Elizabeth Day is the author of Friendaholic: Confessions of a Friendship Addict, available now in the UK. Today Elizabeth and Amanda share a down and dirty look at friendship, what is a true friend, getting ghosted, friend break-ups, and experiences they have shared in this murky area of friendship. Is losing a friendship always a bad thing; does it make you a bad friend, or can you heal and be better off without that friend? Find out in this episode.. 

IN THIS EPISODE:

• [02:56] Elizabeth analyzes friendships – superficial and genuine, and how she came to re-evaluate friendships through the eyes of covid


• [08:58] Coming to terms with friendships that are not active and how those can be viewed healthily. Experiencing grief when friendship disappears 


• [14:21] You may be fulfilling a role in a friendship, whether you know it or not. The friendships we establish could be a result of a dysfunctional upbringing 


• [20:08] Surviving by making friends, being ghosted and making peace with losing a friend 


• [30:00] Statistics and the number of sustainable friendships possible. Establishing friendship barometers and the term non-consensual friendship


• [35:40] Some friends bring chaos continually, and at what cost to you

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• Defining the language of friendship is not done when you first get to know someone. However, it should be to maintain the friendship you both enjoy.


• A friend may cast you in a role you neither want nor are aware of, making you an emotional hostage.


• The language of addiction speaks to that friend who is always in crisis and takes you with them. You are enabling them.

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Book: Friendaholic: Confessions of a Friendship Addict

QUOTES:

“True friendship empowers, enables and embraces the change and the evolution and the growth of both people.” - Elizabeth Day

“A non-consensual friendship is where you find yourself in a dynamic where you never wanted to commit to being this person’s full-blown friend.  You were just being nice.  Not trying to be rude. My book is an attempt to rectify the language of friendship.” - Elizabeth Day

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What do you consider to be the difference between self-censorship and having a social filter? Host Amanda de Cadenet examines that question with consultant, mentor, writer and Queen of all things cancel culture; Africa Brooke. Diversity of thought should not produce public shaming; however it often results in just that. Withholding one’s beliefs out of fear is not only self-censorship; it can be self-sabotage. Join Amanda and Africa as they discuss these topics in a way that will enlighten the listener and, hopefully,  not invoke the “Cult of Wokeness”. Don’t miss this episode of The Conversation. 

IN THIS EPISODE:

• [03:23] Africa Brooke defines the difference between a social filter and self-censorship and what part fear plays 


• [05:16] What are my intentions for what I say? Anti-social behavior is evident in cancel culture and bullying, and they are only achieved by a group effort


• [09:18] Africa speaks about being a black woman and how skin color has enabled people to overlook the content of what is said because of the focus on identity. Public shaming is not the correct tool for change


• [12:44] Africa sites the George Floyd incident as the pivotal point when the conversation of race and racism came to the forefront


• [14:54] Amanda reflects on establishments that want to talk the talk and not walk the walk


• [16:06] Africa states the importance of speaking in specific terms because not doing so may fuel the very fire you are trying to avoid


• [24:30] The importance of giving yourself and others grace. Africa believes it will take time to heal division and polarization. Diversity of thought, when accepted, can bring races together


• [31:44] Africa speaks of compassion for those changing their ways of thinking. What should redemption look like


• [34:42] The benefits of waiting to put out a public apology, being true to yourself, and recognizing your “truth” can be shared or not; it’s up to you

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• Terms like social filter, self-censorship, intention, doxing, and cancel culture are all terms one should explore, define and not exploit when expressing oneself on social media.


• Division and polarization have been with us since the beginning of time. We just call it a different thing, magnified because of social media.


• Be sure when it comes to expressing your thoughts that you have the proper intention and are in a good place mentally, emotionally, etc.; if you aren’t, wait.  It may not be the time for that conversation.  

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Quotes:

“Self-censorship is driven by fear. Having a social filter is a good thing because you’re not supposed to say every single thing that comes into your head , it’s not always useful or appropriate.”  - Africa Brooke

“Whenever you say words like counterculture or wokeness, what I’ve realized is that it actually fuels the divide, which is why I intentionally like to stay away from those terms.” - Africa Brooke 

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The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host, Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet.

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Get ready for an incredible episode of The Conversation Podcast! Today, my dear friend and iconic actress Jamie Lee Curtis joins me to discuss the announcement of the Oscar nominees, all the way to her eventual win for Best Supporting Actress in the film Everything Everywhere All At Once. Jamie Lee has been in the acting game since the age of 19, and she takes us through the emotional rollercoaster of the nomination process and the unforgettable night of the Oscars. You'll be blown away by her humble perspective on this incredible achievement, and you'll love hearing about her amazing career, her wonderful friends, and the exciting opportunities that lie ahead.

IN THIS EPISODE: 

• [00:42] Jamie Lee reflects on the moment she was named an Oscar winner and the expectations and realizations that brings


• [05:36] A humble winner and Jamie Lee’s friendship with Michelle Yeoh


• [11:20] Women supporting women should be the norm


• [13:30] Jamie Lee describes herself as a “Promoter,” and the over-exposure when you win an Oscar


• [21:23] Deborah Oppenheimer’s friendship during the process of learning of the nomination through the night of the Oscars


• [26:57] Jamie Lee’s closing thoughts on the experience of her nomination and subsequent win of the Oscar for Best Supporting Actress

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• Winning an Oscar is a game-changer in Hollywood. Over-exposure can result in your showing up as a skit on Saturday Night Live.


• Women supporting women is a concept that some women talk about but do not walk, unfortunately.

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QUOTES:  

“The point is that we're in this together, and that to me is what's missing. The fact that this is unusual. That a woman would support another woman, that hype women would be an anomaly.” - Jamie Lee Curtis

“I couldn't ever even allow myself the possibility that it would happen. The nomination itself was such a game-changer for me because that was never in my thought pattern. It was never in my mind that that would happen for me.” - Jamie Lee Curtis

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The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics, from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet.

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If you love fashion you already know about Prabal Gurung and his legendary career dressing some of the world’s most famous women including former First Lady Michelle Obama and the Duchess of Cambridge, Kate Middleton. But, it’s not often that we hear his thoughts on our rapidly changing culture. The world might feel tense these days but as Prabal tells Amanda in this latest episode of her special series, The Conversation: About the Men, “True empathy is employed during time that is difficult, when you're challenged, when it's the toughest time.” We couldn't agree more. 

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Dr. Gabor Maté's literary triumph is called "The Myth of Normal"... ten years in the making...and well worth the wait. 

The author uncovers the wounds of childhood trauma and explains how they frame the rest of our lives if we let them.Learn why we connect with people suffering from similar pain...and how that brutal bond can either tear us apart or help in our healing.Trauma is not a "One Size Fits All" affliction, so join 'The Conversation: About the Men' as we explore the remedies available to us all.

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Modern-day scholar Yung Pueblo has gained a tremendous following thanks to his inspirational messaging on social media and New York Times best-selling books.

Come along as we dive deep into the well of experiences that led him to become a celebrated wordsman with the help of meditation. From the brink of death to the pinnacle of peace...it's been a bumpy ride for Yung Pueblo, but well worth the journey.

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Here’s what it all comes down to according to marriage therapist Terry Real, women have spent the last several decades reimagining what and who they can be. Men on the other hand…not so much. 

“You ask young girls nowadays, what makes a good woman and you'll get anything,” Real says, “I mean, ‘I'll be president, I'll be an astronaut. I'll be whatever.’ You ask boys to this day and you're gonna get the same stereotypical images of what makes a man that you would've gotten 50 years ago. It hasn't changed a bit.”

It’s no wonder that men, Real argues, find it increasingly difficult to navigate a world of changing gender roles and cultural norms. That’s why host Amanda de Cadenet gets into the weeds with Terry on issues including: relationships, vulnerability, coping with past sins, and liberation from intergenerational trauma. It’s all a part of Amanda’s special series, “What about the Men?”    Real, a world-renowned therapist, whose celebrity clients have included Bradley Cooper and Bruce Springsteen, typically charges $1000 dollars for his time. But all we ask is that you have the courage to tap play because this episode just might change your life (for free!)

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Like many children of immigrants, Kal Penn had to have 1000 times more tenacity and grit to get to where he is today. In this latest episode of Amanda de Cadenet’s special series, “The Conversation: About the Men,” she talks to the actor about his early influences, how he got the courage to pursue acting, as well as a really funny story about how he landed a job at the White House (pro-tip: get in front of Michelle Obama to make your case). Along the way, Amanda learns from Kal about what he means when he talks about the “white diversity” of his childhood in New Jersey as well as “The Brown Catch-22,” that South Asian actors of his generation had to navigate in Hollywood. 

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In this episode of our special series, “The Conversation: About the Men,” Amanda speaks with English musician, Yungblud. His music has been streamed millions of times by his adoring fans and for good reason, he actually has something to say! No topic was off limits for this raw interview where Yungblud spoke with Amanda about his love life, his struggle with suicidal thoughts, and his desire to live an authentic life. As Yungblud sings in one of his hit songs, “Everybody wants to feel love, everybody wants to be adored.” We couldn’t agree more.  

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Have you ever stopped and wondered, "Do I love myself?" That's a question that the actor Zachary Levi had to ask not long after he seriously contemplated suicide. Thanks in large part to therapy and self-care Zach has come out from under his dark days to tell his story of survival and he wants you to know this: no matter who you are, no matter how you feel about yourself, you are worthy of love, too. 

In this episode of The Conversation's special series, "About the Men?," Amanda speaks to Zach about the difficult journey he took to find inner peace. It's a topic that he writes about with great passion in "Radical Love," his memoir about his struggles with overwhelming depression and anxiety.

A warning to listeners, this episode deals with themes of depression and suicide. If you are contemplating suicide, help is just a free call away. Just dial 988 from any phone in the United States to get the help you need. 

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