The Openlove101 Show

Today, John and Jackie discuss red flags to keep in mind when you are looking to meet people in the lifestyle!

From being too direct out the gate to ignoring their boundaries, there are many red flags to look out for when talking to someone.

#113

The other day we did some coaching for a couple who wanted some help with their open relationship.

They had finally found a third person who was interesting and attractive to both of them and they wanted this person to be part of their throuple.

The couple was both excited about it, but as time went on, the woman in the relationship became more encompassed in her fear, which then of course triggered some of her partner's fears (based on past relationships).

So at this point, he wants the third person on board, but she doesn't.

In today's episode, John and Jackie explore the reasons why non-monogamous relationships may fail.

Listen in as they discus the crucial aspects of communication, consideration of partner's feelings, managing expectations, and the significance of respecting boundaries.

They also share personal insights and experiences, emphasizing the importance of open and honest discussions in navigating the challenges of consensually non-monogamous relationships.

#111 Ok so you're interested in this consensual non-monogamy thing, but how do you tell your partner about it? How do you approach the topic and introduce them to CNM without freaking them out?! Watch this video (perhaps together) and discover how!

#110 We had a comment/question from a couple in an open relationship where the wife is having a much easier time finding play partners than the husband, which led him to ask the question:

How do I find more play partners?

Let's jump in and discuss that!

#109 When people think Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM), many of them think about the exciting and juicy non-monogamy part where you get to have sex with multiple partners. Lots of it. A lot of the time.

​But is that true?

​Is that what CNM is all about?

​Let's explore and discuss that today!

#108 We talk about what to do if someone in a couple is having trouble staying hard during a swinger encounter and address common misconceptions about swingers always having perfect sex.

Since staying hard can be challenging for some men, we discuss ways we can take pressure off our male partners and how sex isn't just all about penetration.

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#107 How the heck can I watch my partner with someone else and be ok with it?

This is a very common question for those who are getting into the lifestyle and haven't tried it before. And for some people who do try it, they have negative feelings and wonder how that can dissipate and transform into compersion for their partner.

​We talk about all that and more in this video!

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#106 We talk a lot about the deep emotional side of swinging - jealousy, fear, etc., so today we'd go the opposite direction and talk about the fun and lighter side of swinging and being in an open relationship.

#104 In part 1 of our discussion on boundaries, we talked about the importance and nuances of creating them.

In this part 2, we're going to talk about the transition into re-establishing boundaries.

This is where a month or two and some playdates have gone by and now it's time to look back at what worked and what didn't work, how do we make our box bigger, smaller, or different, and what really to do next now that you've come this far.