The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit

Hold up, wait a minute! [Insert Salt 'n Pepa rap] DO YOU KNOW ABOUT INTERMITTENT REINFORCEMENT??? It basically explains why we get stuck in relationships with people who treat us like human ball sacks! You guys. It's science. It's real. Lab rats were involved. And we HAVE to address it if we want to find relationships (romantic, platonic, professional—you name it) that actually meet our needs and make us happy. (Pro tip: Are you anxiously attached? Yes? Then you're even MORE likely to stay in relationships that involve intermittent reinforcement.) In this episode, I welcome licensed therapist and yoga teacher turned coach Sarah Snyder to talk to us about healing this deeply ingrained, super painful pattern.

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Turns out there's healthy guilt (like when you realize you need to apologize for something) and unhealthy guilt (like when your parents make you feel like shit for holding them accountable). When guilt is weaponized against us, especially as children, it can turn into shame, and shame can—and WILL—turn into a whole clusterfuck of mental health bummers. In this episode, I welcome psychotherapist Allison Ly to the show to talk us through reclaiming a healthy relationship to guilt.

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Literally how does anyone survive dating—it's truly the worst. And if you're insecurely attached, it's straight up a minefield of triggers waiting to take you down. Then there's the alternative: never dating anyone—also terrible!! In this episode, I welcome somatic psychotherapist and coach Felicia Keller Boyle (@the_bad_therapist) to get into peak dating nightmare: BEING GHOSTED! (dun Dun DUN!) alongside the trauma of being single for like, ever.

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Mmmmm... that cool feeling that you're gonna claw someone's eyes out and smile while doing it. Jealousy sucks. It makes us feel powerless, and insecure, and it brings up all our shit. In this episode, I welcome licensed clinician Andrea Brognano to talk about why jealousy feels so shameful, what lies underneath it, and how we heal.

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We're mixing things up! This week, I welcome the creator and host of the Other Men Need Help podcast, Mark Pagán, onto the show to join me in a conversation about the deep and enduring bummer that is toxic masculinity. We talk about objectification, shame, hyper-independence, the male ego—and get into what's helped us work through the pain points so we're not sitting around traumatized af (and traumatizing others as a result).

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Truly, shocks should be illegal unless they involve large sums of money mysteriously appearing—NO FUCKING THANK YOU to shocking violence, betrayal, death, life transitions—the list goes on. In this episode, I welcome therapist, artist, and soft boi amateur poet Solasta McIntyre to the show to get into how shocks impact our mental health, the way shock and grief work together, and how we move through shocks without shutting down and telling the world to ef off forever.

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TRUST: WTFFFFFF. Like what? You can believe a person is 100% on your team while they just straight up lie to your face?? WHY DOES THIS GET TO BE AN OPTION?? In this episode, I'm joined by licensed professional counselor and CEO of Apple Tree Counseling LLC, Michelle Kauble, to talk about how betrayed trust impacts our mental health, what we do with the heartbreak of broken trust, and how we can work with trust in healthy ways as we let those traumatizing relationships and situations fade our rearviews.

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Turns out perfectionism can look all kinds of ways, including not doing anything because you won't be perfect at it! It's honestly a total mind fuck that keeps you in situations you don't like and exhausted from all the effort. (It will come as no surprise that perfectionists were pretty much always exposed to some kind of trauma early on.) In this episode, I talk with marriage and family therapist Robyn McKenzie about what it looks like, why it happens, and how we fix it (but like, not in a perfectionism way, just in a chill, super-gentle-with-ourselves way).

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It should be easy, right? We just ask ourselves what we want or what we feel, and voila! But for a lot of us, that gauge got effed up somewhere along the way. So, after we've made a decision we regret, after we've become knee-jerk people pleasers, after we were gaslit for years and came to doubt our instincts, after parentification, narcissistic abuse, or other CPTSD-inducing forms of abuse—how do we start to trust ourselves again? How do we make decisions in our own best interest? This week, registered psychotherapist, and founder and clinical director of New Moon Psychotherapy, Emilia Pacholec, joins me to talk about our journey to trusting ourselves again.

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Vulnerability is literally the lifeline between you and all joy, and yet, simultaneously, it's fucking TERRIFYING AND TRAUMATIZING. Wth?? In this episode, Doctor of Clinical Psychology and The Anti-Soulmate Love Coach, Kari Lu Cowell (email: [email protected]), joins me to sort through how we work with vulnerability in ways that feel safe for us, what it looks like to trust *ourselves* with vulnerability, and whether anger is really a secondary emotion that we hide our vulnerabilities under or if it's just another gateway to connection (OR BOTH). ALSO! The book Kari was thinking of is called Eloquent Rage by Brittney Cooper if you wanna check it out.

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