We all know what it feels like to be misunderstood, but there’s another layer: sometimes you’re cast as the villain in someone else’s story not because you are one, but because they need you to be. Especially if they’re manipulative, insecure, or trying to avoid accountability.

Have you ever noticed that even though time has passed, the feeling about that person, place, or thing is still present?

Today's episode takes a trip down memory lane. There's so much that our minds and bodies are processing. And sometimes our body is already preparing for a date it remembers, for an experience it can't forget.

Some people don’t want a relationship with you; they want a relationship with what you can do for them. They show up in tears, in chaos, in need… but vanish in your joy or need for support/ stability. In this episode, we unpack why people only seem to call when they’re in crisis, the subtle emotional contracts that keep you over-giving, and how to set boundaries that protect your energy without losing your compassion.

My podcast is 7 years old today. I didn’t know what I was building 7 years ago. I just knew I had something to say. Thank you for listening—even before the words made sense. This is for you.

Let’s talk about those quotes that look good on Instagram carousels but fall apart when you actually try to live by them. Today, we’re calling out the ‘deep-sounding’ fluff — with love, of course.

We talk a lot about love-bombing in dating—but what about when it happens in friendships? In this episode, we break down friendship bombing: the intense, all-in energy that seems caring at first but turns out to be another form of emotional manipulation. From instant besties to sudden ghosting, this is still attachment theory at work—just dressed in platonic clothing. If you've ever felt confused, drained, or betrayed by a “too-good-to-be-true” friendship… this one's for you.

You thought being low-maintenance would earn you love.
You thought showing up, being chill, not asking for much—would be enough.
But when your love language is self-sacrifice and silence…
You don’t get peace.
You get taken for granted.

Let’s talk about the invisible love languages—and how they backfire.

We’ve all heard the lines: “I’m just really busy,” “Friendship is hard,” or “You know I’m always here if you need me.” These phrases sound virtuous, even comforting—but are they actually meaningful? Or are they just passive ways to dodge the responsibility of real connection?

In this episode, we unpack the culture of performative friendship—where people want credit for care they never deliver. Because sometimes, the thought doesn’t count. Especially when it’s never followed by action. Let’s talk about what it means to actually show up.

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Have you ever chosen not to respond? Or bowed out of a plan without fully explaining why—and then wondered… was that petty? Or was that me protecting my peace? Today, we’re unpacking the nuance between emotional self-protection and performative withdrawal—what I call The Petty Principle.”

Have you ever chosen not to respond? Or bowed out of a plan without fully explaining why—and then wondered… was that petty? Or was that me protecting my peace? Today, we’re unpacking the nuance between emotional self-protection and performative withdrawal—what I call The Petty Principle.”