The PedsDocTalk Podcast: Child Health, Development & Parenting—From a Pediatrician Mom

The Problem Isn’t Just BMI: How Weight Bias Is Harming Kids in the Exam Room


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If you’ve ever felt confused, judged, or overwhelmed by how weight is discussed at your child’s doctor’s visits? Whether your child is in a larger body, a smaller body, or somewhere in between this episode is for anyone who wants to raise healthy kids without harmful messaging.

I’m joined by Dr. Tommy Martin, a physician, educator, and passionate advocate for reframing weight and health conversations with compassion and clarity. Together, we explore why BMI was never meant to guide pediatric care, how weight bias shows up in medical settings, and what parents can do to protect their child’s body confidence without ignoring health.

We dive into:

  • Why BMI was never meant for individual kids and how outdated growth charts still shape care today

  • The lasting harm of weight bias in healthcare, from missed diagnoses to internalized shame as early as age 3

  • How to reframe conversations around health without numbers or labels and practical ways to advocate for your child

    To connect with Dr. Tommy Martin follow him on Instagram @dr.tommymartin, check out all his resources at https://link.me/dr.tommymartin


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    00:00 – Intro: Why weight conversations in pediatrics matter

    02:10 – Meet Dr. Tommy Martin and his backstory
    04:50 – Growing up in a larger body and the roots of weight stigma
    06:45 – Subtle messages kids absorb at the doctor’s office
    09:00 – Hurtful comments from family, peers, and culture
    13:45 – Dr. Mona’s story: Smaller body, different pressure
    15:30 – The impossible standards of body image
    17:00 – Why pediatricians weigh kids and how Dr. Mona reframes it
    18:30 – Dr. Tommy’s patient-first approach to weight discussions
    21:45 – What BMI gets wrong (and how it still shows up)
    25:20 – The harm of casual body comments
    27:00 – Genetics, hormones, and the science of food noise
    30:00 – The stigma and science behind GLP-1 medications
    33:00 – How Dr. Mona talks to families about elevated labs without shame
    40:00 – Why she never sets weight goals for kids
    43:00 – Helping kids fuel for function, not aesthetics
    46:00 – Modeling healthy habits in everyday life
    48:00 – Weight bias in healthcare and missed diagnoses
    50:00 – Long-term harm of labels like “obese” or “underweight”


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