The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Doctor Alexandra Stockwell, MD

If you were ever interested in getting your partner to change in some way, and wondered how to make that change happen, you are not the only one! In fact, "How do I get my partner to change?" is a question that I'm asked very frequently, with exasperation and concern. In this week's episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast I'll share my answer with you.

Here's a spoiler: the secret I'm about to share has nothing to do with actually making your partner change, although it will still get you what you want. And it doesn't involve compromise or giving up on what you want either!

In this episode, I share:

• What I told a couple I'm currently coaching who's determined to improve their relationship (and each of them wants the other to change)
• The evolution of my desire for my husband to change, and how I shifted my thoughts over time
• How to get your partner to do exactly what you want them to do, without being a nag

…plus much more.

The secret I tell in this episode will open many doors for you, and for your relationship. I'm thrilled to share it with you.

Join Uncompromising Intimacy 101: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/workshop/

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If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com

If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, get started with the FREE first chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

Purchase a FULL copy of "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

About Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Her mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement together, every day.

For over two decades, she's been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success! Alexandra Stockwell, MD supports family happiness through facilitating healing and joy for couples.

Dr. Corey and Pam Allan co-host the wonderful, informative, fun podcast called Sexy Marriage Radio, which he started 11 years ago! Their marriage and partnership exemplify many of the concepts I teach. I especially enjoy that they've come to it through very different training and life experiences than I have had–which makes our conversation all the more dynamic.

In this episode you'll hear Dr. Corey and Pam discuss:

• Dr. Corey's inspiration for starting a podcast 11 years ago (which was way ahead of its time)
• The question Pam asks herself regularly as part of addressing any issues that arise in their marriage (and how she also applies this to motherhood and other relationships)
• How Dr. Corey and Pam's careers have evolved and led them to gradually begin working together as co-hosts
• How most people view the concept of what is "fair"

…plus much more. You'll hear that this couple makes a conscious decision every single day to be together, and the work, awareness, intention, and communication this requires. And how worth it it is!

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If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com

If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, get started with the FREE first chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

Purchase a FULL copy of "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

About Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Her mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement together, every day.

For over two decades, she's been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success! Alexandra Stockwell, MD supports family happiness through facilitating healing and joy for couples.

Identifying and expressing your desires is one of the most important aspects of real intimacy. However, I frequently see couples struggle with this–both with knowing what they want and also being able to say it to one another.

Some people have no idea where to begin in order to figure out what they desire. Others know exactly what they want but don't know how to say it clearly, or they find it prohibitively uncomfortable to do so. And then some people don't know what they want nor how to say it.

It can be helpful when your spouse asks you, "what do you want?" But that question has at least two different meanings, with two very different contexts. It's important to be able to distinguish between them. In one context the question is genuinely about you and your desires, and in the other it's about the question asker's needs in that moment.

In this episode you'll learn:

• Two different contexts and meanings that become relevant when you're asked what you want and how to respond to each one
• Tactics to help you discover what you really want
• Why it's important to give yourself time to identify what you want, and then share it

…plus much more.

Since it's the beginning of a new year, I know you may be setting goals and intentions–doing so requires you to tap into your desires and navigate any blocks you have. I hope this episode helps you in achieving that.

January Uncompromising Intimacy Workshop: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/workshop/

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Website | Linkedin | Instagram

If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com

If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, get started with the FREE first chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

Purchase a FULL copy of "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

About Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Her mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement together, every day.

For over two decades, she's been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success! Alexandra Stockwell, MD supports family happiness through facilitating healing and joy for couples.

Maraya and Michael Brown met and he proposed on the first date! Now about a decade later, they talk about the amazing evolution of their relationship–it's truly a beautiful love story with delicious twists and turns.

Maraya is a women's health and empowerment expert who midwife's game changing women through the important moments of life. Her husband, Michael, used to work full time and now is at home, supporting her behind the scenes, believing in her, and gladly watching her soar. In this episode, you'll hear Maraya and Michael share:

• The mantra Michael practices that allows him to support Maraya in the sincere way that serves them both
• A spicy personal story from Maraya on (re)connecting in the bedroom
• The story of their first date and what inspired Michael to propose after just meeting Maraya

…plus much more.

It takes a lot of trust, commitment and sincerity to practice the level of support that Michael offers Maraya–you'll get a lot from listening to this loving and intimate couple!

Free elixir recipes: https://www.marayabrown.com/recipes

Next Vibrant Life Workshop: https://www.marayabrown.com/thevibrantlife

The Women's Vibrancy Code Podcast: https://www.marayabrown.com/podcast

Follow Maraya on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_marayabrown_/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/energyhormoneslibido

Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify

Website | Linkedin | Instagram

If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com

If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, get started with the FREE first chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

Purchase a FULL copy of "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

About Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Her mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement together, every day.

For over two decades, she's been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success! Alexandra Stockwell, MD supports family happiness through facilitating healing and joy for couples.

In this episode you'll hear me coach Jennifer Kaylo Ruscin, a polyamorous woman with a podcast focused on polyamory, swinging, and all things related. I was scheduled to be a guest on her show, The Jennifer Kaylo Ruscin Podcast, but instead of a typical interview I ended up giving her a coaching session instead!A week before we spoke, Jennifer faced a major challenge in her relationship. She told her partner that she was interested in dating a couple she knows. Her partner is typically ok with flirting and fun sexy socializing but he did not take well to this idea at all. He immediately rejected it and said he would move out rather than stand by her moving forward with this plan. Jennifer was faced with three choices: move forward without his permission, leave her partner, or dial down and disconnect from her desires. She chose the third option. That's where our conversation begins.In this unique episode you'll hear:

• How I coached Jennifer and reframed her views on compromise
• The ways Jennifer communicated her desire for polyamorous experiences to her partner
• My advice to Jennifer to communicate using curiosity and openness

…plus much more.

The way I coach Jennifer will show you how to feel more connection, more emotional intimacy, and more erotic gratification in your relationship, whether you are in a strictly monogamous relationship, or not.

The Jennifer Kaylo Ruscin Podcast

Link to full video on Youtube: https://youtu.be/ogMBkjNJiTk

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If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com

If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, get started with the FREE first chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

Purchase a FULL copy of "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

About Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Her mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement together, every day.

For over two decades, she's been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success! Alexandra Stockwell, MD supports family happiness through facilitating healing and joy for couples.

Today's podcast episode is different from every episode before because, for the first time ever, I'm interviewing someone about the power of authentic connection who is not currently in a committed relationship. But, I heard Serdar speak on a panel about masculine and feminine polarity teachings, and his views piqued my interest (plus I was captivated by his voice which you'll soon understand). Then shortly after that, I saw a post he did on how to have meaningful connected sex, and I knew we were aligned in our ways of thinking and that he would have a lot to offer that will enhance the intimacy in your life.

Serdar is the epitome of self-reflection, living authentically, and constantly growing in connectedness and hearing his perspective as a single male is sure to inspire and nourish you.

You'll hear us discuss:

• How the challenges in Serdar's upbringing left him with a strong yearning for connection
• How Serdar defines attachment trauma and how it relates to the way he coaches
• The ways in which Serdar's concept of connection has evolved over time
• Serdar's views on sex, intimacy, and connection and his guidance on how to have more fulfilling sex

Serdar's personal growth journey is truly beautiful and I'm delighted for you to learn from such an enlightened man.

To book a call with Serdar: https://calendly.com/emeraldheart

To read Serdar's articles: Facebook.com/SerdarHararovich

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If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com

If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, get started with the FREE first chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

Purchase a FULL copy of "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

About Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Her mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement together, every day.

For over two decades, she's been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success! Alexandra Stockwell, MD supports family happiness through facilitating healing and joy for couples.

It's that time of the year again; the holiday season is upon us. But do you actually find it to be the most wonderful time of the year??? The holidays should be a celebration, a day of recreation and togetherness. Yet so many people, especially exhausted mothers, need to recover once the holidays are over. Did you know that January is the month when the most people file for divorce, right after the holidays are over? Let me just say, it doesn't need to be this way! If you want to create joy for your family, your marriage, and yourself this holiday season, you need the tools to do so.

In this episode you'll hear:

• How to create an enjoyable holiday season with your spouse, even if you desire different things
• The most effective way to tend to everyone's needs during the holidays
• Ways to identify what you desire and communicate it to those around you

I hope the tools I share will help you and your family create a connected, loving holiday and that, come January, you'll feel rested and rejuvenated!

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If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com

If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, get started with the FREE first chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

Purchase a FULL copy of "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

About Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Her mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement together, every day.

For over two decades, she's been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success!

In my intimacy coaching business, over the years many women have reached out and expressed interest in working with me, while also sharing a lot of frustration because their husband "wasn't interested in doing the work." However, anytime one of those husbands chose to have a short conversation with me, it turned out that he definitely was interested in exploring coaching with me. I found this to be true 100% of the time!

It used to confuse me, until I came to understand that people tend to project their own personal growth style onto their partner, and then find the partner lacking. These men, who were described by their wives as having no interest in personal growth and coaching, turned out to be quite interested and motivated. However, they were not interested in contorting themselves to fit the definition of "personal growth" assigned to them by their wives. In other words, they were not interested in neglecting their own ways of growing and learning, in order to conform to what their wives wanted.

Once they spoke with me and realized that I highly valued their perspective and preferences, everything would change. They would enthusiastically open up and tell me how much they wanted to put attention on their marriage.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• Why personal growth doesn't look the same from person to person
• A story about a woman I coached who traveled for work and struggled with long-distance communication with her husband
• A man I coached on his own because his wife wasn't interested (and doesn't speak English) and the amazing results he created in his marriage.

If you have a partner who isn't interested in personal growth, your instinct may be to try to change them, or give up on them...I hope this episode makes you question those options and inspires you to adopt a different strategy instead.

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If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com

If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, get started with the FREE first chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

Purchase a FULL copy of "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

About Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Her mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement together, every day.

For over two decades, she's been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success!

Alexandra Stockwell, MD supports family happiness through facilitating healing and joy for couples.

There are many different ways for a couple to connect. For Marilee and Paul Kostadimas, it has always been using travel to enhance intimacy – from the day they met on an archeological dig far from where either one of them lived. Rugged travel, luxury travel, educational travel, service-based travel, leisure travel, historical travel, and many other kinds of travel form the defining backbone of this couple's beautiful, intimate marriage. They live by the mantra, "meaningful travel is part of a meaningful life" and they see themselves as travel partners in life, through life, and for life. While this shared value has been there since they met, it has evolved over time and taken many different shapes over the course of their long, nourishing marriage.

The Kostadimas' share their love story and how travel became so important to them and has enhanced their marriage–so much so, that they started a company, Spotlight Sojourns, to inspire and connect others wanting to enjoy more meaningful and varied travel together.

Also In this episode:

• How these two bring balance to their relationship through respecting one another's gifts and creativity: Paul's photography skills and Marilee's way with words
• Marilee and Paul's conviction that couples shouldn't commit to marriage until they've traveled together
• How Marilee and Paul became passionate about travel and allowed that to color their lives
• The different types of travel styles and how Marilee and Paul choose their next adventures

Marilee has such a beautiful way with words that invites you to feel the moments she shares from this couple's incredible adventures.

The Kostadimas' website and blog: https://spotlightsojourns.com/

Get travel inspiration delivered to your inbox: https://spotlightsojourns.ck.page/

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Website | Facebook | Facebook Group | Linkedin | Instagram

If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com

If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, get started with the FREE first chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

Purchase a FULL copy of "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

About Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Her mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement together, every day.

For over two decades, she's been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success!

It's the 100th episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast and we discuss why intimacy matters! I am elated to be celebrating this beautiful milestone. In honor of the occasion I invited my own coach, Anne Rose Hart, to join me. We talk about intimacy, why it matters, my zone of genius in serving couples, and the need for this type of work in the world.

This is a refreshingly unique episode, as I am the one who is interviewed, on my own podcast! It's such a great way to mark 100 episodes of the show.

Also in this episode:

• Exactly how I define intimacy
• Why intimacy is a learned skill (including a foray into my teachings!)
• The importance of growing within your marriage, not just for you as a couple, but for what it creates on a much larger scale in terms of influence and impact
• My vision and goals for the future of relationships

This is a tender and intimate glimpse into what a private conversation looks like between me and my amazing coach and you'll get to hear the beauty of our mutual respect, and the foundation of love that informs our communication.

Connect with Anne Rose Hart on her website: https://annerosehart.com/

Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify

Website | Facebook | Facebook Group | Linkedin | Instagram

If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com

If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, get started with the FREE first chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

Purchase a FULL copy of "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE

About Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Her mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement together, every day.

For over two decades, she's been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success! Alexandra Stockwell, MD supports family happiness through facilitating healing and joy for couples.