Jefferson Fisher sits down with Paul to unpack the communication habits that can quietly make or break relationships, from texts we should never send to arguments we should never try to win.

As a trial lawyer turned viral speaking coach, Jefferson has built a following of millions by teaching one thing: how to have hard conversations without losing yourself. He reveals the one word all liars use, how to spot a narcissist in an argument, and the subtle cues that signal whether a relationship will survive or silently collapse.

He also explains how to master confrontation without creating conflict, and the powerful eye contact trick that can change the way we connect. This is a conversation about how to show up with confidence and strength, even when the stakes are high.

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(00:00) Intro

(01:46) Self Esteem and Communication

(07:07) Preparing to Spot the Lie

(08:47) Let Your Breath Be the First Word You Say

(12:28) How Important Is Context to Communication?

(14:06) How Do We Best Connect Through Conversation?

(18:42) Never Win an Argument

(22:34) Active Listening

(26:47) Don't Step on Their Cry

(29:06) The Importance of Smiling

(33:41) Body Language and Pacing

(38:24) How Do We Spot a Liar?

(45:11) Indeed Ad

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(47:25) Temperature Checks

(49:53) Emotional Availability in Men

(58:52) Toxicity in Relationships

(1:18:15) Dealing with Narcissists

(1:24:16) Dealing with Gaslighting

(1:29:47) How to Have Difficult Conversations

(1:40:09) Jefferson's Conversation Demonstration

(1:43:58) Jefferson's Parting Advice

(1:45:26) Jefferson's Most Profound Conversation

(1:48:50) Paul's Takeaways

(1:50:56) Love Journal Ad

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