THIS IS PART 2 (go back to EP#122 if you haven't already listened to it).

Liv, Josh and Char are a throuple that all live together in partnership with their kids in Texas.

What I find so fun about this trio is their relatablity. They're just like you and me.

Business folks, parents, people you'd see in the grocery store.

And their mission in the world is to educate what being in a throuple is like, legalize relationships of "more than two", and bring community to those of us in open relationships.

Scott and I are also in a throuple, and today we discuss why we only date unicorns.

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00:00 Intro

03:40 Affects of the Pandemic

The impact of the pandemic on people's self-reflection and the surge of people coming out as polyamorous.

07:24 Dating Unicorns

Reasons and dynamics for preferring to date unicorns in a throuple relationship.

09:00 Threesomes and Relationship Dynamics

Discussion about the dynamics of threesomes and the importance of connection and bisexuality in relationships.

16:25 Changing Relationship Dynamics

The evolving nature of relationship dynamics and the permission to change one's dynamic at any time.

18:50 Support within the Throuple

How the throuple supports each other emotionally and practically, including the different strengths and support styles of each member.

21:56 Support at Home

The throuple's support for each other in business and personal matters.

Liv, Josh and Char are a throuple that all live together in partnership with their kids in Texas.

What I find so fun about this trio is their relatablity. They're just like you and me.

Business folks, parents, people you'd see in the grocery store.

And their mission in the world is to educate what being in a throuple is like, legalize relationships of "more than two", and bring community to those of us in open relationships.

Scott and I are also in a throuple, and today we discuss why we only date unicorns.

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This is part 2 of my conversation with Scott, where we explore how we as a couple deal with someone wanting one of us, and not the other.

Be sure and go back to EP#119 and listen to the first part of this conversation.

00:00 (Introduction to the podcast) Scott and Jennifer introduce the podcast and discuss the topic of the episode.

01:05 (Emotional Position and Jealousy) Scott expresses discomfort with Jennifer having sex with another man, acknowledging jealousy and emotional constructs in relationships.

02:55 (Scott's Motivations for Pursuing Others) Scott discusses his enjoyment of being desired by others and the importance of mutual attraction and excitement in shared relationships.

05:27 (Navigating Jealousy) Scott decides not to pursue a separate relationship due to Jennifer's jealousy, prioritizing their relationship and avoiding strain.

09:17 (Desire and Connection with Third Partners) Jennifer emphasizes the importance of genuine desire and connection with bisexual partners, expressing the need for mutual attraction.

11:23 (Shifting Dynamics and Preferences) Jennifer and Scott discuss their evolving preferences in seeking connections with bisexual partners and the enjoyment of mutual involvement.

12:49 (Consideration and Respect in the Relationship) Jennifer expresses gratitude for Scott's consideration and respect in their relationship, emphasizing mutual understanding and appreciation.

15:02 (Impact of Open Relationships on the Couple) Jennifer discusses the impact of open relationships on their connection, emphasizing deeper conversations and increased alignment.

17:07 (Jennifer's Online Coaching) Jennifer introduces her online coaching services, focusing on open relationships, online dating, and conscious uncoupling.

18:15 (Differentiating Their Approach) Scott clarifies their intent to build ongoing connections with partners, distinguishing their approach from casual encounters.

20:24 (Dealing with Couples Privilege) Jennifer and Scott discuss couples privilege, emphasizing the importance of respect and consideration for third partners.

24:04 (Consideration for Third Partners' Lives) Jennifer highlights the consideration and understanding of the lives and obligations of their third partners, beyond interactions with the couple.

25:10 Respecting Boundaries  The speaker discusses the importance of not sacrificing existing relationships for personal gratification.

26:29 Navigating Misunderstandings The speaker shares a scenario where a misunderstanding about a couple's relationship dynamics led to a potential conflict.

27:55 Prioritizing Partners The speaker emphasizes the importance of respecting the primary relationship and not causing strain or damage to it.

28:54 Couples Privilege The speaker expresses support for couples prioritizing their relationship over open sexual experiences.

29:15 Respecting Others  The conversation concludes with an affirmation of respecting and appreciating others' boundaries and relationships.

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Today I'm joined by my partner Scott, as he spill all about why we only date women.

Be sure and listen to EP#120 for part 2 of this conversation!

0:00 Intro

00:03 Why do you do it?

Discussion on the excitement of being desired by others and the impact of mutual excitement on attraction.

02:27 Scott's perspective on their dynamic

Scott explains their approach to dating and the challenges of dating as a couple or separately.

04:41 Challenges of dating as a couple

Discussion on the complexities and challenges of dating as a couple, including experiences with other couples.

11:12 Coaching With Jen topics (Podcast Sponsor)

Jennifer discusses the topics covered in her online coaching, including open relationships, online dating, and conscious uncoupling.

12:34 Exploring their feelings and understanding each other

Scott emphasizes the importance of communication and understanding in shaping their dynamic.

14:38 Reasons for being open

Scott shares his perspective on why they became open, including Jennifer's previous experiences and their exclusive decision.

18:23 Navigating their relationship and exploring sexuality

Jennifer and Scott discuss the challenges and intentions behind their open relationship, including exploring sexuality together.

20:45 The blacklight glow party and creating a sacred relationship

Discussion about wanting to experience different environments and the sincerity in wanting to experience them together.

21:59 Feeling infantilized and hurt

The feeling of being infantilized and hurt in the relationship and the subsequent conversation about it.

23:54 Transitioning to an exclusive relationship

The realization of being exclusive, leaving previous relationships, and the transition into an exclusive relationship.

25:01 Confrontation about dating others

A confrontation about dating others and the realization of boundaries and expectations in the relationship.

25:57 Asserting will and creating guardrails

Discussion about asserting will, embracing each other's wills, and creating guardrails in the relationship.

27:24 Why not men? Creating guardrails in the relationship

Exploring the reasons for only dating women and the creation and maintenance of guardrails in the relationship.

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Meet Dr. Sarah Hill, a psychologist, professor, and author specializing in women's health and sexual psychology.

Today we discuss cougars, dating, and the affect birth control has on women’s brains.

This is PART 2 of a 2 part series. You can find PART 1 (Episode 116) here .

0:00 Intro

01:04 Age Gap Relationships Dr. Sarah Hill's work as a consultant for Cougar Life, an app for age gap relationships.

01:28 Sexual Double Standards The double standards in society regarding men and women's sexual behavior and the labels associated with age gap dating.

06:34 Beauty Transcending Age Beauty and attractiveness transcending age is discussed, challenging the idea that youth equals beauty and emphasizing the empowerment of women in recognizing their own sexiness.

09:40 The fear of becoming irrelevant Societal script that tells women they become irrelevant and invisible as they age and how this narrative needs to be rewritten.

10:31 Realizing self-worth and desirability Women often underestimate their own desirability and how there are plenty of people who would find them attractive and interesting.

13:42 Challenging beauty standards and body acceptance The importance of accepting and appreciating one's own body, challenging societal beauty standards, and finding attraction in different body types.

19:41 The hormonal effects of birth control Affects of hormonal birth control on women's preferences for masculine or feminine partners.

20:50 Hormonal changes and sexual orientation The possibility of hormonal changes affecting women's sexual orientation, particularly in relation to being bisexual or exclusively lesbian.

24:53 Scent and partner choice The role of scent in partner choice, with Dr. Hill explaining that women are more sensitive to scent and how it may influence attraction and genetic compatibility.

36:47 The hormonal IUD and its effects The affects of the hormonal IUD on a woman's body, including the shutting down of the brain-ovary communication pathway and the blunting of hormonal responses.

The impact of going off birth control on attraction Dr. Hill discusses the research findings regarding how going off birth control can affect a woman's attraction to her partner, including increased attraction and sexual desire in some cases.

34:09 The benefits and changes of using an IUD Jen shares her personal experience with using an IUD, including changes in smell, mood swings, and the recommendation from her OB to continue using it until menopause for its potential benefits in preventing uterine cancer.

39:43 The IUD and its effects on women's hormones The effects of the IUD on women's hormones, including the potential side effects experienced by women who are not ovulating.

40:37 Possible explanations for changes in hormonal experiences Possible explanations for the changes in hormonal experiences, including the hormonal transition of perimenopause and the effects of ovulation while using the iud.

46:28 Women's sexuality and fluidity Women's sexuality and the fluidity of sexual attraction, highlighting research that shows women's sexual arousal can be influenced by various types of pornography, regardless of their sexual preferences.

50:04 The benefits of solidifying relationships with sex Women use sex as a tool to build relationships and feel closer to a partner.

51:06 The role of procreation in sexual attraction Sexual attraction is programmed differently in men and women, with women being more flexible.

51:38 Using personalized porn to enhance sexual chemistry Jen creates personalized porn with her partners and how it has intensified our sexual chemistry.

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Jen is spilling her personal experience with "Reclaiming Sex".

00:00 Opening

1:24 Personal Experiences

My personal journey and understanding of the reclaiming process in open relationships.

02:39 Energetic Closure

The concept of needing closure after intimate interactions with others in an open relationship.

03:57 Reclaiming Process

Comparison of the reclaiming process to rituals and the speaker's initiation of this practice.

07:26 Challenges in Threesomes

Challenges and complexities experienced during threesomes, including physical discomfort and emotional dynamics.

09:44 Rebonding through Reclaiming

Jen's reasons for engaging in reclaiming sex and its role in re-establishing intimacy and connection.

13:23 Scott's Perspective

Jen discusses her partner's perspective on reclaiming sex and their individual preferences in open relationships.

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Meet Dr. Sarah Hill, a psychologist, professor, and author specializing in women's health and sexual psychology.

Today we discuss cougars, dating, and the affect birth control has on women’s brains.

This is PART 1 of a 2 part series. Next week you can find PART 2 here on the podcast.

0:00 Intro

01:04 Age Gap Relationships Dr. Sarah Hill's work as a consultant for Cougar Life, an app for age gap relationships.

01:28 Sexual Double Standards The double standards in society regarding men and women's sexual behavior and the labels associated with age gap dating.

06:34 Beauty Transcending Age Beauty and attractiveness transcending age is discussed, challenging the idea that youth equals beauty and emphasizing the empowerment of women in recognizing their own sexiness.

09:40 The fear of becoming irrelevant Societal script that tells women they become irrelevant and invisible as they age and how this narrative needs to be rewritten.

10:31 Realizing self-worth and desirability Women often underestimate their own desirability and how there are plenty of people who would find them attractive and interesting.

13:42 Challenging beauty standards and body acceptance The importance of accepting and appreciating one's own body, challenging societal beauty standards, and finding attraction in different body types.

19:41 The hormonal effects of birth control Affects of hormonal birth control on women's preferences for masculine or feminine partners.

20:50 Hormonal changes and sexual orientation The possibility of hormonal changes affecting women's sexual orientation, particularly in relation to being bisexual or exclusively lesbian.

24:53 Scent and partner choice The role of scent in partner choice, with Dr. Hill explaining that women are more sensitive to scent and how it may influence attraction and genetic compatibility.

36:47 The hormonal IUD and its effects The affects of the hormonal IUD on a woman's body, including the shutting down of the brain-ovary communication pathway and the blunting of hormonal responses.

The impact of going off birth control on attraction Dr. Hill discusses the research findings regarding how going off birth control can affect a woman's attraction to her partner, including increased attraction and sexual desire in some cases.

34:09 The benefits and changes of using an IUD Jen shares her personal experience with using an IUD, including changes in smell, mood swings, and the recommendation from her OB to continue using it until menopause for its potential benefits in preventing uterine cancer.

39:43 The IUD and its effects on women's hormones The effects of the IUD on women's hormones, including the potential side effects experienced by women who are not ovulating.

40:37 Possible explanations for changes in hormonal experiences Possible explanations for the changes in hormonal experiences, including the hormonal transition of perimenopause and the effects of ovulation while using the iud.

46:28 Women's sexuality and fluidity Women's sexuality and the fluidity of sexual attraction, highlighting research that shows women's sexual arousal can be influenced by various types of pornography, regardless of their sexual preferences.

50:04 The benefits of solidifying relationships with sex Women use sex as a tool to build relationships and feel closer to a partner.

51:06 The role of procreation in sexual attraction Sexual attraction is programmed differently in men and women, with women being more flexible.

51:38 Using personalized porn to enhance sexual chemistry Jen creates personalized porn with her partners and how it has intensified our sexual chemistry.

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As we wrap up another year, I want to take a moment to reflect on our journey together and share some exciting plans for the future.

Firstly, I want to express my deepest gratitude to all of you, our listeners. Your support has been instrumental in the growth of this podcast. This year, I've seen an 85% increase in viewers and a whopping 200% increase in followers. I'm thrilled to share that we've made it to the top ten podcasts for over 300 people on Spotify.

A special shoutout to all who left a review for the podcast. Your feedback is invaluable and helps us shape the content we deliver.

This year, we've delved into a variety of topics that have resonated with you. From solo episodes to sex education, BDSM, and anal play, we've covered a lot of ground. I'm glad to see that episodes featuring my partners, Scott and Stephanie, were well-received.

As we look ahead to 2024, I plan to involve Scott and our girlfriends more in our conversations. I'm eager to hear your input on what you'd like to see on the podcast.

The podcast has also helped me establish myself as a sex and relationship coach in the open relationship space. I've thoroughly enjoyed working with clients, helping them navigate the challenges of open relationships. In future episodes, I intend to focus more on coaching and potentially share insights from coaching calls with clients.

Remember, the podcast is also available as a video podcast on Spotify and YouTube. I encourage you to watch and engage with us in this format as well.

Most Listened to Episode:

Ep#97: with Danielle from Openly Committed and I chat about her 13 year open marriage.

Most Shared Episode:

Ep#86 with Charlie McConnell shares how to create Intentional Intimacy with our partners.

My Favorite Scott Episode:

Ep#94: with Jennifer & Scott discuss Men: How to be Amazing at Sex

#1 BDSM Episode:

Ep#83: with Wendy Perkins Shoef and I explore how BDSM can be a helpful tool for individuals with ADHD to redirect their brain, relieve stress, and improve focus. Wendy views pain as a reset that clears her mind from negative thoughts and distractions.

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Today Sex and Relationship coach Daniela Stevens and I discuss how to co-create a sex practice!

Timestamps:

(00:00) Intro

(00:57) Co-Creating a Sex Practice

Daniela explains what a sex practice is and how it can enhance sexual intimacy and connection in relationships.

(03:20) Shifting from Orgasm as the Goal

Daniela discusses the pressure and expectations around orgasm, and how focusing on pleasure instead can lead to a more fulfilling sexual experience.

(08:03) Exploring Pleasure Beyond Penetration

The conversation shifts to the importance of pleasure and intention in sexual experiences, and the potential for exploring different types of orgasms and sensations.

(11:08) The intention of moving towards sexual intimacy

Discussion about creating dedicated time for sexual intimacy, addressing obstacles, and building connection.

(15:18) Creating a naked pleasure practice

Exploration of redefining sex as a naked pleasure practice, removing pressure and focusing on sensitizing oneself and the partner.

(19:49) Co-creating something beautiful with our partners

Conversation about finding ways to co-create intimacy and pleasure with partners, even if it's not penetrative, and the importance of open communication and connection.

(20:53) The sex practice and creating opportunity

This topic discusses the importance of having a sex practice and creating opportunities for sexual intimacy in a relationship.

(22:24) Building trust through non-sexual intimacy

Non-sexual intimacy, such as cuddling, can help build trust and support a more sexual intimate relationship in the future.

(23:06) Cultivating energy and opportunity for sex

The importance of acknowledging and cultivating both the energy and opportunity for sex in a committed, long-term relationship is discussed.

(32:16) The commitment to regular check-ins

Discuss the importance of setting a regular time and place for check-ins to move towards sexual intimacy.

(33:58) Creating intentional time for sexual practice

Emphasize the significance of scheduling dedicated time for sexual practice without distractions.

(36:29) Different offerings and programs

Daniela shares information about their offerings, including a free email course, coaching sessions for individuals and couples, and upcoming guided practices for self and partner sex practices.

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