The Terri Cole Show

Have you ever wondered whether you're too close with your family of origin?

Does it feel like your life kinda revolves around them?

Or are you guilted and shamed by them for wanting to pursue your own thing?

Then this episode is for you because it's all about family enmeshment: what it is, five signs to identify whether you grew up in this type of family system, the impact it has on us as adults, and how to begin thinking about setting healthy boundaries with your family.

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I am so excited to welcome my new pal, author Najwa Zebian, to the show to talk about her newest book, The Only Constant: A Guide to Embracing Change and Leading an Authentic Life.

We cover so much, from feeling like an outsider to setting boundaries with friends (and social media followers), to navigating change that we didn't choose and how to come into acceptance, and so much more.

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

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Did you grow up with emotionally unavailable parents or caregivers?

Do you identify with having a father or mother wound?

Do you feel unlovable or undeserving of love?

When our emotional needs go unmet in childhood, it often leaves a lasting impression on how worthy we think we are.

Reparenting can help.

In this episode, I'm sharing examples of reparenting, why and how it can help us heal childhood wounds and practical strategies you can use to begin reparenting yourself today.

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I am so excited to welcome my wise pal, Vanessa Cornell, to the show to share her story of breaking down to break through. Vanessa had everything she could have ever dreamed of - a loving husband, five children, abundance and success - and yet, she felt trapped in a crushing and debilitating loneliness. (I'm sure many of you can relate!)

We also talked about how to navigate mom guilt (and why it's really fear in disguise), how high-functioning codependency shows up in motherhood, how we're taught to be in the world and why it causes rage and resentment later on, and so much more.

I hope you enjoy this heartfelt girlfriend jam as much as I did.

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P.S. - Grab Vanessa's free gift at nushu.com/terri

Do you endlessly think about the mistakes you've made?

Do you replay the scene and ruminate over what you could have or should have done differently?

Are you filled with regret, worried you'll make the same mistake again?

If so, you're not alone.

But living in regret is living in the past, which isn't empowering. What is healing and empowering is to work through our regrets and learn from them to make better decisions in the future.

In this episode, I'm sharing a different perspective on regret which may lessen feelings of shame, the four types of regret (from behavioral scientist Daniel Pink), and how to move on from endless rumination.

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I am super excited to welcome my new pal, Jessica Zweig, to the show to talk about her newest book, THE LIGHT WORK: Reclaim Your Feminine Power, Live Your Cosmic Truth, Illuminate the World.

While Jessica is most known for her work as a brand expert and entrepreneur, she is here to talk about her journey into the dark to find the light.

We had such a beautiful, soulful, and nourishing conversation around Jessica's burn out, coming back to ourselves, navigating the shame we often feel around "failure," redefining success, AND how embracing the feminine helps us succeed.

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!

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Are you tired of trying to make things work with your partner, or feel they are not as invested as you are?

Do you feel like you've grown apart in your relationship or feel more like roommates?

Or do you wish you had black-and-white signs telling you to stay or go?

If you feel torn over whether it's time to end your relationship, this episode is for you.

I'm giving you questions to determine if it's time to leave as well as ways to break through confusion to get to the truth of how you feel and what comes next.

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I am so excited to have my new pal, Michelle Demaree, on the show to talk about how she changed her life after getting divorced.

Her story is one of self-actualization, self-love, and perseverance. It illustrates the power of investing in yourself and surrounding yourself with women who will cheer you on and lift you up when times are tough.

Michelle is also the founder and CEO of Miss Diamond Ring, where she offers bespoke concierge service for those looking for the perfect, meaningful ring to honor their love story.

I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did.

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Have you ever immediately disliked someone and wondered why?

Do you have heightened reactions to offhanded comments from strangers?

Do you have a pattern of getting into conflict with specific types of people?

All of these interactions are potential indicators of transference, which is when we have an amplified response to someone in the present because they remind you of something or someone from your past.

Transference is often painful and confusing, which is why I am breaking down what it is (with a personal example) and sharing how you can stop repeating these patterns in your relationships.

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I am so thrilled to have family estrangement expert Dr. Joshua Coleman on the show. I had the pleasure of meeting him on the set of a TV show we were invited to do and on my way there, I listened to his book, Rules of Estrangement, and I think you'll love it.

I invited Dr. Coleman on to talk further about it because cutting contact with parents is something many of you have painfully decided to do, and Dr. Coleman shares his wisdom *and* personal experience with us here.

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/631