The Strong Stoic Podcast

Before serving in Vietnam, Jim MacKay entered a Franciscan monastery at seventeen. Across those very different paths, his desire to help people remained.

I joined Jim at his home in Cape Breton, Nova Scotia, to talk about brotherhood, fear, rescuing wounded men, responsibility, and what he wishes people understood about those who return from war.

What struck me most was his kindness. I went to hear about his life and left feeling like I’d made a friend.

I encourage you to watch the video version if you can. Jim’s expressions and the quiet moments add something that’s hard to capture in audio alone.

Watch the full conversation:
https://youtu.be/0H8mLsb5AmI

Coming soon: a tour of Jim’s home, including his medals, photographs, and memories, plus a bonus conversation with a Vietnamese woman about Vietnam and Vietnamese culture for paid Substack subscribers.

We like to believe that difficulty inevitably makes us stronger. Sometimes it does. But some chapters simply ask us to survive with whatever pieces of ourselves we can protect.

Through the life of Marcus Aurelius, this episode explores the limits of turning suffering into growth, the difference between acceptance and passivity, and why philosophy can help us carry what we cannot fix.

You don’t have to turn every tragedy into a lesson. You don’t have to be grateful for every scar. Sometimes making it through without losing all of yourself is enough.

Nobody starts as a master.

When we see someone who is strong, skilled, or exceptionally good at what they do, we see the finished product. We don’t see all the years they spent being bad at it.

Recently, after more than six years of podcasting, I found myself spending an hour and a half learning a basic audio-editing skill I probably should have learned years ago. I had no idea what I was doing.

And maybe that’s exactly the point.

If you want to become good at something, you need enough humility to be bad at it first. You need to make mistakes, look foolish, and occasionally admit that you have no idea what you’re doing.

In this episode, I talk about mastery, ego, being a beginner again, and why sometimes we just need to take ourselves a little less seriously.

JP Primeau is a strength coach, former university football player, and Olympic weightlifting coach in Nova Scotia.

But this conversation isn't really about lifting.

It's about what happens when the identity you've spent years building begins to change.

JP and I talk about his transition from football into Olympic weightlifting and eventually coaching, what it feels like to go from being good at something to becoming a beginner again, and the difficult process of accepting that some of our ambitions may not turn out the way we imagined.

That leads us into a question I've been thinking about more and more: when does perseverance become stubbornness?

Stoicism teaches us to work with the obstacles life puts in front of us. But wisdom also requires us to ask whether we're pursuing the right obstacle in the first place. Sometimes continuing is courageous. Sometimes walking away is.

JP offers a useful rule for those decisions: don't make them only on your worst days. Make sure you still feel that way on a good one. 

Later, we turn toward coaching and leadership—why technical knowledge isn't enough, what it means to listen to what someone isn't saying, and why a good coach has to respond to the actual human being standing in front of them rather than blindly following the program. 

Near the end, JP summarizes much of the conversation in five words:

“It's a skill to give a shit.”

A conversation about strength, identity, perseverance, coaching, listening, and learning to genuinely care about the people we're responsible for.

Find JP Primeau:
Instagram: @CoachPrimo
Coaching: Primo Weightlifting Club
Based at KAOS CrossFit in Bayers Lake, Nova Scotia

JP coaches the Primo Weightlifting Club with team training on Thursdays and Saturdays. 

The Strong Stoic: strongstoic.substack.com

Jocko Willink’s philosophy of Extreme Ownership teaches leaders to take responsibility for everything that affects their mission. If something goes wrong, don’t make excuses. Own it and fix it.

It is a powerful leadership doctrine—but is everything that happens truly your fault?

In Episode 433, I examine Extreme Ownership through a Stoic lens. We explore why the philosophy works, how it restores agency, and why ownership builds trust. We also consider where it becomes incomplete by confusing fault, responsibility, influence, and control.

The Stoic correction is not to abandon ownership. It is to become more precise about what we own:

Our judgments. Our choices. Our preparation. Our conduct. Our response.

You may not control the outcome, but you remain responsible for what you do next.

What if you worked hard at something for years and nobody noticed? Would the work still be worth doing?

I've been wrestling with that question lately as I've become more focused on views, analytics, and growing The Strong Stoic.

There's nothing wrong with wanting success, recognition, or influence. The danger begins when being noticed becomes the reason we do the work.

Marcus Aurelius reminds us that doing the good thing is already the reward. And much of what makes a good life happens without applause anyway.

Train. Build. Lead. Keep your promises. Improve your craft. Chase success.

But every once in a while, remove the audience and ask yourself:

Would I still be proud of the person doing the work?

Many of our emotional patterns were formed before we were old enough to understand what was happening.

We learned what love, conflict, trust, danger, and security looked like by watching the people around us. Those early experiences helped build our internal alarm systems—but not every alarm remains properly calibrated.

Anger may tell us that we perceive an injustice. Fear may tell us that we sense danger. Sadness may tell us that something meaningful feels threatened. These emotions deserve our attention, but they do not always deserve our obedience.

In Episode #432 of The Strong Stoic Podcast, Brandon explores the difference between an emotional alarm and the story we attach to it, how childhood patterns continue influencing our adult lives, and why our values—not our immediate reactions—must ultimately determine how we respond.

Your childhood may explain how the alarm was installed. Adulthood makes you responsible for what you do when it rings.

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We have a tendency to postpone happiness.

Once I get the promotion, I’ll be happy. Once I make more money, buy the new car, find the right relationship, or reach the next goal—then I’ll finally be satisfied.

But eventually, you get some of those things. And something strange happens:

You’re still you.

In this Strong Stoic Unscripted, I talk about my own experience of upgrading from a Honda Accord to the truck I wanted—and realizing that changing what was sitting in my driveway didn’t change what was happening inside of me.

There’s nothing wrong with ambition. There’s nothing wrong with wanting more, building something meaningful, making money, or buying the truck.

The problem begins when we ask those things to fix something they were never capable of fixing.

Pursue what you think is worth pursuing. Improve your circumstances. But don’t confuse improving your circumstances with improving yourself.

Because wherever you go, whatever you accomplish, and whatever you eventually get—you’re still bringing yourself with you.

— Brandon

The Strong Stoic explores Stoic philosophy, character, responsibility, and what it means to live a good life in the modern world.

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If you attain something without integrity, the thing you attain will always have power over you.

In The Hobbit, Gollum’s relationship with the Ring begins with murder. Bilbo’s begins with pity and mercy. Both possess the same corrupting object, but it does not shape them in the same way.

In this episode, I use Bilbo and the Ring to explore the Stoic concept of preferred indifferents: money, power, status, health, and possessions. These things may be worth pursuing, but they cannot make us good—and how we acquire them matters far more than whether we acquire them at all.

Every compromise leaves something behind. Eventually, we may discover that we no longer possess the things we wanted. They possess us.

A former Anthropic researcher recently went on CNN and made a startling claim: AI could pose an existential threat to humanity within the next few years.

I’m not an AI researcher, and I’m not here to tell you whether that prediction is right.

What interests me is the much older—and much more human—problem underneath it:

Human beings have a habit of developing power before developing the wisdom necessary to wield it.

We did it with nuclear weapons. We’ve done it with countless technologies throughout history. And now, perhaps, we’re doing it again with artificial intelligence.

In this Stoic reaction, I explore the race for AI power, why intelligence and wisdom are not the same thing, why AI doesn’t need to be “evil” to become dangerous, and a question that increasingly matters for all of us:

At what point does AI assistance become human abdication?

Maybe the greatest danger isn’t that artificial intelligence becomes too intelligent—but that our power develops faster than our wisdom can catch up.

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