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   Number 1: Stop Your Blow-up

   Slowly, slowly... you are making progress! You keep working on turning your marriage around... and it is working! Maybe you think it isn't moving fast enough. Or maybe you have just been holding all of those emotions, fears, and hurts, in... and they start to grow. You can feel it! But you try hard not to let it out. To keep on moving forward. To keep on making connections. Until... Maybe it was something small... Maybe it was yet one more little thing (or even a medium thing... maybe even a big thing!)... And BOOM! You blow up! You use a tone you wish you hadn't. You say things you wish you hadn't. You do things you wish you hadn't. BLOW UP! ... and then it passes. But the damage is done. Your efforts can feel like they have been in vain. So, let's talk about what to do BEFORE the blow-up! It is much easier to stay ahead of the problem than to catch up and rebuild after the problem. Listen to this week's podcast episode below. RELATED RESOURCES Too Late? Making Up For Mistakes And Backslides Responsibility Showing Up Save The Marriage System

   September 02, 2026·20min
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   Number 2: Right Thing vs. Right Way

   Today, I tackle a pretty sensitive subject: the difference between "Doing The Right Thing" and "Doing It Right." Let me be very clear: I believe that working to save your marriage is heroic work. It is pretty counter-cultural in our world of "throw away." We do it with stuff and relationships. I also believe that working on saving a marriage is courageous. It's pretty scary to be in the middle of a crisis, and to CHOOSE to work on the relationship. That is the definition of courage -- feeling fear, and choosing to act, anyway. Sometimes, I watch people who want to do the right thing, but they don't do it the right way. "No Contact Rule," Reverse Psychology, hypnosis, spells. . . you name it, I see people try it. And I watch their efforts fail. Their desire to change things is absolutely there. But the approach is in trouble. It kind of reminds me of deciding to diet, then choosing an ice-cream diet. Probably not going to get the results you want (although it does sound delicious). Starting with the best of intentions is a great beginning point. But it has to be followed with an approach that works. Let's talk about Doing The Right Thing, AND Doing It The Right Way. RELATED RESOURCES No Contact Rule Is Crap So Is Reverse Psychology And Shortcuts Aren't And "Try Anything" Fails But This System Works

   August 12, 2026·19min
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   Number 3: Stop Fishing!

   You may just be on a fishing expedition, and not even realize it! If you are trying to get your spouse to respond, trying to get some feedback from your spouse, you are on a fishing expedition! You probably won't attract what you want. And you may scare away what you most want to attract. Do you think you might be on a "fishing expedition"? Listen in to this week's podcast and see if you are fishing. . . and what to do if you ARE! RELATED RESOURCE: Gary Chapman Interview Save The Marriage System

   August 19, 2026·19min
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   Number 4: Space vs. Connection??

   It is such a common demand from a spouse during a marital crisis: “I need space! You just need to give me space!” Yet here I am, telling you to connect with your spouse, to rebuild the broken connection that led to the crisis. Are they opposites? One listener to the Save The Marriage Podcast was wondering. Which means that others might be wondering the same thing. Here is the problem: When your marriage is in crisis and a spouse asks for space, if you can’t give it, your spouse will demand MORE space. And if that is not given, your spouse will force even MORE space. Each step causes deeper disconnection and a deeper crisis. And yet, you know you need to fix the disconnection in order to heal the crisis. It just seems that connecting and giving space are opposite ends. But that is mainly because of the way you are trying to connect. You can accidentally be crowding, not connecting. Listen in to discover the truth about “space” and how to connect without crowding. (And if you have questions you want answered on the podcast, CLICK HERE TO SEND THEM.) RELATED RESOURCES What is Space? Why is Connection Important? How To Stop Chasing Taking Responsibility Save The Marriage System VIP Program

   July 29, 2026·18min
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   Number 5: Can It Be Saved?? How to know…

   Can you save your marriage?? That is, to be honest, probably the biggest "speed bump" for someone who wants to save their marriage. They wonder if it is even possible to save their marriage. And that fact keeps them from taking action. Or to be more direct, may be what is keeping you from taking action. Many people have said that if I could guarantee that they could save their marriage, they would get started. I have often pointed out that NOT trying pretty much guarantees it can't be saved. But I don't have a crystal ball... or even a Magic 8 Ball that will tell me whether it can/can't be saved. And so, far too often, they don't take action. And their marriage fails. But what if there were a way to get clarity... to get more understanding of what might be involved in saving your marriage? What if there was some GPS that could give you direction on the possibilities and what is involved. Well, there is. And I discuss it on this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast. I've created a new assessment, called The Growth GPS Assessment. You can grab it for just a dollar. GO HERE to take advantage of the offer... and gain clarity. RELATED RESOURCES: Save The Marriage System The Growth GPS Assessment

   August 06, 2025·17min
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