Do you struggle with setting boundaries because it feels selfish or wrong to put your preferences or needs first?

Do you inadvertently trample on other people's boundaries? (Hyper-helping, auto-advice giving, etc.)

Or are you a newly identified high-functioning codependent (HFC) wondering why it's especially tough to set boundaries?

Then you're in the right place. In this episode, I am breaking down why it's challenging to set, stick to, and respect other people's boundaries, particularly as HFCs.

This is part one, and in part two (coming next week), we'll cover boundary scripts and the different types of boundaries you might want to consider setting.

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I'm so happy to have my pal Michelle Chalfant on the show to celebrate her new book, The Adult Chair: Get Unstuck, Claim Your Power, and Transform Your Life!

Michelle has been a therapist and life coach for the last 25 years and this book is the culmination of her work and experience with both her clients and herself. The Adult Chair model is an amazing way to cultivate self-knowledge throughout all phases of development and become more authentically you and who you want to be.

We talked about why self-worth needs to be in place to set healthy boundaries, why triggers are a gift and what we can learn from them, how to shift into empowerment and so much more.

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Are you a nice person?

Do you think it's possible to be too nice? Or that wanting to be nice is an excuse some high-functioning codependents hide behind to avoid conflict?

In my personal and professional experience, it is possible to be too nice, and it's not great for your relationships.

In this episode, we'll explore what it means to be nice, what being too nice looks like, why it matters, and how to shift your behavior to authentic niceness.

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I'm so psyched to welcome lawyer, author, and communication expert Jefferson Fisher to the show to talk about his book, The Next Conversation.

Many of you likely know Jefferson from social media, and for good reason- he teaches effective communication in an extremely accessible way. It's why I love his work and invited him to the show.

During our conversation, Jefferson shared the many ways his parents influenced his communication skills and style, the lessons he learned from them, as well as why direct communication is attractive, how to keep calm during tricky conversations, and so much more.

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Recently I held an interactive workshop that went too well not to share with you guys. So for today's episode, I'm uploading a special treat: The full 90-minute workshop recording! In it, I give a rundown on over-functioning archetypes, the costs of high-functioning codependency, and the pillars of boundary mastery– Plus, I answer all your boundary-setting questions. I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I enjoyed being there with all of you!

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I'm so excited to have Dr. Jessica Zucker, author of I HAD A MISCARRIAGE: A Memoir, a Movement, on the show to talk about her new book, NORMALIZE IT: Upending the Silence, Stigma, and Shame That Shape Women's Lives.

We talked about "the cult of shame" that women are indoctrinated into, from getting your period, to having a miscarriage, to going into perimenopause or menopause: all the things we're not 'supposed' to talk about as women!

I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did and are inspired to think about what shame you're holding and how you might acknowledge and honor it.

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I'm so happy to have Amber Salisbury on the show for an inspiring conversation that you might want to listen to with a cup of coffee in hand!

Amber and her husband Andrew founded Purity Coffee in 2016 with the goal of creating healthy coffee you can feel good about drinking, and Amber has also founded Sacred Cups to honor rituals around coffee.

She shares a ritual with us later in the conversation and also how her many varied life experiences brought her here. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did, and as a gift, if you head to puritycoffee.com/terricole and use code "terricole" you get 30% off your first order until May 15, 2025.

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How manipulatable are you?

When someone is using fear, obligation, and guilt (FOG) to control you, do you recognize it, or not?

If not, or you've never heard of FOG, you're in the right place. This episode is all about the FOG technique, commonly used by narcissists and others to manipulate people to do what they want at all costs. I'm breaking down what it is and sharing real-life examples from my therapy practice to help you become less susceptible.

Note: the purpose of this episode is to educate you on how people will try to manipulate you, not to make diagnoses. People using one of these tactics in isolation (like guilt) does not automatically make them narcissists.

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I am so excited to have podcaster, actor, and author Amy Wilson on the show to talk about her newest book, Happy to Help: Adventures of a People Pleaser. I felt seen by Amy's essays and reflections, and I think you will, too.

We talked about so much– Amy's early introduction to putting others first by caring for her younger siblings, why modern productivity advice often just makes us feel bad, Amy's views on perfectionism, saying no and feeling scared, the freedom in saying "it's not for me," and the importance of being present. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!

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Have you ever wondered whether you feel drained because of what you're tolerating in life?

Whether it's a cluttered office space, messy car, side table overflowing with paperwork, or something bigger like a one-sided relationship or ineffective communication with your partner, what you're putting up with could be exhausting you more than you think.

So…what are you consistently putting up with that gets on your nerves or depletes you?

In this episode, we're looking at what we're tolerating in life– because we're not always aware of the things we put up with that make us low-grade aggravated and drained.

I hope you'll leave with more awareness around what you're putting up with and feel inspired to stop settling and make changes for a more fulfilling life.

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