You thought being low-maintenance would earn you love.
You thought showing up, being chill, not asking for much—would be enough.
But when your love language is self-sacrifice and silence…
You don’t get peace.
You get taken for granted.

Let’s talk about the invisible love languages—and how they backfire.

We’ve all heard the lines: “I’m just really busy,” “Friendship is hard,” or “You know I’m always here if you need me.” These phrases sound virtuous, even comforting—but are they actually meaningful? Or are they just passive ways to dodge the responsibility of real connection?

In this episode, we unpack the culture of performative friendship—where people want credit for care they never deliver. Because sometimes, the thought doesn’t count. Especially when it’s never followed by action. Let’s talk about what it means to actually show up.

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Have you ever chosen not to respond? Or bowed out of a plan without fully explaining why—and then wondered… was that petty? Or was that me protecting my peace? Today, we’re unpacking the nuance between emotional self-protection and performative withdrawal—what I call The Petty Principle.”

Have you ever chosen not to respond? Or bowed out of a plan without fully explaining why—and then wondered… was that petty? Or was that me protecting my peace? Today, we’re unpacking the nuance between emotional self-protection and performative withdrawal—what I call The Petty Principle.”

You ever walk into your own space—mentally, spiritually, physically—and feel like you’re not alone? Like someone’s energy is still sitting in the room, even though they haven’t been around in weeks…months…maybe even years? Yeah, today we’re talking about the ghosts we don’t always see—but definitely feel.”Not all ghosts are dead. Some are just people who left behind a piece of themselves… or tried to stay longer than they were supposed to.

Accepting 1:1 clients: www.birdbrainwellness.com

You ever walk into your own space—mentally, spiritually, physically—and feel like you’re not alone? Like someone’s energy is still sitting in the room, even though they haven’t been around in weeks…months…maybe even years? Yeah, today we’re talking about the ghosts we don’t always see—but definitely feel.”Not all ghosts are dead. Some are just people who left behind a piece of themselves… or tried to stay longer than they were supposed to.

Accepting 1:1 clients: ⁠www.birdbrainwellness.com⁠

We’ve all been there—bending over backward for people who barely show up for us, while sidelining the relationships that are actually solid. In this episode, we dive into the difference between high priority and high quality connections. Why do we chase status, mystery, or validation from people we barely know, while neglecting the consistent, genuine folks already in our lives? Let’s talk about how this pattern forms, what it says about our self-worth, and how to start choosing substance over spectacle.

Accepting 101 clients: ⁠⁠www.birdbrainwellness.com

We’ve all been there—bending over backward for people who barely show up for us, while sidelining the relationships that are actually solid. In this episode, we dive into the difference between high priority and high quality connections. Why do we chase status, mystery, or validation from people we barely know, while neglecting the consistent, genuine folks already in our lives? Let’s talk about how this pattern forms, what it says about our self-worth, and how to start choosing substance over spectacle.

Accepting 101 clients: ⁠www.birdbrainwellness.com

We often pride ourselves on being the nurturers—the ones who show up, fix, soothe, and hold space. But what if that instinct to mother others is actually masking our own unmet needs? In this episode, we explore the thin line between compassion and codependency, care and control, nurture and neglect. When you’re always the one pouring into others, who’s replenishing you? Let’s unpack how well-meaning over-giving can disconnect us from our own healing, how people-pleasing becomes mistaken for purpose, and what it really means to mother yourself. If you've ever been praised for being “the strong one” while quietly feeling depleted, this one’s for you.

We often pride ourselves on being the nurturers—the ones who show up, fix, soothe, and hold space. But what if that instinct to mother others is actually masking our own unmet needs? In this episode, we explore the thin line between compassion and codependency, care and control, nurture and neglect. When you’re always the one pouring into others, who’s replenishing you? Let’s unpack how well-meaning over-giving can disconnect us from our own healing, how people-pleasing becomes mistaken for purpose, and what it really means to mother yourself. If you've ever been praised for being “the strong one” while quietly feeling depleted, this one’s for you.