🤰These Thoughts Don’t Mean You Want to Harm Your Baby

In this second of two episodes about perinatal OCD on The OCD Whisperer Podcast, Kristina Orlova is joined again by Betty Flores, LCSW, a perinatal mental health specialist and founder of Perinatal Wellness, for an honest and deeply needed conversation about perinatal OCD, intrusive thoughts, pregnancy, and postpartum mental health.

Betty shares her own lived experience with undiagnosed perinatal OCD—including how both she and her therapist initially missed the signs—and how that journey ultimately led her to specialize in helping parents who feel terrified by thoughts they don’t understand.

Betty opens up about:

• Experiencing intrusive thoughts during postpartum that were misunderstood as “normal worry”

• Why perinatal OCD is often missed or minimized—even by trained professionals

• Taboo intrusive thoughts involving harm and why they don’t reflect intent

• How reassurance, checking, and mental review quietly fuel the OCD cycle

• Why ERP therapy and proper education changed everything

Whether you’re pregnant, postpartum, supporting a loved one, or trying to understand intrusive thoughts, this conversation offers clarity, education, and relief—without minimizing how real and painful this experience can be.

📲 About Betty Flores (guest):

• Certified in Perinatal Mental Health | EMDR | ERP

• Perinatal OCD/Anxiety, Reproductive Trauma, Grief & Loss

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/perinatal_wellness/

• Perinatal Wellness: https://www.perinatal-wellness.com/

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[00:00] – When the Expert Misses OCD in Herself: A Therapist’s Undiagnosed Perinatal OCD

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🤰Are these protective instincts… or is it postpartum OCD?

In this episode of The OCD Whisperer Podcast, Kristina Orlova speaks with Betty Flores, LCSW, a perinatal mental health specialist from Perinatal Wellness. Together, they explore how postpartum and pregnancy OCD show up, why intrusive thoughts feel so convincing during this stage of life, and how parents can tell the difference between normal worry and an OCD-driven threat response.

Betty breaks down:

• What intrusive thoughts in pregnancy and postpartum actually look like

• How perinatal OCD disguises itself as “being a good parent”

• The difference between normal protective instincts and OCD-driven urgency

• Why reassurance-seeking, checking, and mental reviewing fuel the cycle

If you’re pregnant, postpartum, trying to conceive, or supporting someone who is — and struggling with frightening thoughts that don’t match who you are — this episode offers clarity, normalization, and hope. You are not broken, dangerous, or failing as a parent. And help is available.

📲 About Betty Flores (guest):

• Certified in Perinatal Mental Health | EMDR | ERP

• Perinatal OCD/Anxiety, Reproductive Trauma, Grief & Loss

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/perinatal_wellness/

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[00:00] – Normal Protective Instinct or OCD? Why This Question Confuses Almost Every Parent

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💔Can OCD convince you that you’re incapable of love?

In this episode of The OCD Whisperer Podcast, Kristina Orlova speaks with Zack Tucker, OCD advocate and creator of OCDestigmatize. Together, they explore relationship OCD, health anxiety, shame, and what real recovery actually looks like when OCD never fully disappears—but stops controlling your life.

Zack opens up about:

• Relationship OCD and the fear of “not really loving” partners

• How intrusive thoughts destroyed past relationships and self-esteem

• Promiscuity, avoidance, and using control to cope with emotional pain

• ERP, exposure, and redefining what recovery truly means

• Living with OCD long-term while still building love, confidence, and meaning

Whether you’re navigating OCD yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode offers hope, perspective, and reassurance that you can live fully—even with uncertainty.

📲 About Zack Tucker (guest):

• popular mental health Instagram page owner

• OCD survivor

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ocdestigmatize/

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[00:00] – Meet Zach & Why He Started Speaking Publicly About OCD

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⚠️ Disclaimer: Please note while the host is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in OCD and anxiety disorders in the state of California, this podcast is for educational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for therapy.

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🧠Can social media trigger your OCD without you even realizing it?

In this solo episode of The OCD Whisperer Podcast, Kristina Orlova explores how social media interacts with OCD, compulsions, and obsessive thoughts. She shares strategies for scrolling with intention, not on autopilot, and how to reclaim control over your digital habits.

Kristina opens up about:

• How a quick scroll can spark OCD spirals and leave you feeling anxious or empty

• The sneaky ways social media hijacks compulsions and triggers obsessions

• Why intention-focused use is more effective than avoidance

• Simple, actionable steps to reclaim control over your scrolling habits

Whether you’re navigating OCD yourself or supporting someone, this episode offers practical strategies, awareness tools, and encouragement to transform your social media use into a value-driven practice.

💪Listener Challenge: Before bed tonight, pause and screenshot your home screen. Circle the app you reach for first when you feel triggered and post it (or save privately). Then write: “I’m choosing intention — not autopilot.” Let’s show social media who’s really in charge.

📲 About Krista Reed (guest):

• OCD/BDD/BFRB Specialist in KS

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristaruthreed/?hl=en

• Breathe Between Battles: A Daily Reflection Journal: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FSL41QCR?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_SKM3AA2QVVQ5B5MHYS9Q&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_SKM3AA2QVVQ5B5MHYS9Q&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_SKM3AA2QVVQ5B5MHYS9Q&bestFormat=true

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[00:00] – What happens when social media feels like a drug?

📚 Research Sources Mentioned in This Episode:

• Primack et al. (2017). Social media use across multiple platforms linked to higher depressive symptoms. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4853817/

• Keles et al. (2020). Social media associated with anxiety, depression, loneliness, and lower well-being. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7785056/

• Giraldo-Luque et al. (2023). Excessive social media use connected to stress, poor sleep, and emotional distress. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10129173/

• Lin et al. (2017). Using more social media platforms predicts higher anxiety/depression. https://psychiatryonline.org/doi/10.1176/appi.pn.2017.1b16

• Hunt et al. (UPenn). Cutting social media to 30 min/day reduces anxiety, depression, loneliness. (summary) https://www.news.iastate.edu/news/cutting-back-social-media-reduces-anxiety-depression-loneliness

• Dalvi-Esfahani et al. (2022). Compulsive social media use positively correlated with OCD symptoms. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9407245/

• Garcia & Thibedeau (2018). OCD symptoms increasingly include digital compulsions. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6120640/

• Frontiers Review (2022). Problematic social media use linked to OCD, ADHD, anxiety. https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2022.1106004/full

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🧠 Can grief and OCD completely change your sex drive, intimacy, and connection with your partner?

In this powerful episode of The OCD Whisperer Podcast, Kristina Orlova speaks with Krista Reed, licensed therapist and trauma specialist, about how grief, trauma, cortisol, and the nervous system directly affect sexuality, desire, and emotional intimacy in people with OCD.

❤️This episode explores:

• Why grief and OCD can shut down desire — or make it feel overwhelming

• How cortisol and chronic stress disrupt arousal and connection

• The role of sex, intimacy, and orgasm in nervous system regulation

• Why shame around desire is so common in OCD

• How trauma stored in the body blocks emotional and sexual safety

This is one of the most honest conversations we’ve had about OCD, grief, and sex — and how to begin healing at the nervous system level.

📲 About Krista Reed (guest):

• OCD/BDD/BFRB Specialist in KS

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristaruthreed/?hl=en

• Breathe Between Battles: A Daily Reflection Journal: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FSL41QCR?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_SKM3AA2QVVQ5B5MHYS9Q&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_SKM3AA2QVVQ5B5MHYS9Q&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_SKM3AA2QVVQ5B5MHYS9Q&bestFormat=true

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🧠 Can you grieve “correctly” when you have OCD?

In this episode of The OCD Whisperer Podcast, Kristina Orlova speaks with Krista Reed, clinical social worker and specialist in OCD, BFRBs, and Body Dysmorphic Disorder. Together, they explore how grief, loss, and real-life emotional pain interact with OCD — and how deeply the experience can impact identity, relationships, and recovery.

❤️Krista opens up about:

• The childhood loss that first ignited her OCD

• How witnessing traumatic events shaped her fears

• The return of old compulsions — and the arrival of new ones — after recent family deaths

• The struggle of balancing caregiving, parenting, and severe OCD during her father’s hospitalization

Whether you’re navigating OCD yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode offers compassion, insight, and the reminder that there is no right or wrong way to grieve.

📲 About Krista Reed (guest):

• OCD/BDD/BFRB Specialist in KS

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristaruthreed/?hl=en

• Breathe Between Battles: A Daily Reflection Journal: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FSL41QCR?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_SKM3AA2QVVQ5B5MHYS9Q&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_SKM3AA2QVVQ5B5MHYS9Q&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_SKM3AA2QVVQ5B5MHYS9Q&bestFormat=true

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🧠 *Can self-compassion really help you recover from OCD?*

In this episode of The OCD Whisperer Podcast, Kristina Orlova speaks with Lukasz, known online as Intrusive OCD Memes. Together, they explore how humor, community, and self-awareness play a role in managing OCD, and how sharing personal experiences can help both yourself and others.

Lucas opens up about:

• First symptoms of OCD as a child and struggles with contamination fears

• How intrusive thoughts and mental compulsions impacted his relationships

• His journey toward seeking therapy after years of coping alone

• Using humor and memes as a form of self-therapy and community support

Whether you’re navigating OCD yourself or supporting someone else, this episode offers hope, insight, and tools to show that connection, humor, and community can make a real difference.

📲 About Lukasz Czajkowski (guest):

• IOCDF Advocate with OCD/ROCD

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/intrusiveocdmemes?igsh=dDFyOGl6eXNyNmVz

• YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@intrusiveocdmemes

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🧠 Can self-compassion really help you recover from OCD?

In this episode of The OCD Whisperer Podcast, host Kristina Orlova speaks with Kimberley Quinlan, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, creator of CBT School, and author of The Self-Compassion Workbook for OCD. Together, they explore how learning to treat yourself with kindness can transform your relationship with OCD and emotional suffering.

Kimberley opens up about:

• Why self-compassion is not weakness or self-indulgence

• How criticizing yourself actually increases stress hormones

• What it means to “be a safe place” for your own emotions

• Simple ways to start practicing compassion without triggering compulsions

Whether you’re living with OCD or supporting someone who is, this episode offers real strategies to reduce suffering, calm your nervous system, and heal with compassion.

📲 About Kimberley Quinlan (guest):

• Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/youranxietytoolkit/

• YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@youranxietytoolkit

• CBT school: https://www.cbtschool.com/

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🧠 Do you ever feel like something is wrong — even when nothing happened?

In this episode of The OCD Whisperer Podcast, Kristina Orlova speaks with Heather Brown, LCSW, OCD and trauma specialist. Together, they explore Just Right OCD, magical thinking, somatic anxiety, and how OCD can sometimes feel like trauma.

Heather opens up about:

• Her personal experience living with Just Right OCD

• Sensations-based OCD: when the fear isn’t a thought, but a feeling

• Magical thinking OCD & “what if something bad happens?” spirals

• ERP, ACT, Brainspotting & CPT for trauma-related OCD symptoms

Whether you're navigating OCD yourself or supporting someone, this episode offers powerful insight, tools, and hope for healing and self-trust.

📲 About Heather Brown (guest):

• OCD, anxiety, trauma, & perfectionism therapy

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evoluercounseling/

• Evoluer Counseling: https://www.evoluercounseling.com/

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[00:00] Meet Heather — The Therapist Who Actually Has OCD

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🧠 Could Your Child’s Sudden OCD Be Something Else? Understanding PANS & PANDAS

In this powerful episode of The OCD Whisperer Podcast, Kristina Orlova speaks with Angela Henry, therapist and PANS/PANDAS specialist, and Lindsay Forsyth, a mother and advocate who has navigated this journey with her own child. Together, they shed light on how sudden-onset OCD, tics, and anxiety in children may sometimes point to something deeper — an autoimmune or inflammatory disorder known as PANS or PANDAS.

Angela and Lindsay open up about:

• How PANS/PANDAS can mimic OCD and anxiety — and why it’s often misdiagnosed

• The emotional toll families face when doctors can’t find answers

• How infection-triggered inflammation can alter behavior overnight

• What every parent should know about early warning signs of PANS/PANDAS

Whether you’re a parent, caregiver, or clinician, this episode offers clarity, validation, and practical tools to navigate the confusing intersection of OCD, PANS, and PANDAS.

📲 About Angela Henry (guest):

• Certified EMDR Therapist

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ctr_for_collaborative_healing/

• Webpage: https://angelahenrylcsw.com/

📲 About Lindsey Forsyth (guest):

• Mom of 2 kids with PANS/PANDAS.

• Pandas network: https://pandasnetwork.org/

• PANS PANDAS Advocacy, Community & Support Aspire

• Neuro Immune: https://neuroimmune.org/

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[00:00] Welcome — Meet Lindsay, Angela, and Kristina

[01:05] PANS & PANDAS Revealed — How Your Child’s Brain Can Turn Against Them Overnight

[01:50] The Infection Trigger — Strep, Viruses, and Environmental Factors That Can Hijack a Child’s Mind

[02:57] Recognizing Abrupt Neuropsychiatric Symptoms in Kids

[03:24] PANS vs PANDAS — The Shocking Differences You Need to Know

[03:42] “Something’s Not Right” — How Parents Can Spot the Early Warning Signs

[05:05] Lindsey’s Story — From Meltdowns to Mystery Illness

[07:48] The Specialists Who Saved Our Child

[09:12] Lifelines for Parents

[10:02] Why Your Child Can Suddenly Regress Without Warning

[10:45] Tracking the Chaos — Growth Charts, OCD Scores, and Why Labs Don’t Always Show the Truth

[11:06] The Hidden Diagnosis — Blood Work Says “Normal” but Your Child Isn’t

[12:27] Advocacy 101 — How to Get Answers When Doctors Don’t Have Them

[14:13] How to Make Sure Your Pediatrician Takes You Seriously

[15:53] Therapy That Helps — How to Support Children

[17:54] Not Just Bad Behavior — Why Your Child Isn’t Misbehaving

[20:09] Supporting the Whole Family

[22:00] Covert OCD Revealed — When Your Child’s Obsessions Don’t Look Like OCD

[23:47] Why ERP Can Backfire During a Flare

[25:12] Pediatric OCD Exposed — Obsessions, Separation Anxiety, and the Hidden Signs

[27:44] Heavy-Hitter Symptoms — Emotional Outbursts, Bedwetting, ADHD...

[29:03] Are Some Kids Genetically Predisposed?

[30:26] Could Family History Play a Role?

[31:17] Step-by-Step Guidance — Therapy

[32:24] Get Help Now —How to Contact Lindsay and Access Real-World Resources

[33:32] Therapist Support & Networks — Angela’s Consultation Groups for Families and Professionals

[35:09] Closing Words — Hope, Awareness, and Why You’re Not Alone

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