You Are Not Crazy

The Outburst That Isn’t About You: Emotional Storms and BPD Traits


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What do you do when the person you love explodes—and it has nothing to do with you, but you’re the one absorbing the damage?

In today’s episode, I’m talking about a very specific and disorienting experience: the emotional outbursts that often come from people with traits of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). These episodes are not “just” arguments. They’re dysregulated storms—sudden, intense, and often terrifying—that leave you feeling blamed, spun, and emotionally shredded.

I break down what’s actually happening in these moments, why they feel so confusing, and how to begin separating yourself from the chaos. We’ll explore:

  • What BPD-patterned emotional storms really are
  • Why it feels like you’re being punished for something you didn’t do
  • How to recognize these moments as trauma responses, not mutual conflict
  • What helped me stop spiraling when I was stuck in these cycles
  • The difference between compassion and self-sacrifice
  • Why you’re not crazy for being overwhelmed, and why this isn’t your fault

This episode isn’t about diagnosing anyone. It’s about giving language to what survivors are living through—so you can stop blaming yourself, start validating your reality, and begin choosing peace over chaos.

If this resonates, I invite you to check out my full Substack series on Cluster B abuse patterns: https://jessicaknightcoaching.substack.com/

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You Are Not CrazyBy Jessica Knight

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