How Did We Get Here? is Mpoomy Ledwaba's best-selling coming-of-age story. Looking back on her upbringing, major milestones and the challenges she’s faced, Mpoomy takes us on her journey of self-discovery. Order your copy here👉: https://a.co/d/08QQzYtq

Sign up for the Wisdom & Wellness Private Membership: https://sales.wisdomwellness.co.za/signup

Unlimited WalkFest Durban is on the way! Join us on 2nd May at Durban’s Ocean’s Mall, grab your ticket here: https://www.howler.co.za/unlimitedwalkfest2026

…

This week, Mpoomy sits down with Themba Tom Ntuli for a heartfelt conversation about raising emotionally healthy boys, showing up fully in marriage, and building a legacy of love and intentional leadership.

From growing up in challenging circumstances, to discovering faith and purpose, to navigating fatherhood and marriage with honesty and courage, Themba shares how vulnerability, mentorship, and intentionality have shaped his journey.

This episode is an invitation to reflect on how we raise the next generation of men, show up as fathers and husbands, and live lives that are rooted in love, faith, and emotional wellness. If you’ve ever wondered how to nurture boys into kind, accountable men, or how to strengthen your marriage while growing personally, this conversation is for you.

Timestamps

3:30 - Ice Breakers

8:30 - Childhood and Early Lessons: How early experiences shaped his understanding of love and fatherhood.

12:50 - Growing Up in a Shack: Lessons from hardship and how it shapes the man he is today.

15:20 - Encounter with Christ: How faith reshaped his vision and future.

17:35 - The Power of Proximity: Why who you surround yourself with matters.

18:05 - Parental Influence: The role of his parents and the transformation through faith.

27:30 - Navigating Absence: Reflecting on not growing up with both parents and overcoming abandonment feelings.

29:40 - Destiny Helpers and University Journey: The support that guided him to varsity.

34:44 - Raising the Boy Child: Intentional parenting and guidance for the next generation.

39:08 - Affirming Emotions: Why boy children need to feel safe and validated.

41:30 - Biggest Challenge for Boys: The key obstacles young men face today.

42:19 - Creating Space: Allowing boys to explore identity and purpose.

47:07 - Jericho Walls Analogy: How past hurt can block growth and openness.

49:10 - Boys in the Digital Era: Concerns about screen time vs. outdoor play.

52:10 - A Moment of Softness: Learning tenderness through raising a girl child.

53:47 - Mentorship Matters: The critical role men play in guiding boys.

57:45 - Marriage and “The Trying Husband”: The story behind the name and lessons in partnership.

1:01:00 - 3 P’s of a Trying Husband: Provide, Protect, Performance.

1:02:29 - Performance and Masculinity.

1:08:00 - Reflection from Mpoomy’s Book.

1:10:18 - Greatest Lesson from Marriage: What his wife and partnership have taught him.

Follow Mpoomy:

Instagram: https://www.tiktok.com/@mpoomyledwaba?lang=en

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mpoomyledwaba?lang=en

Follow Wisdom & Wellness:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wisdomwellness_/

Facebook: Wisdom & Wellness

Website: www.wisdomwellness.co.za

Sign up for Mpoomy’s newsletter: https://sales.wisdomwellness.co.za/sunday-nuggets-opt-in

Listen to Wisdom & Wellness Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop Tuesday!

Spotify

Apple Podcasts

Like, subscribe, and share with someone who needs this conversation.