The Openlove101 Show

#33 - Ever had one of those things you just started doing for one reason or another and didn't think much of it? And then one day all of a sudden it turns into this incredible "thing" that you don't know what you'd do without it? Maybe it was that day you decided to say hello (or hello back) to someone you thought was attractive and now that person is your partner. Maybe it was that day you saw two lines instead one on the pregnancy test. For us, it's kind of like both of the two combined :) because that's how we feel when we started Openlove101, what we've given birth to (unknowingly), and what we love so much today. So we'd like to tell the quick story of this Openlove101 blog came to be! And to learn more about the swinger lifestyle and open relationships, just visit https://openlove101.com

#32 - I (Jackie Melfi) will be doing a short interview with John Melfi, owner of colette clubs in Dallas, Houston, NOLA, and Austin. Part of how Openlove101 was started was due to being a byproduct of colette, so we'll be exploring some of the history and context of how the clubs and this swinger lifestyle journey started. Maybe there are some parallels with your story and how our lives have crossed paths where we're connecting with you today here. Hope you enjoy watching this as much as I did interviewing! To learn more about open relationships, the lifestyle, and consensual non-monogamy, go to: https://openlove101.com

#31 - Being in the lifestyle, do I have to give blowjobs? It may seem like a peculiar question at first, but there's some background and context to it that will make sense after you hear it, so tune in! And to learn more about open relationships, the lifestyle, and consensual non-monogamy, go to: https://openlove101.com

#30 - I'm sure you've encountered resentment at some point in life and possibly in your relationship as well. One of the unfortunate consequences of holding onto resentment is that it blocks you from moving forward and growing - both in your life and relationship. So what do you do when this resentment animal takes over you? How do you get out of the spiral of negative energy? Let's talk about that today! And to learn more about open relationships, the lifestyle, and consensual non-monogamy, go to: https://openlove101.com

#29 - Society has made us believe that relationships exist in a binary form; a long-term commitment to one person, or no commitment at all. There are people who are well suited to this model, but if you, like us and our guest today, Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, have a high desire for stability and security (which is driven by your serotonin system) as well as a high desire for sexual novelty (which is driven by your dopamine system), you’re not going to thrive in a relationship where you are only permitted to be intimate with one person. A lifelong non-monogamist, adjunct professor of human sexuality, and holder of a PhD in developmental psychology, Zhana is an expert on this topic, in a personal and professional sense, and in this episode she will equip with you with the knowledge and confidence you need to feel unashamed and empowered within your non-monogamous relationships!

#28 - John & Jackie talk with Mike and Jill from https://xperience4u.com/ this amazing couple has been married for 26 years and in a (CNM) consensually non monogamous marriage for the last 11 years. Join us as we delve into how going from monogamy to CNM has strengthened their marriage, how they grew their communication and how they got started in the lifestyle. We’ll discuss expectations, boundaries, communication, single males, lifestyle clubs (https://coletteclubs.com/) and all the tips and tidbits this couple has learned along their journey through CNM.

#27 - You always hear that communication is one of the big keys to a successful relationship. But what does communication look or sound like? Today we're going through some examples and giving you some tips on how to communicate with your partner. And to learn more about open relationships, the lifestyle, and consensual non-monogamy, go to: https://openlove101.com

#26 - The swinging lifestyle often comes with a certain amount of evolution and shame, so we discuss how it has changed and adapted over the years and the differences of expectations on swingers clubs, event hosts, and public facing lifestyle people. We delve into shame and what impact that has on the lifestyle overall and then talk about future predictions on what's to come in this relationship model we have chosen. In this episode, we were guests of the wonderful Wanderlust Swingers Podcast (www.wanderlustswingers.com), so please check out their website to get more Cate & Darrell (the hosts) in your life. And to learn more about open relationships, the lifestyle, and consensual non-monogamy, go to: https://openlove101.com

#25 - From our experience in the lifestyle, we feel that there are 3 stages or types of consensual non monogamous relationships and how your relationship can progress through all three or just comfortably stay within one. Now some questions. Do boundaries or control keep us from moving through each stage? Can we grow in the midst of boundaries? Can we learn to let go of control in our relationship? What happens when we relinquish ownership over our partner? Let's answer them all in today's Podcast! And to learn more about open relationships, the lifestyle, and consensual non-monogamy, go to: https://openlove101.com

#24 - What happens when the fear of losing our partner keeps us from opening up a relationship? It's easy to let the danger of allowing past relationships/history to define your current union. After all, you may have been cheated on, which leads you to believe that EVERY person will cheat. But how can we fight that feeling? How can we create new and positive experiences as a way of growing past our fear? How can we not let those triggers control us and drive fear into your relationship? Not too many people take the time to walk all the way through their fears and challenge them. But what happens when you do and let go of the fear? How can your relationship change and what benefit will you get out of it? To learn more about open relationships, the lifestyle, and consensual non-monogamy, go to: https://openlove101.com