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Scott Holman is a husband, father, business owner, and founder of the program Stop Clowning Around. Scott's day job is the Director of Sales for national accounts for a very large security company. Scott's organization, Stop Clowning Around, is about developing human beings into a level of mastery. He has also recently taken on two properties that he has flipped for financial investment.

Scott's number one asset that he pushes is learning how to view things from someone else's perspective. Perspective drives everything in life, especially our interactions. Everyone has a different set of lenses they see the world through, and we can't change that. You will be much better as a person and as a business leader if you learn to look at things from someone else's perspective.

Another thing that Scott practices regularly with his wife and children is communication. Communication is key to healthy marriage, along with being each other's best friend. Communication and time are the key to raising your children to be strong men and women. Being there for your wife and kids, and not telling them how to do things or "fix it" for them is the driving factor in successful relationships.

Asking someone a series of questions that will lead them down the path of discovery is much better than fixing the problem for them. Most people don't need us to tell them that we're doing something wrong, they need us to walk the path with them and allow themselves to vocalize it, so they can take the action step at the end. This means, being intentional and allowing yourself to sit and listen, when you'd rather take control of the situation.

As men, we are the leaders and masters of 3 areas - ourselves, our families, and our businesses. In order to live legendary, we have to understand that life is always about the journey of mastery. It isn't about the destination of mastery, and never having to learn. We are constantly learning along the journey, and that's how we become legendary!

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Vernon Fox III is a retired football player, husband, father, coach, consultant, and international public speaker. Fox played for the San Diego Chargers, Detroit Lions, Washington Redskins, and Denver Broncos. He was awarded MVP for Special Teams He was raised in a strong Christian household where his father was physically and emotionally present in his life. Vernon speaks fondly of his father as a positive role model; he was a faithful and stable figure in Fox's life.

When it comes to success, it's really about your mindset that makes you successful, not your skill set. If you have a strong mentality to persevere through hard times, you'll be ten times more successful than the person with just a strong skill set. Mindset requires training and practice, it doesn't just happen overnight.

Excuses are justifications for losers; it's you trying to find an escape route. A reason is something that's outside your control. Most people will try to find a way to turn their excuse into a reason, and you can't live life that way. If you own up to what you can control, and you understand what you cannot control, you can separate it from the beginning. When you do this, you end up not living by the excuses.

Perseverance is not something you are born with. It's something you learn and adapt to. You have to decide within yourself that you aren't going to quit, no matter what life throws at you. You're going to pick yourself and try again tomorrow. This is how you become successful no matter what your skills are and no matter where you come from.

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David Anderson is a husband, father, owner and creative director of Chimaeric Motion Pictures. He has been doing videos since high school, but has professionally been making videos since 2007. He started working for Chimaeric Motion Pictures in 2007, and eventually took over ownership in 2014. "Intelligence is knowing what to do when you don't know what to do." In life, we are sometimes faced with problems and challenges, and we aren't sure what to do. Being prepared is the ultimate tool for overcoming this unknown and making the right decisions. Knowing what you can and can't control allows you to navigate a situation in ways you wouldn't have if you weren't prepared.

There are times in our marriages and parenthood where we have to learn things the hard way. Two lessons that can be learned from these relationships are - communication and vulnerability are critical. We try to portray a certain aura of who we are as a human being to the world. In doing that, you tend to put up barriers for how you actually feel, and you don't commit to being vulnerable and 100% honest in the relationship. You shouldn't wear masks in front of them; you should be totally and completely who you are.

You have to go through hardships in order to fully appreciate and understand those lessons. It's one thing to read about something, or talk about something, than it is to actually experience it. When you experience it, that's when you actually learn it.

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Greg McKeown is a husband, father, author, public speaker, and leadership and business strategist. He is the author of the books Essentialism and Effortless and the CEO of McKeown Inc. McKeown is a renowned LinkedIn Author for the Harvard Business Review and his writings have appeared in the New York Times, The Huffington Post, Fast Company, Fortune, and Politico. Greg's main purpose is to help people and teams discover what drives success and what doesn't. McKeown thrives off of challenging conventional wisdom and focuses on what you really need in order to be successful.

Mistake-free living is not something we should be interested in, either for us or our children. Honesty, humility, and leadership are the key elements that allow us to come back from our mistakes and better ourselves so that we can strengthen our relationships. Our children learn from our actions, so if we make mistakes and recover quickly from them, they learn how to do the same.

Greg is a huge proponent of gratitude. He talks about following a complaining statement with a statement of gratitude; this can make a vast difference in mindset. Mindset is the key to going from a chore, to a habit, to a ritual. These three things are how we can achieve a state of effortlessness in our lives.

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Dan Johnson is a husband, father, and founder of the website New Paths. During his younger years, Dan was introduced to pornography by a friend. As he got older, the addiction intensified. During his college years, Dan used the internet as a way of accessing porn and felt the guilt and shame of his actions.

Before Dan got married, he told his then girlfriend that he was addicted to pornography. After the couple got married, they implemented filters on their devices to prevent him from falling into temptation. Unfortunately, he was unable to resist, and he fell off the wagon again. Once Dan realized that he had to make a change, he joined a peer group to keep him accountable.

With any addiction, it can be easy to fall back into temptation and continue the cycle. However, having a sense of community drives you to be better and helps you to understand that you are not alone. With porn especially, comes a great amount of guilt and shame. What Dan has done is implemented a three-step process that helps you recognize those urges, process them, and actively count the reps of your resistance. The action of recognizing the urges, saying them out loud, and then counting each rep that you resisted the urge to watch porn has allowed Dan and many other men to overcome their addiction.

For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/counting-reps-to-resistance/

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Sal Frisella is a husband, father of three children, and the President of 1st Phorm Supplements, which was founded by his brother Andy. He was a Minor League Baseball player who was drafted by the St. Louis Cardinals and played for the Single A New Jersey Cardinals.

Sal went from baseball player to selling copiers to medical sales where he worked for Johnson and Johnson as a successful sales agent. After these phases of his life, Sal realized that these jobs were not meant for him. Sal knew that he had to take a chance on himself and live the best possible life ever. Becoming the President of 1stPhorm gave him the best life that he could want.

However, Sal's goals weren't always clear. The fear of rejection and fear of the word "no" often held him back during his younger years. Yet, fear didn't stop him from trying. Sal's success in his life can attest to this because even through doubt and others negative opinions, he was able to push through and achieve the life he wanted. Sometimes, we are so afraid of rejection that we live with the regret of not trying at all.

Take advantage of every single day and live as if it were your last, or you'll live with regret. The greatest strikeout of life is never stepping up to the plate. What are you going to say about you on your deathbed?

For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/embrace-fear/

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