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Marc Hildebrand is a husband, father, an LAPD Sergeant, and the creator of First Responder Fitness. He lost over 100 pounds and is in the best shape of his life at 43 years old. Marc is the founder of First Responder Fitness where he leads other First Responders to get in the best shape of their lives.

Marc decided to start taking care of his health after his first son was born. He blamed all the weight gain on the job and had been yo-yo dieting for years. After his son spent 73 days in the hospital, Marc had a mental breakdown and felt like he couldn't show up for his kid. When he hit rock bottom, he realized that he had to change his mindset before anything else. If you have a never-give-up mindset, you can achieve anything in life, no matter what setbacks you may face. The point is to just keep going. 

The question we have to answer as fathers is: "How can we do the best we can at our jobs, family, kids, but also do the work that makes us come alive?" The problem that comes with this question is self-sabotage; we often try to avoid putting in the work, so we sabotage ourselves by making excuses. However, in order for us to be the best husbands, fathers, business owners, and version of ourselves, we have to try things that we've never done before to become something we've never been. The way you do this is to surround yourself with like-minded people who have similar goals to you. They will act as your support and your motivation to become better and achieve your goals. They will help you change your mindset from making excuses to taking action. 

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Shawn Tolleson is a husband, father, former baseball player, public speaker, and entrepreneur. He is the founder of Tolleson Health Advisors which is a company that uses a person's biological process and creates a personalized plan for increasing their productivity and fulfillment.

Tolleson was a relief pitcher for the Los Angeles Dodgers and the Texas Rangers. Since his youth, Tolleson was raised to be a hard worker and to fulfill the purpose that God had for his life. When Shawn was in college, he discovered that he wanted to play baseball as a career. He started playing for the Dodgers as a pitcher and fell in love with the game.

In 2015, Shawn's father was diagnosed with two forms of Stage 4 cancer. Since his passing, Shawn formed a passion for health and how health can affect one's life. In 2020, he founded Tolleson Health Advisors and has had twenty clients since its launch.

One's of Shawn's greatest priorities in his morning routine. He stresses how much a morning routine can affect the whole rest of your day, whether it's done right or wrong. Shawn's mantra is that making small changes in your health can lead to astronomical changes in your life.

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Darryll Stinson is a husband, father, former D1 athlete, motivational speaker, and founder of Second Chance Athletes. At a young age, Darryll had to take care of his younger sisters because his father was fairly absent in his life. Through custody battles and being teased at school, Darryll found sports which then became his identity.

After his career in sports ended, Darryll discovered his passion for helping former athletes find their identity after sports. It's very common for athletes to use the sport that they play as a form of identity. However, Darryll is an advocate of identifying oneself with values, morals, or things you're passionate about. After his mentor showed him this technique, he has been able to show others how to do the same.

Darryll reminds us that rejection can be used to thrust you into success. No one wants to be rejected, especially men. They even try to go out of their way to be accepted and receive affirmation. However, when we get rejected in life, it always points us in another direction that we never would have thought if we hadn't been rejected.

"When you feel that moment of rejection, process that moment and make a better conclusion." Instead of feeling inadequate or like the world is out to get you, recognize that it may be the other person's insecurities that are driving their decision. Once you realize this, you can step back and come to a better conclusion that will leave you feeling content and secure in yourself.

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"What if we cared as much about the safety of our young people in digital spaces as much as we did in physical spaces." - Chris McKenna. The internet world in relatively new realm in which prying eyes can weave their way into our children's lives even more so than in the physical world. We care so much about who our children hang out with, where they're at on the playground, what time they say they'll be home. Yet, when it comes to technology, there are very little rules put into place that will protect them from online predators who have nothing but evil intentions.

Chris McKenna, former middle school youth pastor turned business owner, noticed this trend of outdated internet laws for protecting kids and decided to take matters into his own hands. He started the company, Protect Young Eyes, as an online program where parents could ask questions about technology and Chris would educate them on the dangers of the internet. Protect Young Eyes came up with an app as a "pandemic proof" way of presenting this information virtually instead of holding live presentations.

Titania Jordan is the Chief Parenting Officer for a tech company called Bark, which is a company that alerts parents when there are signs of any malicious content on a child's phone or device. The app protects against cyberbullying, thoughts of suicide, sexual content, potential drug use, online predation, and more. Bark does this by using artificial intelligence and machine learning to alert you of an issue instead of mirroring everything on your child's phone.

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There are three types of men in this world and each category defines a specific stage of personal growth that each man experiences in their life. The first category is "the victim." The victim is a type of man who blames his shortcomings and faults on outlying factors. For example, a victim might not show affection toward his wife and kids and then blame it on his parents not showing him any affection. This type of man will find proof to justify his actions and faults just to make himself feel better. For example, he may start eating healthy, go off on a food binge, and then blame it on the fact that he has never been able to eat healthy.

The "content zombie" is the next stage of personal development. This is the stage where the man recognizes he needs to make a change before his marriage or his relationship with his kids falls apart. He reads all of the podcasts, articles, goes to conferences, gets counseling - the works. The only issue with this stage is that there is no action. The content zombie has acquired all of the information necessary to change his life, yet hasn't taken the action to execute it yet.

The last phase of personal development, and the phase that men should spend the largest portion of their time in is the "executor phase." This is the stage where the man has finally begun to take some action and uses accountability to keep him honest. For example, you have begun asking your wife insightful questions about your relationship such as, "What are some things I do that make you feel the most loved?" You not only ask her this question, but you also have an accountability partner that you relay this outcome with so that you can stay on top of the development process.

There comes a point in your life when you have to make a choice. You have to decide that if you died today, what kind of legacy would you leave in your wife and children. Would they carry on that legacy into their lives? Would you have made an impact that would carry on through the generations? If you said no to any of these questions, it's time to make a choice. Do you go on living your life? Or, do you make a choice and decide to live legendary?

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Alright, alright, alright is the famous phrase coined by the illustrious Matthew McConaughey. He is an actor, father, husband, and author. When Matthew was younger, his father instilled in him three principles for life - "Don't say can't," "love, don't hate," "tell the truth, don't lie" and he has carried these principles throughout his life.

Matthew McConaughey has acted in over 50 films and is the co-founder of the Just Keep Livin' Foundation alongside his wife, Camila. The two have three children and currently reside in Austin, Texas. Throughout his life, Matthew has learned that putting the energy into your family will produce results far greater than if you go it alone. He recalls his wife saying, "You go, we go" when they were deciding whether or not to have children. Since having three children, Matthew has been cultivating a closeness with his children that leaves a legacy for years to come.

In his book Greenlights, Matthew talks about how he wants his life to read like an unfiltered, unedited version of himself. His whole life has been dedicated to this persona of an actor that everyone is familiar with. Leaving a legacy is all about the raw, unedited moments of our lives; the ones where we're not perfect and we do make mistakes. These are the moments that define who we are, not who everyone else thinks we are.

For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/alright-alright-alright/.

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John Ramstead is a husband, father, entrepreneur, and author of On Purpose, With Purpose. Ramstead knew from a young age that he wanted to be a pilot. However, when he got to college and was enrolled in the ROTC program, he never believed that he had what it took to be a pilot. After an inspiring talk with his father, John decided that he was going to take aviation classes and become a pilot. Throughout his studies, John had a mentor that held him accountable and challenged him to be the best that he could be. Ramstead finished first in his graduating class and got to pick the plane of his choice.

After John retired from the Navy, he became an entrepreneur and founded the company Beyond Influence. In 2011, John encountered an accident that would alter the course of his life forever. During a work retreat, John was riding on a horse that bucked him off and sent him straight into a steel pipe, shattering his skull. The doctors told his wife and kids to fill out a living will because he was not going to make it. During his time in the hospital, the Lord spoke to John and told him that he would heal him. From that moment on, John decided to save the relationship with his wife and children and become the husband and father he was meant to be.

Marriage is all about skill. You can't just walk in and expect to wing it on the first try; it takes patience, practice, and most importantly - SKILL. Having a healthy relationship with your kids works the same way too. It's not about getting them to be on their best behavior, it's about bringing out the best in them, no matter if it's different than how you imagined. When John was near the end of his life, he discovered that it's not about what you leave for your family, it's about what you leave in them. That is the difference between inheritance and legacy - legacy is forever, inheritance is temporary.

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