The Openlove101 Show

#43 - Bella and Jase from 4OURPLAY are with us to answer your questions on morals, communicating and recognizing interest from other couples, how they use "veto cards", and working through jealousy with your partner. To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit: https://www.openlove101.com

#42 - Bella and Jase, founders of 4ourplay, have been together since they were teenagers and have been deep in the lifestyle since 2016 despite their conservative upbringings. We get to hear all about their open love story and their evolution from shame to sexual freedom. We discuss the effects of sexual repression and how Jase overcame the guilt that came with having sex as a young man. We find out why other young couples are less likely to embrace the lifestyle and what they’re doing to educate people about the holistic benefits of open love. Tune in for Jase and Bella’s unique story of true love and sexual liberation! To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit: https://www.openlove101.com

#41 - Dr. Lauren Brim, sexologist, author, coach, and the founder of the Adult Play Mat, is sharing her thoughts on how comprehensive sex education can create a healthier environment for all of us to live in, why there is stigma around sexually transmitted diseases, and why there doesn’t need to be. We explore the challenges of balancing our need for social connection with the need for individual exploration and freedom, and discuss why it is important for medical practitioners to be educated on sex and pleasure. Today’s topics branch out into how self-pleasure can help women to have better sex with their partners, before we talk about how understanding the three gates of orgasm can lead to an enriched experience. Finally, Dr. Brim shares her thoughts on how learning about sexuality can enrich all your relationships, far beyond the intimate ones, and we land on the revelation that embracing yourself and your authenticity can lead to greater confidence and a sense of freedom in your life. To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit: https://www.openlove101.com

#40 - A lovely question we have today that many curious minds probably want to know as well: "My fiance and I have this attraction for our unicorn/friend and would like to have a threesome with her, but we don't know how to do approach her. Do we ask her directly? Do we tell her we find her attractive and ask if she would like to join us later in the evening? Do we wait until one night where we get a bit tipsy and approach her? Or do I let my fiance make the move? P.S. We've never had a threesome before. Thank you for the advice!" And we've got some other fun stuff in store, such as how to approach swinging when your wife is really picky and the real concern of what you can do to prevent the risk of an unwanted pregnancy. No questions are off-limits, so tune in now! To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit: https://www.openlove101.com

#39 - People often assume that if you’re in an open relationship, you can’t be friends with people in other relationship models. This is simply not true! In this episode, you’ll hear about how our hosts are friends with different people in different relationship models, how their relationship has struck up conversations that they wouldn’t normally have had with certain people, and how this relationship model often allows you to have a different vantage point in a conversation. We discuss the fears we have of letting people know what kind of relationship model we have, the difference between real fears and imagined fears, how people can surprise us, and how people’s judgments and preconceived notions are challenged when they get to know us. For this open conversation on owning your relationship model in friendships with people in different relationship models, tune in today! To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com

#38 - If you have questions about meeting others in the lifestyle, you are not alone. In today’s episode, we discuss some of those many questions about how to go about meeting people. We discuss where to start if you want to meet and attract the more elite, attractive, and fit crowd, how to make connections with people who are more experienced in the lifestyle, and how to break into a clique or get to know people when you move to a new city. Tuning in you’ll hear advice from our years of experience in the lifestyle. You’ll learn about how to meet people with similar qualities, why you should sometimes look beyond the physical, the value of adult social dating sites, and why sometimes you just need to risk rejection and break the ice. Tune in today for a whole lot of helpful tips on putting yourself out there and getting to know others! To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit: https://openlove101.com

#37 - Today we’re discussing all things gratitude. Tuning in you’ll hear about the greeting card that John received from Jackie and how it inspired this episode. You’ll also hear about our gratitude challenge and what we have learned from keeping gratitude journals. We discuss the similarities between compliments and expressions of gratitude and how accepting both these things fills our love banks. Tuning in you’ll hear how our hosts’ approach to gratitude has changed over the years, how Jackie has learned to be grateful for her own qualities, and why you too should do the gratitude challenge before our hosts let us in on the contents of that gratitude card! For all this and more, tune in today! You’ll be grateful you did :) To learn more about open relationships and the swing lifestyle, visit: http://www.openlove101.com

#36 - Men's Health magazine did an interesting poll in one of their articles and we're discussing the results today. Here are some of the fun facts we talk about. 33% of men sexually experimented with something new during the pandemic; one of the main reasons for doing that was due to STRESS. 27% of guys had sex in a new position they've never had before. 25% dabbled in role play for the first time. 9% of men have been on the receiving end of _______ for the first time.... Can't spoil the entire list for you! It continues on and we dive deeper into the minds of men in our discussion today. To learn more about open relationships and the swing lifestyle, visit: http://www.openlove101.com

#35 - We're answering these lifestyle questions today: 1) how do I tell someone they're pushing my boundaries and I'm uncomfortable? 2) how do I tell my family that I've chosen the lifestyle? 3) is it ok to tell my partner that I think someone else is hot? If you want to learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com

#34 - Consent is something we've talked about for a while and something we should continue to talk about as things change over the years. Whether it's at a club, party, or event, even though you're at a sex positive environment, getting consent to play, touch, or even watch is extremely important these days. And it goes for all genders as well! Today we discuss the importance of consent and how it plays into a successful open relationship with your partner and others. And to learn more about the swinger lifestyle and open relationships, just visit https://openlove101.com