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By Chantelle NelsonEducation Self-Improvement

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June 2689. You Don't Have to Lose Yourself in Motherhood
I'm recording this episode pregnant with my fourth, sitting with this topic in a particularly personal way. I know what's coming. I've done it before. And I also know — from my own life and from hundreds of women I've worked with — that losing yourself in motherhood doesn't have to be the price of admission. You were not made to disappear into your calling. You were made to come alive in it. This week I'm getting honest about what losing yourself looks like, why it happens, and what it takes to stay rooted in who you are while you raise the people you love.
In this episode:
What losing yourself in motherhood actually looks like
Why this happens (and why it's not your fault)
Why your inner life is not optional in this season
How to stay rooted in who you are while you raise the people you love
HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:
Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. If you're interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!
44 min
June 1988. What Hypervigilance Actually Is — And Why So Many Women Are Living in It
Hypervigilance is a clinical term, but I want to make it human today. Because so many women are living in this state without knowing it has a name — and when you don't have a name for something, you can't address it. You just keep experiencing it and wondering what's wrong with you. This week we're naming it. We're talking about how it develops, what it looks like in everyday life, the spiritual dimension we don't talk about enough, and what real healing actually requires.
In this episode:
What hypervigilance actually looks like in everyday life
Why this is not your personality
The spiritual dimension we don't talk about enough
A three-step framework for real healing
HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:
Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. If you're interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!
33 min
June 1287. The Real Reason You're Exhausted (It's Not What You Think)
There's a difference between regular tiredness and nervous system exhaustion — and most of the women I work with have been treating the wrong one. You can sleep eight hours and wake up depleted. You can take the vacation and still feel hollow. Because the exhaustion is coming from somewhere deeper than your schedule. This week we're talking about what happens when your nervous system has been running on high alert for so long it has forgotten how to come out of it — and what your body actually needs in order to rest.
In this episode:
Regular tiredness vs. nervous system exhaustion
Why sleep alone isn't restoring you
Why women in particular are vulnerable to this
What your nervous system actually needs to rest
HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:
Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. If you're interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!
27 min
June 09 BONUS: My Birth Story
In this episode, I wanted to share my birth story — because everyone lovessss a birth story, at least I sure do. I'm sharing her birth story, the season leading up to her arrival, my process around a surprise gender reveal on delivery day, and what I did differently this time to prepare mentally and emotionally for labor and delivery.
In this episode:
- The season leading up to her birth and what it taught me
- How I mentally and emotionally prepared for labor and delivery
- Her actual birth story — what unfolded and what I'm carrying with me
HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:
Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more practical content on showing up to your life. Visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more on my offers and coaching. If you're interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN — head to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!
36 min
June 0586. Why Quick Fixes Fail: The Truth About Lasting Change
Somewhere along the way, we all started believing there's a formula. The right book. The right course. The right affirmation. We do the thing, feel hopeful for a minute, and then life gets hard again and the old patterns come roaring back. And we feel like we failed. This week I'm naming the truth out loud: lasting change takes time. Not weeks. Years. Because your nervous system wasn't shaped in a day, and it can't be rewired in one either. We're talking about why quick fixes fail, what real change actually requires, and what it looks like to stop chasing the formula and start doing the slow, deep work.
In this episode:
Why insight alone never sticks
The whole-ecosystem approach to lasting change
Why we were never meant to heal alone
What real change actually requires
HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:
Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. If you're interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!
32 min
May 2985. Why We Stay Stuck (Even When We Know the Truth)
You know the truth. You know what needs to change. So why can't you change?
If you've ever felt paralyzed even when you could clearly see the pattern you were stuck in — this episode is for you. I'm breaking down the real reasons smart, self-aware women stay stuck, and it has nothing to do with willpower, discipline, or how much you want it.
In this episode you'll discover:
Why knowing the truth isn't enough to create lasting change — and what actually is
How your nervous system does a hidden "cost-benefit analysis" that keeps you in familiar patterns, even painful ones
The concept of "secondary gains" — what you might actually be getting out of staying stuck without even realizing it
Why shame is one of the most powerful forces keeping you in old cycles
What it means to feel truly safe enough to change — and why this work can't happen alone
What actually shifts things (hint: it's not more information or trying harder)
HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:
Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.

If you’re interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!
30 min
May 2284. Creating and Nurturing a Healthy Ecosystem to Thrive
Your life is an ecosystem — and when one part is out of balance, everything else feels it too.
In this episode, I'm sharing one of the most powerful frameworks I use with the women I coach: the idea that your life functions like a living ecosystem. Your body, soul, spirit, and external world are all deeply interconnected — and real, lasting change can only happen when you address the whole system, not just one piece.
In this episode you'll discover:
What your personal ecosystem looks like — and the four key layers that make it up
Why trying to fix just one area while ignoring the others keeps you stuck
Why you literally cannot heal in an environment that doesn't support healing
Practical steps to create safety, alignment, and connection across all areas of your life
What it looks like to build a thriving ecosystem from the inside out
HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:
Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.

If you’re interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!
33 min
May 19BONUS: The Room I Built for Women Like You
In this special bonus episode of The Own It Podcast, I'm opening the door to something I haven't talked about openly on the show yet — Thrive Collective.
There's no framework today. No five-step teaching. Just a real conversation about the thing this community was built to solve: the loneliness of doing the healing work alone.
In this episode:
Why the healing journey can feel so lonely — and why it doesn't have to be
The origin story behind Thrive Collective
What actually happens inside the community — live teaching, Bloom Rooms, real connection
Who Thrive is for (and who it's not for)
Why community isn't a bonus to healing — it's part of how we were designed
Whether you join or not, this one is for you if you've been doing the work alone and quietly longing for a room of women on the same page.
HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:
Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. The doors of Thrive are OPEN — head to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!
25 min
May 15 83. What Are We Healing From? Understanding the Roots
Have you ever felt like your pain "isn't bad enough" to deserve healing? Like because you didn't go through something catastrophic, you don't have a right to struggle?
In this episode, we're tackling that lie head-on. I'm breaking down what we're actually healing from — and it's not just trauma with a capital T. We're healing from the subtle, quiet wounds that shaped how we see ourselves, how we cope, how we relate to others, and how we move through the world.
If you've ever minimized your own pain or wondered if what you experienced "counts," this episode is for you.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- Why you don't need "big" trauma to need healing
- What we're actually healing from: wounds to identity, attachment, and nervous system
- Why minimizing your pain keeps you stuck
- What it means to begin healing from the inside out
HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:
Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.
If you're interested in joining Thrive, the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive. Use the code THRIVETODAY and get your first month completely free!
42 min
May 08 82. Attachment: How Your Past Shows Up in Your Present
Have you ever wondered why certain relationships feel so familiar — even when they're not healthy? Or why you keep bumping into the same emotional walls no matter how much inner work you do? In this episode, we're talking about attachment — how the way you learned to connect in your earliest relationships is still shaping how you show up today, and what it takes to move toward secure, thriving connection.

In this episode, we cover:
• What attachment styles are and where they come from
• How anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment show up in adult life
• Why understanding your attachment style is key to real transformation
• The connection between attachment wounds and emotional patterns
• How healing your attachment story opens the door to truly thriving

Ready to go deeper? THRIVE Collective is a monthly membership for women who are done surviving and ready to truly thrive. Weekly live sessions, a supportive community, and tools that create real change. Use code THRIVETODAY for your first month free at comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive

HOW TO CONNECT:
Instagram: @chantelleenelson
Website: comealivelifecoaching.com
42 min

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