The Momset Podcast

It's interesting that moms are being told how good and admirable it is to ask for help, then in the same breath we are told not to help our kids when they ask for it.

"They're old enough to do it themselves."

"They're big enough to do it themselves."

"That's not mine, they should do it."

"If I don't do it no one else will."

I'm big enough, old enough and perfectly capable of simple tasks and sometimes those are the ones I feel are too big when I have so much else going on.

I want my kids to know they can always ask for my help. Even when it's a problem or task to face on their own, I'll be there with them as a listening ear and word of guidance.

Why would my kids ask for help with the big stuff if I instilled a "do it yourself" belief with the small stuff?

This is my perspective that nurtures my willingness to serve seamlessly, say "yes" to helping and instilling lifelong beliefs.

This is the Instagram reel I mentioned in the episode.

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How long would it take you to write out a list of allll the things you tell yourself you can't do?

While some people want to fight to defend this "I can't" mentality so they can feel justified, YOU and I are ready to fight for that fire inside of us that knows WE CAN.

This episode walks you through why it can feel so frustrating and freeing to say "I can, I just don't want to." What is the truth we can find when we shift our perspective this way and how to keep your feet on the ground through it all.

I did a little IG reel on this!

Be sure to do the writing exercise I described in this episode so you can become empowered to face the heart of the "I can't" mentality.

I'm cheering you on, always. Remember, I have lots of negative thoughts and poor moments, too. I just really enjoy learning from them and challenging myself to do better with you.

The transition for 3-4 kids was hands down the hardest for me. I realized it was hardest because I had failed to equip my kids with the self-esteem to be independent and responsible in the ways I really needed them to show up while I recovered postpartum.

May is our Declutter Your Heart and Home 28 Day challenge in the MOMSET Membership. This is a fantastic time to create a home that serves you and your family so everyone can build their self-esteem and thrive harmoniously. Join here today!

Then I realized that I was stealing their self-esteem to build my own. I did just about everything for them everyday and I LOVED doing it. I felt GREAT, but at what cost? How did they get to feel when I took the opportunities from them?

I'm sharing the practical changes I have made to build my own self-esteem AND provided endless opportunities for my kids to build their own, too.

Did you know the AVERAGE home has over 300,000 items in it!? Moms have way too much STUFF to manage. Today we have Julia Ubbenga, author of "Declutter Your Heart and Your Home" as well as minimalist living coach, here to encourage us ALL to start making changes.

If you're feeling overwhelmed in your home and like you spend your day managing "stuff" and find it impossible to keep up- you'll love this episode. After Julia was diagnosed with PPD and had recently left her job to become a SAHM... she knew she needed to make a change, too.

Julis is partnering with the MOMSET Membership to bring a whole home decluttering challenge to us through May. We will have an daily realistic declutter task and will be reading her new book together!

This challenge will focus on decluttering your mind, heart and home as Julia and I team up together! All MOMSET Members get to join!

Connect with Julia Ubbenga

Listen to episode 130 for Part One "Be Quiet" before you jump into asking great questions!

"To answer before listening—that is folly and shame." Proverbs 18:13

Get better at seeing the real problem because behavior is a symptom of a problem. When you’re quiet and ask a few good questions, you can let the problem reveal itself to you. 

This episode gets into WHY we are asking questions, WHAT the benefit is and HOW to do it- the words to avoid and use!

Buckle up buttercup and let's dig in! :)

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Podcast Episode 130: Be Quiet - A Mindset Tool to Improve Communication

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In this episode of Be Quiet, I’m teaching you a mindset tool that’s too easy not to implement, and I encourage you to use it in your marriage too! This tool—simply being quiet—can quickly reshape your mindset and communication skills, especially when dealing with challenging situations.

I’ll break down why, when, and how to “be quiet” and show you how Scripture supports this approach. We’ll dive into the power of pausing, listening, and thinking before responding. Plus, I’ll answer questions from listeners about how to effectively use this tool with kids and loved ones, address emotional triggers, and handle situations where silence feels uncomfortable.

If you’ve ever found yourself reacting before thinking or struggling with emotional responses, this episode is for you. Join me as I teach you how being quiet can help you build emotional maturity, strengthen your communication, and model healthy behaviors for your family.

Stay tuned for next week’s episode, where we’ll talk about asking effective questions after being quiet.

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Do you ever think that things are just going different than what you would choose for yourself?! Of course you do because we are humans living a big LIFE.

This episode is expanding your mentality to be able to have a greater capacity to accept what you are given, even when it is different than what you want or would choose for yourself.

This is YOUR life.

YOU get to decide what you think about it.

Is it happening for you, to you or just happening and has nothing to do with you? Let's get your mindset serving you.

I'll coach you in my membership.

You can see my free content here.

We have the incredible opportunity to learn about the power of owning your motherhood from Brooke Romney. This episode is full of encouragement and practical approaches for moms.

Brooke Romney is an author, speaker and mom of four boys! She's a season ahead of me and shared fantastic insights to what works well for her and what she priorities to help her show up as her best. We can all relate to some of these pain points and benefit from the perspectives.

-Own what you love in motherhood.

-Double down on your influences.

-Protect your headspace in home and family.

-Staying real and real intentional.

I love her Modern Manners Flipbook and would strongly encourage you to keep this as a focal point in your home.

Brooke Romney is on Instagram!

"If I forgive then they'll be let off the hook..." "Tessa, I want to forgive them but I can't just let them back into my life after everything they've done."

Gosh, do I relate and have some good news for you. I like to think I have gotten really good at forgiving because I also invite in a crucial piece that keeps me in charge of my seasons.

This episode is deeply connected to the way I coach women, just like you, through the journey and throws of becoming who you want to be no matter where you go or who you're with.

Join our membership to receive coaching with me! I'll teach you the tools and show you the way they work even in YOUR unique circumstances and relationships.

All my love,

Tessa Romero

Ever notice how when things go wrong, you blame others, and when things go right, you chalk it up to luck? I’m here to remind you that your hard work and intention deserve recognition. By breaking free from old patterns of blame and victim mentalities, you can claim ownership of your successes and learn from your challenges.

Tune in, shift your perspective, and discover how to flip your mindset—celebrating every victory and lesson on your journey to becoming the best version of you. This is your chance to reclaim your power and rewrite your narrative. Join me and begin.

Ready for more? Let me coach you inside of my membership. We'll be the ones to challenge you and treat you as who we believe you can be.

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