The Hook Up

When it comes to professor student relationships, a lot of people argue ‘if everyone’s an adult’ and ‘if everyone’s consenting’ there’s nothing wrong with the dynamic. But Author Madison Griffiths disagrees. 

In this chat with Dee Salmin, Madison unpacks her new book Sweet Nothing which explores four women’s experiences dating and sleeping with their professors - and how gender and power imbalances make the relationships so much more nuanced than consent. 

SHOW NOTES:

LifeLine: 13 11 14

1800 Respect: 1800 737 732

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Dating your best friend’s ex, boss/employee relationships, celebrities and fans, dating with a huge age gap - there are so many relationships that are considered forbidden and taboo. We hear from you on what it’s like to date someone you feel like you have to hide.

CW: discussion of domestic violence.If this episode brings anything up for you, help is available: 1800 RESPECT

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

If you struggle with finishing too quickly during sex (aka premature ejaculation) sexologist Cam Fraser is here to help. In this ep, we find out why it’s the most common sexual issue to affect men, what causes it, and how to deal. 

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Does the order in which you’re born impact your compatibility with a partner? According to ‘research’, opposites attract eg. first borns work are best paired with last borns, and if you’re both the eldest/youngest - it’s chaos. But is Birth Order Theory legit? We investigate the latest Tiktok trend with your stories and some research of our own.

SHOW NOTES:

Birth Order Theory

Norwegian study into birth order and marriage success

Dr Kevin Leman’s on birth order

https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/who-you-should-marry-based-on-your-birth-order-a7513656.html#:~:text=According%20to%20the%20study%2C%20the,to%20be%20a%20power%20struggle.

Study into how birth order doesn’t affect compatibility

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

If you’re keen to explore consensual non-monogamy or open up your relationship - this ep is for you! Psychologist and Author Dr Chris Cheers chats to Dee about his own poly identity, how he navigates having a husband and a partner, and shares his advice on how to do non-monogamy ‘ethically.’ 

SHOW NOTES:

ABC iview Compass Episode - Beyond Monogamy

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Seeing the term ‘ENM’ in dating app bios? Noticing your friends are opening up their relationships? Ethical Non-Monogamy is on the rise in young people, so in this ep we find out from you how it’s going - the good, the bad and the horny. 

SHOW NOTES:

ENM explained: 

ENM on the rise: 

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

A lot more people are adding terms like ‘dom’ or ‘sub’ or ‘switch’ to their dating app bios - so what does it mean? Dee chats to sexologist Lauren French about how to add power play into your love life and how to spot a ‘fake dom’.

SHOW NOTES:

1800 Respect - 1800 737 732

LifeLine - 13 11 14

More info on powerplay and sex: https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/the-sunday-hook-up/power-dynamics-in-sex-top-bottom-dominant-submissive/11996290

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

What does it mean to actually be dominant or submissive in sex? Because you told us heaps of people are abusing their preference to be “dominant”, and you’re ending up physically, sexually and emotionally hurt. We explore dom/sub dynamics, hearing your stories from how it can be the best sex of your life when done right, but traumatic when done wrong. 

SHOW NOTES:

1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 

LifeLine - 13 11 14

More info on powerplay and sex: https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/the-sunday-hook-up/power-dynamics-in-sex-top-bottom-dominant-submissive/11996290

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Around one in ten women and people with uteruses in the world have endometriosis. And even though it can be one of the most debilitating and painful conditions - there’s still no cure. 

But now a huge study has found a really interesting link between endo and childhood. We’ll unpack it in this episode with Associate Professor Dr Theresa Larkin. Plus she’ll explain what the symptoms of endo are, the process to diagnosis, treatment and pain management. 

Correction: In this episode the definition of endometriosis was simplified as endometrial tissue. In fact, according to Endometriosis Australia, 'endometriosis is a chronic and persistent condition in which tissue similar to the lining of the uterus (the endometrium) grows outside of the uterus'.

SHOW NOTES:

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Everyone’s talking about incels - but what about women who’re struggling to date and have sex? Enter ‘femcels’ – a term that’s got people divided online, with some even saying they don’t exist. We investigate the history of incels, how a new movement of women identify with the term, and what that looks like in your dating lives.

SHOW NOTES:

The Woman Who Founded “Incel Movement”: https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-45284455

From femcels to ‘femcelcore’: Women’s involuntary celibacy and the rise of heteronihilism

How "Femcels" Differ From Incels:

Research debunking 80/20 theory: https://www.psypost.org/romantic-attraction-and-evolution-new-study-pinpoints-key-traits-in-mate-selection/

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.