In this episode, Sarah Gormley discusses the quiet pain of self-loathing and finding the courage to face it. Sarah had it all – a thriving corporate career, success, and admiration. But beneath was a quiet, relentless self-loathing she couldn’t shake. In her memoir, The Order of Things, Sarah shares the profound turning point at 40 when she finally asked, is this how it’s going to feel forever? She unpacks why therapy isn’t linear, how grief can deepen gratitude, and the freedom that comes when we stop performing and start genuinely living.

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Key Takeaways:

• Journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance
• Importance of mental health and therapy
• Struggles with self-loathing and emotional challenges
• Impact of grief on personal growth and gratitude
• Relationship dynamics and self-worth
• Caregiving experiences and their emotional complexities
• Navigating grief while supporting others
• The role of compassion in healing
• Tools for managing negative self-talk and thought patterns
• The interplay of environment, genetics, and personal agency in shaping identity

If you enjoyed this conversation with Sarah Gormley, check out these other episodes:

How to Tame Your Inner Critic with Dr. Aziz Gazipura

How to Practice Self Compassion with Dr. Shauna Shapiro

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