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So, will lockdown end on December 2nd? Will we be able to have a normal Christmas? Is it okay to book a holiday for next year? Do I need to go out and stock the house with all the products that we might need if all the shops run out of everything? Will my job be safe after the furlough ends?…. The list of anxious questions goes on forever. The bottom line is that nothing is certain. We are in the land of uncertainty. My teacher once said to me…

…enlightenment is living with total uncertainty and being totally secure.

Now that is a thought. In reality all of the world alway is and always will be completely uncertain. None of us know what tomorrow will bring. We can not be sure of anything moment to moment. The human mind seeks positive and affirmative things as anchors to create security that in the end is an illusion. Sadly certainty seldom happens and this leads us to feelings of anxiety and in the extreme anxiety disorder. Uncertainty is always a form of anxiety. Anxiety is living an imagined future right now in the present moment. To be anxious is to not live in the present. Anxiety and uncertainty are bed fellows. Even the most focussed and determined of people can never be 100% sure of the outcome of life or their endeavours. Yet, we are not all anxious why is this?

Enjoy the show and take care, it’s The Self Help Podcast!

• Sean has written a blog post to accompany this episode – read it here
• About Joe Biden
• Dealing with Uncertainty 
• 7 ways to cope with uncertainty

Resource of the Week

• Sean linked to a couple of blog posts here and here
• Ed enjoyed this old interview with a much younger Joe Biden

We're all over the web, so feel free to stay in touch:

• Follow Live in the Present on Twitter and Facebook for daily doses of inspiration
• Follow presenter Edward Lamb on Twitter
• Follow therapist Sean Orford on Facebook and Twitter
• Subscribe to our weekly podcast on iTunes

We'd be amazingly grateful if you could leave us a review on iTunes. It will really help us to build our audience. So, if your like what you hear (and would like to hear more great free content) then visit our iTunes page and leave us an honest review (all feedback gratefully received!).

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Our fellow animals can play a big role in our lives, typically via two routes. The first is through the hugely positive impact they can have as pets or companions to us. The other is as food. What's the role of pets in our lives and how do we combine that with a system of food production which can seem so cruel and unnecessary?

Enjoy the show and take care, it’s The Self Help Podcast!

• Sean has written a blog post to accompany this episode – read it here
• Which animal did we domesticate first?
• McDonald's to introduce plant based burgers
• Ed has a horse story from his other podcast this week

We're all over the web, so feel free to stay in touch:

• Follow Live in the Present on Twitter and Facebook for daily doses of inspiration
• Follow presenter Edward Lamb on Twitter
• Follow therapist Sean Orford on Facebook and Twitter
• Subscribe to our weekly podcast on iTunes

We'd be amazingly grateful if you could leave us a review on iTunes. It will really help us to build our audience. So, if your like what you hear (and would like to hear more great free content) then visit our iTunes page and leave us an honest review (all feedback gratefully received!).

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The mayhem continues on Planet Earth but it doesn't have to be bad news. Things could always be worse, right? A dose of positivity from Sean and Ed this week…

Enjoy the show and take care, it’s The Self Help Podcast!

• Sean has written a blog post to accompany this episode – read it here
• Take a look at Forces TV if you want some history mixed with laughs

• Sean linked to our mindfulness toolkit
• Ed demands you watch Life is Beautiful… now!

We're all over the web, so feel free to stay in touch:

• Follow Live in the Present on Twitter and Facebook for daily doses of inspiration
• Follow presenter Edward Lamb on Twitter
• Follow therapist Sean Orford on Facebook and Twitter
• Subscribe to our weekly podcast on iTunes

We'd be amazingly grateful if you could leave us a review on iTunes. It will really help us to build our audience. So, if your like what you hear (and would like to hear more great free content) then visit our iTunes page and leave us an honest review (all feedback gratefully received!).

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During C19, the various restriction and lockdowns I have seen more and more cases of conflict, argument and ruptured or severed relationships. The relationships have been both personal and professions.

It is as though some people are running out of that magic glue that stick families, friends and communities together. For many of us tolerance is in short supply and we feel at the end of our fuse. Let's see if we can begin to overcome that…

Enjoy the show and take care, it’s The Self Help Podcast!

• Sean has written a blog post to accompany this episode – read it here
• William cycled 200 miles in 6 days! Sponsor him if you can. Film here
• How to be more empathetic
• Marcus Rashford knows how to get things done

• Sean reminded people of the importance of step 1 in our book
• Ed linked to this fab NY Times article on empathy

We're all over the web, so feel free to stay in touch:

• Follow Live in the Present on Twitter and Facebook for daily doses of inspiration
• Follow presenter Edward Lamb on Twitter
• Follow therapist Sean Orford on Facebook and Twitter
• Subscribe to our weekly podcast on iTunes

We'd be amazingly grateful if you could leave us a review on iTunes. It will really help us to build our audience. So, if your like what you hear (and would like to hear more great free content) then visit our iTunes page and leave us an honest review (all feedback gratefully received!).

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The one gift that Covid has given us is the opportunity for self reflection. For many of us life is generally so busy that we have little time to think about ourselves or our wellbeing. Those people that get involved in mindfulness learn to take some time to observe themselves and the world around them and are subsequently more likely to be attentive to their own needs as well as the needs of others.

When looking at these colour, or facets of your self, you may find that some are more important to you than others. In fact some may have no importance at all. The magic of being a human being is that we all have all of these colours within us.

Enjoy the show and take care, it’s The Self Help Podcast!

• Sean has written a blog post to accompany this episode – read it here

• Sean linked to his epic blog post
• Ed has recorded a podcast with a local shop owner – have a listen if you can!

We're all over the web, so feel free to stay in touch:

• Follow Live in the Present on Twitter and Facebook for daily doses of inspiration
• Follow presenter Edward Lamb on Twitter
• Follow therapist Sean Orford on Facebook and Twitter
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Things are about to get real in the UK – serious restrictions for many are in place. Add in the colder, darker weather and things could get tough for many. We've just passed World Mental Health Day but Ed and Sean try a different angle here. Time to buck up, take a look in the mirror and get yourself prepared…

Enjoy the show and take care, it’s The Self Help Podcast!

• Sean has written a blog post to accompany this episode – read it here
• World Mental Health Day

• Sean insisted listeners get a diary or calendar going. Map things out!
• Ed found this humorous article on what ‘getting your shit together' really means

We're all over the web, so feel free to stay in touch:

• Follow Live in the Present on Twitter and Facebook for daily doses of inspiration
• Follow presenter Edward Lamb on Twitter
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History is history, right? What's done is done. We can't change it, so move on. BUT (there's always a but, isn't there?)… we do tend to hung up on things, don't we? Whether it be a relationship or a war that killed millions, we struggle to move on. Should we linger and remember or forgive and forget?

Enjoy the show and take care, it’s The Self Help Podcast!

• Sean has written a blog post to accompany this episode – read it here
• How to get over someone you deeply love

• Sean recommended The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
• Ed enjoyed this post on how to move on

We're all over the web, so feel free to stay in touch:

• Follow Live in the Present on Twitter and Facebook for daily doses of inspiration
• Follow presenter Edward Lamb on Twitter
• Follow therapist Sean Orford on Facebook and Twitter
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We all know that being positive and upbeat is important, so why do we sometimes struggle to keep smiling? Sure, there are issues we all face but still, with so much to be grateful for, why do we struggle to stay positive?

Enjoy the show and take care, it’s The Self Help Podcast!

• Sean has written a blog post to accompany this episode – read it here
• Ed's son has completed his 200 mile bike ride! Sponsor him if you can!
• 7 tips to stay positive
• 5 tips to stay positive in negative situations

• Sean linked to an app called ‘Thinking Up' which helps with positive affirmations
• Ed has another podcast! Rethink Now is on YouTube and SoundCloud now

We're all over the web, so feel free to stay in touch:

• Follow Live in the Present on Twitter and Facebook for daily doses of inspiration
• Follow presenter Edward Lamb on Twitter
• Follow therapist Sean Orford on Facebook and Twitter
• Subscribe to our weekly podcast on iTunes

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For many, life is on hold at the moment. The virus has been with us for 6 months and it will be with us for a good while yet. So we now have a choice. We choose to live with the reality before us and enjoy our time with it, or we bury our heads and wish it away, counting down the days until it disappears. A chat about happiness and the choices we can take.

Enjoy the show and take care, it’s The Self Help Podcast!

• Sean has written a blog post to accompany this episode – read it here
• How to enjoy the ride
• More thoughts from Tiny Buddha

• Sean loves Captain Tom
• Ed's son in riding 200 miles in just a couple of weeks! Please sponsor him and help support a fantastic charity

We're all over the web, so feel free to stay in touch:

• Follow Live in the Present on Twitter and Facebook for daily doses of inspiration
• Follow presenter Edward Lamb on Twitter
• Follow therapist Sean Orford on Facebook and Twitter
• Subscribe to our weekly podcast on iTunes

We'd be amazingly grateful if you could leave us a review on iTunes. It will really help us to build our audience. So, if your like what you hear (and would like to hear more great free content) then visit our iTunes page and leave us an honest review (all feedback gratefully received!).

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Who are you? What are you? The job you do? The car you drive? The contents of your bank account? How we define ourselves and how others see us can play a huge role in the direction of our lives but guess what? We are free to refine ourselves at any time… let's talk it out.

Enjoy the show and take care, it’s The Self Help Podcast!

• Sean has written a blog post to accompany this episode – read it here
• Ed is a cyclist on Twitter, no one is interested in anything else 🙁
• Remember this when you're next on Zoom

• Sean found this list of video call tips
• Ed enjoyed this article – ‘The story of self — what do you define yourself by?‘

We're all over the web, so feel free to stay in touch:

• Follow Live in the Present on Twitter and Facebook for daily doses of inspiration
• Follow presenter Edward Lamb on Twitter
• Follow therapist Sean Orford on Facebook and Twitter
• Subscribe to our weekly podcast on iTunes

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