrate. RELOAD!

This September, we’re hosting a retreat in Phoenix, AZ—built for those who carry it all. Ten years in the making, this event is designed to give you tools to slow down, recalibrate, and breathe again.

We're teaming up with professionals like Taylor Somerville and Lauren Vestal to introduce breathwork, recovery strategies, and techniques to help you downregulate and bring some peace back into your day-to-day life. You’ll also get space to move, connect, and troubleshoot how to have the tough conversations you've been avoiding—so you can show up for yourself as much as you do for everyone else.

Stay tuned at artofcoaching.com/events and email us at [email protected] for more details.

Executive Mentoring That Fits Your Life

Struggling with anxiety before a big presentation? Leading difficult meetings? Trying to figure out how to handle a staff issue, or even a challenge at home? One of our 15 coaches has been there and dealt with that.

This is real-world guidance, tailored to your needs, on your schedule. Nothing cookie-cutter about it.

Every leader needs a coach. The best ones know when to ask for help.

Learn more at artofcoaching.com/mentoring. We’d love to help!

Referenced Resources:

FREE Presentation: Creating the Optimal Coaching Environment 

Related Episode:

E136 | Dealing With Pushy Sports Parents

E275 | A Parent's Guide to Effective Dialogue With Difficult or Negative Sport Coaches

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This episode is for a very specific type of person. 

Those of you who are hard on yourself, and if you're being honest, it's to an unhealthy degree. The perfectionist who struggles to recognize their own accomplishments, who tears themselves apart over minor slip-ups, and maybe even finds it hard to fully celebrate the wins of others. Not because of jealousy, but because the voice in your head has been trained to fixate on what’s missing instead of what’s been earned.

Maybe you’re not wired this way all the time, but after a big achievement, you felt... nothing. Maybe even a little depressed that it didn’t feel like more. We know many of you in our audience fall into one of these camps—and this episode is for you.

Here’s a little premeditated tough love: at some point, it has to be good enough. 

So how do we move past this all-or-nothing mentality we’ll never win? How can we celebrate our accomplishments without dulling our edge?

In this episode, Brett breaks down:

During the episode, Brett opened up about the various challenges he’s faced while writing his new book. If you want early access to updates, release info, and behind-the-scenes content, follow along at artofcoaching.com/book.

Retreat. Reset. Recalibrate. RELOAD!

This September, we’re hosting a retreat in Phoenix, AZ—built for those who carry it all. Ten years in the making, this event is designed to give you tools to slow down, recalibrate, and breathe again.

We're teaming up with professionals like Taylor Somerville and Lauren Vestal to introduce breathwork, recovery strategies, and techniques to help you downregulate and bring some peace back into your day-to-day life. You’ll also get space to move, connect, and troubleshoot how to have the tough conversations you've been avoiding—so you can show up for yourself as much as you do for everyone else.

Stay tuned at artofcoaching.com/events and email us at [email protected] for more details.

Executive Mentoring That Fits Your Life

Struggling with anxiety before a big presentation? Leading difficult meetings? Trying to figure out how to handle a staff issue, or even a challenge at home? One of our 15 coaches has been there and dealt with that.

This is real-world guidance, tailored to your needs, on your schedule. Nothing cookie-cutter about it.

Every leader needs a coach. The best ones know when to ask for help.

Learn more at artofcoaching.com/mentoring. We’d love to help.

Upcoming Live Events:

There’s never been a better time to invest in skills that don’t have a shelf life. Our live events are built to help you think, speak, and lead more effectively under pressure, in any environment. These aren’t lectures. They’re hands-on, challenging experiences with an immeasurable return on investment. We offer three different payment plans and want to meet you where you’re at. If you have questions or want help finding the best fit, reach out to us anytime at [email protected].

Brand Builder

📍Folsom, CA – August 9-10

Referenced Resources:

Article: The Imperfectionist 

Related Episode:

E259 | Understanding and Overcoming Perfectionism

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Why can't someone else step up and do this?

How come I'm always the one who has to do everything?

What more do I have to do before someone finally takes some initiative?

If you’ve ever asked yourself these questions—or just quietly felt them—you’re not alone. That heavy sense of responsibility, the emotional and cultural weight of having to carry your team day after day, will wear you down. And if you don’t have a plan to offload that burden and bring others into ownership, it’s only a matter of time before burnout sets in.

But what do you do when some team members aren’t exactly charismatic—or worse, seem like they’re only halfway committed?

This episode hits close to home, pulled straight from a challenge one of our mentoring clients has been facing for years. It’s also something Brett knows firsthand.

In this episode, we’ll cover:

You Do Everything for Everyone. It’s Time to Reset.

This September, we’re hosting a retreat in Phoenix, AZ—built for those who carry it all. Ten years in the making, this event is designed to give you tools to slow down, recalibrate, and breathe again.

We're teaming up with professionals like Taylor Somerville and Lauren Vestal to introduce breathwork, recovery strategies, and techniques to help you downregulate and bring some peace back into your day-to-day life. You’ll also get space to move, connect, and troubleshoot how to have the tough conversations you've been avoiding—so you can show up for yourself as much as you do for everyone else.

Stay tuned at artofcoaching.com/events and email us at [email protected] for more details.

Upcoming Live Events:

There’s never been a better time to invest in skills that don’t have a shelf life. Our live events are built to help you think, speak, and lead more effectively under pressure, in any environment. These aren’t lectures. They’re hands-on, challenging experiences with an immeasurable return on investment. We offer three different payment plans and want to meet you where you’re at. If you have questions or want help finding the best fit, reach out to us anytime at [email protected].

The Apprenticeship

📍Phoenix, AZ – June 7-8

Brand Builder

📍Folsom, CA – August 9-10

Speaker School

📍Phoenix, AZ – October 11-12

Recommended Resource:

Online Course: VALUED

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Everything is okay at work, but… yeah, work is fine—I just don’t know what I’m going to do.

We’ve all felt like that at some point in our careers. Maybe you’re in that place right now. Call it a rut, stagnation, or just a funk. You’re motivated. You’re grateful. But you also want more. More fulfillment, more autonomy, maybe even a title change and a bigger office. You want to feel like your strengths are being seen and put to use. When that doesn't happen, dissatisfaction can start to seep into everything else—negatively impacting your mental health and personal life.

So what do you do with that? 

In this short episode, Brett breaks down how to get (and stay) unstuck, move forward with intention, and take ownership without letting that ugly feeling of bitterness creep in.

What You’ll Learn:

Come See Us at a Live Event!

There’s never been a better time to come see us live. We’ve put on these events for years, working with people from all walks of life—coaches, business owners, military personnel, educators, and everything in between. These aren’t dry lectures. They’re interactive, challenging, and built to help you think, speak, and lead better under pressure.

The Apprenticeship

📍Phoenix, AZ – June 7-8

Brand Builder

📍Folsom, CA – August 9-10

(Im)Perfect Relationship Course

📍Location TBD – November 3 (Join the waitlist!)

Speaker School

📍Phoenix, AZ – October 11-12

Executive Mentoring That Actually Fits Your Life

Struggling with anxiety before a big presentation? Leading difficult meetings? Trying to figure out how to handle a staff issue, or even a challenge at home? One of our 15 coaches has been there and dealt with that.

This is real-world guidance, tailored to your needs, on your schedule. Nothing cookie-cutter about it.

Every leader needs a coach. The best ones know when to ask for help.

Learn more at artofcoaching.com/mentoring. We’d love to help.

Related Episodes:

E242 | Annie Duke: Quit! - The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away

E353 | What to Do If You Feel Like You’re Stagnating

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We’ve all felt it. That awkward disconnect when the vibe is off and you're wondering how you ended up across the table from someone who just isn’t where you are. Maybe you’re in different stages of life, chasing different things, or just not clear on what the other actually wants. Whatever the reason, the moment hits: this isn’t it.

It’s not easy to find someone emotionally mature enough to show up. Someone who isn’t hiding behind the damage of past relationships or stuck reliving the pain of a breakup they never really moved on from. And even harder? Finding someone willing to do the work, to build something real, instead of ghosting or bailing the minute things get remotely tough or inconvenient.

But this isn't just an episode for people looking for love. It's about communication, emotional availability, and knowing what you bring to the table—because relationships, romantic or not, reveal a lot about who we are and how we lead.

In this episode, Brett gets personal and delivers the truth about:

Coming Later This Year – The (Im)perfect Relationship Course

If this episode hit home, there’s more where that came from. Hop on the waitlist here to be the first to know when doors open. And check out artofcoaching.com/events to stay up to date on our upcoming workshops, where we dive deep into communication, leadership, and the skills that actually build better relationships in work, life, and love.

Folsom Brand Builder

Are you a coach, entrepreneur, or speaker who wants to turn your expertise into something that actually pays the bills? Whether you’ve never made a dollar or just brought in your first million, Brand Builder is for you! Spend two interactive days in Folsom, CA, getting crystal clear on your messaging, attracting the right clients, and building a business that scales.

You’ll leave with clarity, confidence, and a framework that lets you do what you love—on your terms.

📍Folsom, CA –  August 8-9

To register or get more details, visit:  artofcoaching.com/brand-builder-25

Private Growth Retreat

Stuck? Burnt out? Just need space to think? Come spend a day or two at AOC HQ with Brett for a private retreat built entirely around you. Strategy sessions, time outside, good food, and honest conversation—plus maybe a lift in the garage gym.

This is where you quiet the noise, organize the chaos, map your next move, and leave with clarity and confidence.

Email [email protected] and let us know you're interested in a private retreat and we’ll work out a date.

Want to write a book but don’t know where to start? Brett self-published Conscious Coaching—and now he’s working with one of the world’s biggest publishers for his next one. Either one-on-one or in a small-group, he’ll share what worked, a whole lot of what didn’t, and how you can overcome the grind that writing can be, outline your ideas into a well-crafted message, and get it into the hands of those who need it most.

Email [email protected] mention the Writer’s Workshop you heard about on the podcast and let’s start filling the page!

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E339 | Scott & Jaime Livingston: Overcoming Challenges in Relationships

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We’ve all been hit by it.

It seemingly comes out of nowhere—a misunderstanding or argument we never saw coming. One moment you’re having a discussion, the next you're blindsided by resistance, vitriol, or passive-aggressive blowback. Where did it come from? Why did something small suddenly feel so personal?

Here’s the truth: it’s rarely about the thing—it’s about what the thing represents. Control. Trust. Identity. Relevance. Fear. A loss of autonomy. There’s always something else simmering under the surface. And if you want to be effective in high-stakes conversations or high-pressure environments, you have to be able to read those underlying signals, not just bulldoze with logic.

In this episode Brett unpacks exactly how to do that and covers:

🎯 This episode dives deep into what drives behavior, yours and theirs. Take our free quiz at artofcoaching.com/whatdrivesyou to uncover what really makes people tick.

Folsom Brand Builder

Are you a coach, entrepreneur, or speaker who wants to turn your expertise into something that actually pays the bills? Whether you’ve never made a dollar or just brought in your first million, Brand Builder is for you! Spend two interactive days in Folsom, CA, getting crystal clear on your messaging, attracting the right clients, and building a business that scales.

You’ll leave with clarity, confidence, and a framework that lets you do what you love—on your terms.

📍Folsom, CA –  August 8-9

To register or get more details, visit:  artofcoaching.com/brand-builder-25

Private Growth Retreat

Stuck? Burnt out? Just need space to think? Come spend a day or two at AOC HQ with Brett for a private retreat built entirely around you. Strategy sessions, time outside, good food, and honest conversation—plus maybe a lift in the garage gym.

This is where you quiet the noise, organize the chaos, map your next move, and leave with clarity and confidence.

Email [email protected] and let us know you're interested in a private retreat and we’ll work out a date.

Want to write a book but don’t know where to start? Brett self-published Conscious Coaching—and now he’s working with one of the world’s biggest publishers for his next one. Either one-on-one or in a small-group, he’ll share what worked, a whole lot of what didn’t, and how you can overcome the grind that writing can be, outline your ideas into a well-crafted message, and get it into the hands of those who need it most.

Email [email protected] mention the Writer’s Workshop you heard about on the podcast and let’s start filling the page!

Related Episodes:

E202 | Why Facts and Logic Don't Change Our Minds 

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Why is talking about money so hard? 

An even better question might be: why do so many job postings treat compensation like a state secret—vague, unclear, or completely absent? 

The truth is, people want to know they’ll be respected and valued. If you leave them guessing, they’ll start looking elsewhere.

In Part 1 of this hiring series, we covered how to attract the right candidates. In Part 2, we dug into asking the right questions during interviews. In Part 3, we’re focusing entirely on compensation, because how you talk about pay tells a story about how you value people.

In this episode, Brett breaks down:

If you need further assistance with this topic or anything else involving your business, visit artofcoaching.com/mentor, we’d love to help.

Folsom Brand Builder

Are you a coach, entrepreneur, or speaker who wants to turn your expertise into something that actually pays the bills? Whether you’ve never made a dollar or just brought in your first million, Brand Builder is for you! Spend two interactive days in Folsom, CA, getting crystal clear on your messaging, attracting the right clients, and building a business that scales.

You’ll leave with clarity, confidence, and a framework that lets you do what you love—on your terms.

📍Folsom, CA –  August 8-9

To register or get more details, visit:  artofcoaching.com/brand-builder-25

Private Growth Retreat

Stuck? Burnt out? Just need space to think? Come spend a day or two at AOC HQ with Brett for a private retreat built entirely around you. Strategy sessions, time outside, good food, and honest conversation—plus maybe a lift in the garage gym.

This is where you quiet the noise, organize the chaos, map your next move, and leave with clarity and confidence.

Email [email protected] and let us know you're interested in a private retreat and we’ll work out a date.

Want to write a book but don’t know where to start? Brett self-published Conscious Coaching—and now he’s working with one of the world’s biggest publishers for his next one. Either one-on-one or in a small-group, he’ll share what worked, a whole lot of what didn’t, and how you can overcome the grind that writing can be, outline your ideas into a well-crafted message, and get it into the hands of those who need it most.

Email [email protected] mention the Writer’s Workshop you heard about on the podcast and let’s start filling the page!

Related Episodes:

E371 | Hiring Tips Pt 1: How to Attract the Right People

E372 | Hiring Tips Pt 2: Asking the Right Interview Questions

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Most interviews miss the mark.

Predictable questions. Rehearsed answers. And when it’s over, you still haven’t figured out who the person really is.

In Part 1 of this series, we covered what matters most when it comes to attracting the right candidates. Today is about what happens next. How do you actually assess whether someone can solve the real problems you are hiring them to tackle or if they’re the right fit?

The truth is, most people can talk a good game and tell you what you’d like to hear. But when the lights come on and things get messy, can they think on their feet? Can they take initiative? Can they adapt when the environment or expectations change?

In this episode, Brett walks you through how to run interviews that actually reveal who someone is, not just who they pretend to be, and breaks down:

Upcoming Live Events!

Everyone wants to lead better, grow their business, and communicate with confidence… until it’s time to actually do it in the room, with real people and real pressure.

We’re not here to sell you fluff or copy-pasted psychology theory.

We’re here to help you show up for life’s most important opportunities—whether that’s a tough conversation, a high-stakes presentation, or leading when things get messy.

Over the next few months, we’re hitting the road and you’ve got options:

📍 Phoenix, AZ – April 26-27 (Speaker School)

Spots are limited and they go fast.

🎯 Get the full list and lock in your seat at artofcoaching.com/events

Everyone Needs a Coach.

Most people would agree, but what does that actually look like in real life?

That’s what we do. We’re your shadow advisor.

If you’re serious about growth and want a coach who won’t coddle you

Who doesn’t love a good book recommendation?

If you’re anything like us, you’re always looking for that next title that’ll challenge your thinking, spark an idea, or just hit you at the right time.

We put together a list of our team’s favorite reads across business, leadership, human behavior, psychology, philosophy, fiction, finance, and more. It’s well rounded, real-world tested, and no, it’s not filled with the same five books everyone else is posting about online.

Want a FREE PDF? Yes, free. No catch.

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E371 | Hiring Tips Pt 1: How to Attract the Right People

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Hiring the right people doesn’t start with the interview — it starts with the job posting.

In this first episode of our hiring series, we tackle a question we hear all the time from mentoring clients: How do I find better candidates? 

Whether you’re a business owner, a team leader involved in hiring, or even someone applying for jobs, this one’s for you.

We break down a simple but effective framework to help you diagnose and improve your hiring process from the ground up. This isn’t theory or a fluffy LinkedIn post, just real talk and practical tools you can apply right away.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

This week’s episode comes straight from a recurring theme we hear in our work with mentoring clients. Got a question you’d like us to address on the podcast? Let us know — remember, unstated needs lead to unmet expectations. We want to keep creating content that shows up in your life when it matters most. Drop us an email at [email protected].

Even the best leaders need a coach—but too often, they’re too busy to seek one out. That’s where we come in. Think of us as your shadow advisor—a real, human sounding board who challenges your thinking, offers a fresh perspective, and isn’t afraid to be your devil’s advocate. We help uncover blind spots and push you toward better decisions, whether you’re running a small business, leading a pro sports team, or making moves in a Fortune 500 company.

If you’re serious about growth, let’s talk. artofcoaching.com/mentoring.

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This is now our most requested service. From NFL teams to Apple and Canadian Special Forces, organizations are bringing us in to help their people lead, communicate, and perform under pressure. Our tailored workshops deliver tools you can use immediately to manage emotions, reduce drama, and build a stronger culture. Schedules are filling fast — reach out now to lock in your spot. Email us at [email protected] or visit artofcoaching.com.

Related Episodes:

E99 | Steven Moser: Getting the Job and Nailing Your Interview

E182 | Crucial Tips For Improving Your Hiring Proces

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